Note to fat people at the gym

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a fat person, I get what you're trying to say. But it can come across a little condescending. Like you'd be patting my head while saying it. Almost like it's this huge production to go to the gym or that Im worried you're judging me, so you totally want to make sure that I know you're not.
If you were out to dinner with a fat friend and they ordered a salad instead of a burger would you say "good job Larla! I'm proud of you for ordering a said!". Probably not.

I once heard a comedian make a joke about how when a skinny person posts a photo of them in a belly shirt people roll their eyes at them being skanky or showing too much skin. When a fat person does it, it's inspriring because they have enough courage to show off a body they are.supposed to be ashamed about. And its SO true

+1. I really get that this discussion was coming from a well-intentioned place, but when I go to the gym, I just want to be another person at the gym. Even if you're doing it with a supportive spirit, it's still putting me in this separate box as different from other gym goers, as someone who doesn't really belong, as an oddity to be studied and speculated about just how much harder is it for me to run a mile than you. When I'm there, I'm doing my thing for myself. If you wouldn't give head pats to everyone there for showing up, please don't give me one just because I'm fat.

Good grief. Where did OP suggest that she'd say this to you? She's thinking, good for you," and you're resentful that she's not thinking the same about everyone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a fat person, I get what you're trying to say. But it can come across a little condescending. Like you'd be patting my head while saying it. Almost like it's this huge production to go to the gym or that Im worried you're judging me, so you totally want to make sure that I know you're not.
If you were out to dinner with a fat friend and they ordered a salad instead of a burger would you say "good job Larla! I'm proud of you for ordering a said!". Probably not.

I once heard a comedian make a joke about how when a skinny person posts a photo of them in a belly shirt people roll their eyes at them being skanky or showing too much skin. When a fat person does it, it's inspriring because they have enough courage to show off a body they are.supposed to be ashamed about. And its SO true

+1. I really get that this discussion was coming from a well-intentioned place, but when I go to the gym, I just want to be another person at the gym. Even if you're doing it with a supportive spirit, it's still putting me in this separate box as different from other gym goers, as someone who doesn't really belong, as an oddity to be studied and speculated about just how much harder is it for me to run a mile than you. When I'm there, I'm doing my thing for myself. If you wouldn't give head pats to everyone there for showing up, please don't give me one just because I'm fat.

Good grief. Where did OP suggest that she'd say this to you? She's thinking, good for you," and you're resentful that she's not thinking the same about everyone?

She said it to us. Right. Here.

Jesus Christ.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So we are supposed to not admire the dedication and effort that overweight people are showing when we see them jogging or cycling? Sheesh. I guess we aren’t supposed to notice the good positives we see through the day and only think/feel the crappy side of daily life? Guess I’ll just be happy and proud of you in secret.

You're not supposed to assume we're struggling or outside of our comfort zone or worried about your judgement. I go to the gym 5 times a week, and have since basically high school (where I was a two sport athlete). I'm not nervous or making a positive change or in need of your encouragement. I'm probably more fit than you; I'm just fat.

Jesus Christ, people will think this, and a whole lot worse things.

Do you ever think you'r fat because you have such a shitty attitude about life?

That's a c*nty thing to say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a fat person, I get what you're trying to say. But it can come across a little condescending. Like you'd be patting my head while saying it. Almost like it's this huge production to go to the gym or that Im worried you're judging me, so you totally want to make sure that I know you're not.
If you were out to dinner with a fat friend and they ordered a salad instead of a burger would you say "good job Larla! I'm proud of you for ordering a said!". Probably not.

I once heard a comedian make a joke about how when a skinny person posts a photo of them in a belly shirt people roll their eyes at them being skanky or showing too much skin. When a fat person does it, it's inspriring because they have enough courage to show off a body they are.supposed to be ashamed about. And its SO true

+1. I really get that this discussion was coming from a well-intentioned place, but when I go to the gym, I just want to be another person at the gym. Even if you're doing it with a supportive spirit, it's still putting me in this separate box as different from other gym goers, as someone who doesn't really belong, as an oddity to be studied and speculated about just how much harder is it for me to run a mile than you. When I'm there, I'm doing my thing for myself. If you wouldn't give head pats to everyone there for showing up, please don't give me one just because I'm fat.

Good grief. Where did OP suggest that she'd say this to you? She's thinking, good for you," and you're resentful that she's not thinking the same about everyone?

She said it to us. Right. Here.

Jesus Christ.

