DS confided in me that classmate is bulling on him - middle school

[Anonymous]

Look, your kid was punched in the face. You walk into the principal's office tomorrow and file an official bullying report.

The morons talking about his shoes are the parents whos kids end up killing themselves over bullying because they buy right into the "you don't measure up, try harder" trap.

[Anonymous]

Sorry unless I missed something I think you all are feeding a troll. Puched in the face on the first day of school and no one does anything? Not likely but I also never understand why people post fake stuff, very strange, and if this is not a troll post, well then, sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any child K-12 being bullied is being bullied because the teachers and principals are allowing and encouraging it. Teachers and principals know exactly what is happening in their classrooms and schoolyards.

Teachers still have their favorites and they have kids that they flat out do not like!

Through their actions and words they telegraph what students are untouchable and what students are fair game for bullying.. Plenty of teachers literally place targets on certain students backs to punish them for a variety of reasons. They allow/encourage the other students to punish unpopular students in ways that would get them fired if they acted on them themselves. This way they target certain students, punish certain students, all the while maintaining plausible deniability.

It wasn't me, it was the students who bullied the kid.

To stop bullying the only thing that needs to happen is for the teacher to report it to the principal. The principal calls the bullies into their office and tells them "THIS STOPS NOW". If need be the same message is said to the parents as well. Remember popular kids do plenty of bullying and their teachers/principals will allow no retailliation against them. Bullying is all about who has the POWER.

The way teachers target some students should be a CRIMINAL OFFENSE. If a teacher is found guilty of targeting a student for bullying the teacher should be subject to jail time.

The offense would be difficult to prove and convict because the telegraphing of that message is subtle; but not always. Sometimes its spoken in plain language. Bullying is damaging on so many levels and can lead to suicide. There needs to be consequences in place for teachers and principals who fail to intervene and more serious consequences for those who encourage bullying.

Even if obtaining a criminal conviction would be difficult to obtain, having such laws on the books would be a SUPER deterrent to teachers who may use it as a classroom management technique and principals who deliberately turn a blind eye to the practice.

I apologize for cutting pasting it from a different threat, but it was too much to retype.

You've gone round the bend.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm treading lightly here, because I obviously don't know your son, the kid, or the context. But is it possible that the kid doesn't have very good social skills and these little jabs are just his way of trying to reach out and "guy joke" with your DS? Making fun of shoes really depends on words and context - difference between "Your shoes are so ugly that even Ray Charles looks away when you walk by." and "I hate your (expletive) shoes, DS" Also, play fighting can be taken both ways.

I think, at the very least, you need to get more details from your son before you advise him to act in a certain way. Kids are so trained to call out bullies these days, and for good reason! But we may miss the mark sometimes.

No. Just no.

He was punched in the face and he told his mom because it upset him. No one should have to endure taunting or physical assault.

And for the record, if OP’s child had been a girl, it wouldn’t mean the boy liked her. Aggression and assault are aggression and assault. The aggressors and assaulters are the ones lacking social skills, not the people who are on the receiving end asking for it to stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry unless I missed something I think you all are feeding a troll. Puched in the face on the first day of school and no one does anything? Not likely but I also never understand why people post fake stuff, very strange, and if this is not a troll post, well then, sorry.

My kid got punched in the gut in gym class and the teacher most certainly missed it.

[Anonymous]

One possible option is to switch classes.

[Anonymous]

Teachers and Principals Beware!!!

Public awareness of bullying has been increasing for two decades. However, people are now becoming aware that it begins in elementary school and the same victims are often times targeted from the earliest grades until late in high school.

People are now aware that kids are bullied in almost every school in America. There is no possible way that bullying could be so pervasive without teacher participation and principals criminal neglect.

Superintendents began in schools and were promoted through the many school systems. There maybe plausible deniability, but they know that their principals are complicit in these crimes.

The times are changing and when superintendents are held accountable by their school boards and police authorities, those superintendents are going throw you under the first yellow school bus that passes by the Central Administration building.

[Anonymous]

I think the parents who advise hitting the bully back have seen too many tv shows or movies. In the movies, the bullied kid hits his bully and the bully is taken aback and never bullies again. In real life, your kid gets beat up and also disciplined.

I agree to brainstorm ideas with your child, come up with comebacks to the verbal attacks, empower him to report the bullying, and also to contact teacher and principal in confidence and let them know that they will see you every day if need be if this doesn’t get handled. Have your kid’s back immediately.

[Anonymous]

OP here with an update. DS told me this morning that yesterday in PE the kid tried to give him a wedgie while another kid tried to pull his shirt over his head. Breaks my heart.

We emailed the principle and gym teacher and the principle called right away asking how we wanted to handle this - call the kids in or watch the situation and intervene without anyone knowing we complained. We choose the latter and hopefully they will catch the kid doing this to DS or another kid.

Thanks all for your advice!

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the update, OP. Keep us updated!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one has gone around any bend. Perhaps you could clarify your meaning.

If your mean is you are an educator and you are claiming teachers and principals are unaware of bullying you are a liar!

If you mean you are an educator and you are claiming teachers don't have teacher's pets you are a liar!

If you are an educator and you claim some students are not protected and some students are not targeted you are a liar!

If you know some teachers use willing students to punish students and that is not criminal you are seriously and sorely mistaken.

Bullying is destructive and can lead to suicide. Bullying is destructive to the individuals involved and to the cultures of entire institutions.

The act of bullying is criminal and the act of conspiring to bully is criminal. If a teacher telegraphs that it might be a good idea to push, shove, beat, or ostracize a particular student because they need to be taught a lesson that teacher should go to jail

Good job demonstrating that you aren't a complete loon. Keep it up, PP, this is gold.

[Anonymous]

You must be Canadian because per the last time we communicated again your meaning is unclear. These must be Canadian colloquialisms. Yesterday we were on a train going around a bend. I've never been but there but the brochure says its nice.

Now today I'm a loonie which has a gold equivalent. Umm?

At this pace you'll be writing for Neil Young or Justin Bieber by the end of the month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You must be Canadian because per the last time we communicated again your meaning is unclear. These must be Canadian colloquialisms. Yesterday we were on a train going around a bend. I've never been but there but the brochure says its nice.

Now today I'm a loonie which has a gold equivalent. Umm?

At this pace you'll be writing for Neil Young or Justin Bieber by the end of the month.

First - that little button that says "Quote"? Use it.

Second, I think you'll find that you may be the only one who thinks my meaning is unclear. I can't tell if you are serious or not, but if you think "gone round the bend" "loon" and "that's gold" are foreign (if Canadian is foreign) sayings you've led a sheltered life.



Finally, your subsequent posts reveal that you are indeed crazier than a sh!thouse rat. But keep them coming, I have a slow day and this is enormously entertaining.

[Anonymous]

Nah --- now you've gone down profanity road, but again we have here what you might call a case of miscommunication. We have indoor plumbing so for the third time your speech remains mystifying to the common vernacular around these parts.

Secondly you lose because you missed the clues in real time.

Then you closed out with nonsensical and totally unnecessary profanity. Really - really dumb unforced error!

Sorry games over!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update. DS told me this morning that yesterday in PE the kid tried to give him a wedgie while another kid tried to pull his shirt over his head. Breaks my heart.

We emailed the principle and gym teacher and the principle called right away asking how we wanted to handle this - call the kids in or watch the situation and intervene without anyone knowing we complained. We choose the latter and hopefully they will catch the kid doing this to DS or another kid.

Thanks all for your advice!

That's great news. Yes, please keep us updated. It could be our kids in the future.