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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a fat person, I get what you're trying to say.  But it can come across a little condescending.  Like you'd be patting my head while saying it.  Almost like it's this huge production to go to the gym or that Im worried you're judging me, so you totally want to make sure that I know you're not.  
If you were out to dinner with a fat friend and they ordered a salad instead of a burger would you say "good job Larla!  I'm proud of you for ordering a said!".  Probably not.

I once heard a comedian make a joke about how when a skinny person posts a photo of them in a belly shirt people roll their eyes at them being skanky or showing too much skin.  When a fat person does it, it's inspriring because they have enough courage to show off a body they are.supposed to be ashamed about.  And its SO true[/quote]

+1. I really get that this discussion was coming from a well-intentioned place, but when I go to the gym, I just want to be another person at the gym. Even if you're doing it with a supportive spirit, it's still putting me in this separate box as different from other gym goers, as someone who doesn't really belong, as an oddity to be studied and speculated about just how much harder is it for me to run a mile than you. When I'm there, I'm doing my thing for myself. If you wouldn't give head pats to everyone there for showing up, please don't give me one just because I'm fat.[/quote]

Good grief.  Where did OP suggest that she'd say this to you?  She's thinking, good for you," and you're resentful that she's not thinking the same about everyone?  [/quote]

She said it to us. Right. Here.

Jesus Christ.[/quote]

Posting something here isn't remotely like saying it to someone's face.  If you are this thrown for a loop by an anonymous poster on a message board, I would suggest the internet isn't the place for you.  Also, medication.  [/quote]

I'm sorry for whatever's hurting you. Do you want to talk about it?[/quote]

Yes, thanks - lately I have been extraordinarily aggravated by hypersensitive people with limited intelligence, who snap at people trying to post something nice.  I have decided to give them a taste of their own medicine.  I know I shouldn't, but yet I still do.  And if I'm honest about it, it's kinda entertaining.  [/quote]

It sounds like it's hard for you to tolerate people's feelings when they're not the same as yours. That must be hard given that we're all so different, with such varied opinions and perspectives.[/quote]

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