Seriously. She titled a thread "Note to fat people" and the responses are "why are fat people taking this so personally??!" when we're not flattered. Gimme a break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I see fat people at the gym, I think, "good for you, keep coming and working hard, don't get discouraged".

TBH, I also think, "If I stop going to the gym, that's my future." I'd never say that to them, obviously, but I do think it.

And yet you thought it was totally cool to say it to people here. It's not somehow less of a dick move because we can't see your face. Not that I think you care about that, all you care is that your face isn't associated with your bitchiness.

I get that it's a little rude, but why is that a bad sentiment?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a fat person, I get what you're trying to say. But it can come across a little condescending. Like you'd be patting my head while saying it. Almost like it's this huge production to go to the gym or that Im worried you're judging me, so you totally want to make sure that I know you're not.
If you were out to dinner with a fat friend and they ordered a salad instead of a burger would you say "good job Larla! I'm proud of you for ordering a said!". Probably not.

I once heard a comedian make a joke about how when a skinny person posts a photo of them in a belly shirt people roll their eyes at them being skanky or showing too much skin. When a fat person does it, it's inspriring because they have enough courage to show off a body they are.supposed to be ashamed about. And its SO true

+1. I really get that this discussion was coming from a well-intentioned place, but when I go to the gym, I just want to be another person at the gym. Even if you're doing it with a supportive spirit, it's still putting me in this separate box as different from other gym goers, as someone who doesn't really belong, as an oddity to be studied and speculated about just how much harder is it for me to run a mile than you. When I'm there, I'm doing my thing for myself. If you wouldn't give head pats to everyone there for showing up, please don't give me one just because I'm fat.

Exactly. OP should just MYOB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So we are supposed to not admire the dedication and effort that overweight people are showing when we see them jogging or cycling? Sheesh. I guess we aren’t supposed to notice the good positives we see through the day and only think/feel the crappy side of daily life? Guess I’ll just be happy and proud of you in secret.

You're not supposed to assume we're struggling or outside of our comfort zone or worried about your judgement. I go to the gym 5 times a week, and have since basically high school (where I was a two sport athlete). I'm not nervous or making a positive change or in need of your encouragement. I'm probably more fit than you; I'm just fat.

Jesus Christ, people will think this, and a whole lot worse things.

Do you ever think you'r fat because you have such a shitty attitude about life?

That's a c*nty thing to say.

You know, you have to be a fantastically miserable person to say things like pp did. Whatever she's spewing out here isn't half as ugly as what she's feeling inside. She deserves pity more than anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a fat person, I get what you're trying to say. But it can come across a little condescending. Like you'd be patting my head while saying it. Almost like it's this huge production to go to the gym or that Im worried you're judging me, so you totally want to make sure that I know you're not.
If you were out to dinner with a fat friend and they ordered a salad instead of a burger would you say "good job Larla! I'm proud of you for ordering a said!". Probably not.

I once heard a comedian make a joke about how when a skinny person posts a photo of them in a belly shirt people roll their eyes at them being skanky or showing too much skin. When a fat person does it, it's inspriring because they have enough courage to show off a body they are.supposed to be ashamed about. And its SO true

+1. I really get that this discussion was coming from a well-intentioned place, but when I go to the gym, I just want to be another person at the gym. Even if you're doing it with a supportive spirit, it's still putting me in this separate box as different from other gym goers, as someone who doesn't really belong, as an oddity to be studied and speculated about just how much harder is it for me to run a mile than you. When I'm there, I'm doing my thing for myself. If you wouldn't give head pats to everyone there for showing up, please don't give me one just because I'm fat.

Good grief. Where did OP suggest that she'd say this to you? She's thinking, good for you," and you're resentful that she's not thinking the same about everyone?

She said it to us. Right. Here.

Jesus Christ.

Posting something here isn't remotely like saying it to someone's face. If you are this thrown for a loop by an anonymous poster on a message board, I would suggest the internet isn't the place for you. Also, medication.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a fat person, I get what you're trying to say. But it can come across a little condescending. Like you'd be patting my head while saying it. Almost like it's this huge production to go to the gym or that Im worried you're judging me, so you totally want to make sure that I know you're not.
If you were out to dinner with a fat friend and they ordered a salad instead of a burger would you say "good job Larla! I'm proud of you for ordering a said!". Probably not.

