Would you consider this a red flag?

[Anonymous]

My parents did this after they divorced. Not frequently, but maybe once every couple of years. I love that they are totally cool around each other, no drama. It made things so much easier when big family events forced everyone together, like my wedding or when my kids were born. Mom, Dad, Stepmom, and Stepdad all hung out like one big happy family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not when there's a child in the equation, no. I might even consider it a sign of dedicated loving parents who put their child's well-being ahead of their own. It might even be really a positive sign IMO.

Nah. You can be a dedicated, loving parent, and cultivate a healthy relationship with your ex, while STILL observing good boundaries that don't put new partners in an untenable situation. It's not healthy to set up a situation where the exes are only going to find unhealthy partners (ie partners that will put up with an enmeshed "divorced" pair). You're only going to attract someone with big issues that way, and that's not good for the kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents did this after they divorced. Not frequently, but maybe once every couple of years. I love that they are totally cool around each other, no drama. It made things so much easier when big family events forced everyone together, like my wedding or when my kids were born. Mom, Dad, Stepmom, and Stepdad all hung out like one big happy family.

Did they vacation together once new spouses/serious partners were in the picture?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, yes they have one child together. I understand trying to be civil/mature for your child’s sake, but I do think the family vacations are too much.

Well then you would have really been weirded out by my family. The whole family took vacations together - even with my step mother and my half siblings who were much younger. Mom and step-mom were friends. Made for very little drama which was nice. Not all vacations of course, but once a year. Now if one had been an AF, this would have never worked.