I once heard a comedian make a joke about how when a skinny person posts a photo of them in a belly shirt people roll their eyes at them being skanky or showing too much skin. When a fat person does it, it's inspriring because they have enough courage to show off a body they are.supposed to be ashamed about. And its SO true

+1. I really get that this discussion was coming from a well-intentioned place, but when I go to the gym, I just want to be another person at the gym. Even if you're doing it with a supportive spirit, it's still putting me in this separate box as different from other gym goers, as someone who doesn't really belong, as an oddity to be studied and speculated about just how much harder is it for me to run a mile than you. When I'm there, I'm doing my thing for myself. If you wouldn't give head pats to everyone there for showing up, please don't give me one just because I'm fat.

Good grief. Where did OP suggest that she'd say this to you? She's thinking, good for you," and you're resentful that she's not thinking the same about everyone?

She said it to us. Right. Here.

Jesus Christ.

Posting something here isn't remotely like saying it to someone's face. If you are this thrown for a loop by an anonymous poster on a message board, I would suggest the internet isn't the place for you. Also, medication.

I'm sorry for whatever's hurting you. Do you want to talk about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So we are supposed to not admire the dedication and effort that overweight people are showing when we see them jogging or cycling? Sheesh. I guess we aren’t supposed to notice the good positives we see through the day and only think/feel the crappy side of daily life? Guess I’ll just be happy and proud of you in secret.

You're not supposed to assume we're struggling or outside of our comfort zone or worried about your judgement. I go to the gym 5 times a week, and have since basically high school (where I was a two sport athlete). I'm not nervous or making a positive change or in need of your encouragement. I'm probably more fit than you; I'm just fat.

Jesus Christ, people will think this, and a whole lot worse things.

Do you ever think you'r fat because you have such a shitty attitude about life?

That's a c*nty thing to say.

You know, you have to be a fantastically miserable person to say things like pp did. Whatever she's spewing out here isn't half as ugly as what she's feeling inside. She deserves pity more than anything.

You're right, that was over the top, my apologies.

By the same token, all of you who recognize that OP is trying to do something nice, and still feel compelled to come here and rip her a new one and tell her what she's supposed to *think* . . . you still feel good about that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So we are supposed to not admire the dedication and effort that overweight people are showing when we see them jogging or cycling? Sheesh. I guess we aren’t supposed to notice the good positives we see through the day and only think/feel the crappy side of daily life? Guess I’ll just be happy and proud of you in secret.

You're not supposed to assume we're struggling or outside of our comfort zone or worried about your judgement. I go to the gym 5 times a week, and have since basically high school (where I was a two sport athlete). I'm not nervous or making a positive change or in need of your encouragement. I'm probably more fit than you; I'm just fat.

Jesus Christ, people will think this, and a whole lot worse things.

Do you ever think you'r fat because you have such a shitty attitude about life?

That's a c*nty thing to say.

You know, you have to be a fantastically miserable person to say things like pp did. Whatever she's spewing out here isn't half as ugly as what she's feeling inside. She deserves pity more than anything.

You're right, that was over the top, my apologies.

By the same token, all of you who recognize that OP is trying to do something nice, and still feel compelled to come here and rip her a new one and tell her what she's supposed to *think* . . . you still feel good about that?

If you ever want to talk about what's really bothering you, we're here to listen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a fat person, I get what you're trying to say. But it can come across a little condescending. Like you'd be patting my head while saying it. Almost like it's this huge production to go to the gym or that Im worried you're judging me, so you totally want to make sure that I know you're not.
If you were out to dinner with a fat friend and they ordered a salad instead of a burger would you say "good job Larla! I'm proud of you for ordering a said!". Probably not.

I once heard a comedian make a joke about how when a skinny person posts a photo of them in a belly shirt people roll their eyes at them being skanky or showing too much skin. When a fat person does it, it's inspriring because they have enough courage to show off a body they are.supposed to be ashamed about. And its SO true

+1. I really get that this discussion was coming from a well-intentioned place, but when I go to the gym, I just want to be another person at the gym. Even if you're doing it with a supportive spirit, it's still putting me in this separate box as different from other gym goers, as someone who doesn't really belong, as an oddity to be studied and speculated about just how much harder is it for me to run a mile than you. When I'm there, I'm doing my thing for myself. If you wouldn't give head pats to everyone there for showing up, please don't give me one just because I'm fat.

Good grief. Where did OP suggest that she'd say this to you? She's thinking, good for you," and you're resentful that she's not thinking the same about everyone?

She said it to us. Right. Here.

Jesus Christ.

Posting something here isn't remotely like saying it to someone's face. If you are this thrown for a loop by an anonymous poster on a message board, I would suggest the internet isn't the place for you. Also, medication.

I'm sorry for whatever's hurting you. Do you want to talk about it?

Yes, thanks - lately I have been extraordinarily aggravated by hypersensitive people with limited intelligence, who snap at people trying to post something nice. I have decided to give them a taste of their own medicine. I know I shouldn't, but yet I still do. And if I'm honest about it, it's kinda entertaining.

[Anonymous]

OP here. The truth behind my post is that I have my own addiction problem. I was at the gym the other and saw a fat person working out. It inspired me to get help for my own problem. If we don't confront our fears, where will we go? So if you see someone stare at you at the gym, they may not be judging you the way you think they are, they may be really impressed that you are there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a fat person, I get what you're trying to say. But it can come across a little condescending. Like you'd be patting my head while saying it. Almost like it's this huge production to go to the gym or that Im worried you're judging me, so you totally want to make sure that I know you're not.
If you were out to dinner with a fat friend and they ordered a salad instead of a burger would you say "good job Larla! I'm proud of you for ordering a said!". Probably not.

I once heard a comedian make a joke about how when a skinny person posts a photo of them in a belly shirt people roll their eyes at them being skanky or showing too much skin. When a fat person does it, it's inspriring because they have enough courage to show off a body they are.supposed to be ashamed about. And its SO true

+1. I really get that this discussion was coming from a well-intentioned place, but when I go to the gym, I just want to be another person at the gym. Even if you're doing it with a supportive spirit, it's still putting me in this separate box as different from other gym goers, as someone who doesn't really belong, as an oddity to be studied and speculated about just how much harder is it for me to run a mile than you. When I'm there, I'm doing my thing for myself. If you wouldn't give head pats to everyone there for showing up, please don't give me one just because I'm fat.

Good grief. Where did OP suggest that she'd say this to you? She's thinking, good for you," and you're resentful that she's not thinking the same about everyone?

She said it to us. Right. Here.

Jesus Christ.

Posting something here isn't remotely like saying it to someone's face. If you are this thrown for a loop by an anonymous poster on a message board, I would suggest the internet isn't the place for you. Also, medication.

I'm sorry for whatever's hurting you. Do you want to talk about it?

Yes, thanks - lately I have been extraordinarily aggravated by hypersensitive people with limited intelligence, who snap at people trying to post something nice. I have decided to give them a taste of their own medicine. I know I shouldn't, but yet I still do. And if I'm honest about it, it's kinda entertaining.

It sounds like it's hard for you to tolerate people's feelings when they're not the same as yours. That must be hard given that we're all so different, with such varied opinions and perspectives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a fat person, I get what you're trying to say. But it can come across a little condescending. Like you'd be patting my head while saying it. Almost like it's this huge production to go to the gym or that Im worried you're judging me, so you totally want to make sure that I know you're not.
If you were out to dinner with a fat friend and they ordered a salad instead of a burger would you say "good job Larla! I'm proud of you for ordering a said!". Probably not.

I once heard a comedian make a joke about how when a skinny person posts a photo of them in a belly shirt people roll their eyes at them being skanky or showing too much skin. When a fat person does it, it's inspriring because they have enough courage to show off a body they are.supposed to be ashamed about. And its SO true

+1. I really get that this discussion was coming from a well-intentioned place, but when I go to the gym, I just want to be another person at the gym. Even if you're doing it with a supportive spirit, it's still putting me in this separate box as different from other gym goers, as someone who doesn't really belong, as an oddity to be studied and speculated about just how much harder is it for me to run a mile than you. When I'm there, I'm doing my thing for myself. If you wouldn't give head pats to everyone there for showing up, please don't give me one just because I'm fat.

Good grief. Where did OP suggest that she'd say this to you? She's thinking, good for you," and you're resentful that she's not thinking the same about everyone?

She said it to us. Right. Here.

Jesus Christ.

Posting something here isn't remotely like saying it to someone's face. If you are this thrown for a loop by an anonymous poster on a message board, I would suggest the internet isn't the place for you. Also, medication.

I'm sorry for whatever's hurting you. Do you want to talk about it?

Yes, thanks - lately I have been extraordinarily aggravated by hypersensitive people with limited intelligence, who snap at people trying to post something nice. I have decided to give them a taste of their own medicine. I know I shouldn't, but yet I still do. And if I'm honest about it, it's kinda entertaining.

“Trying to say something nice”? LOL. I’d hate to hear OP if she wasn’t trying to say something nice.

You’ve both shown your true, ugly feelings. Such miserable people. Sad.