Can you tell if any couple in your social group will divorce?

[Anonymous]

Nope- the “perfect family at our LS got blindsided by a cheating husband who walked out. Such a shock, and so selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Friend is currently going through a divorce. Didn't see it coming, but in retrospect maybe I should have. Her STBX rarely socialized with the rest of the group. He was always nice and pleasant when he did, but they have basically been living two separate lives for almost 5 years. The only thing they seem to do together is take vacations...which is nice, but not sufficient for a marriage.

This sounds like us. Sigh. My husband expects me to host, entertain, socialize with his 1,000 friends, but refuses to really make an effort with mine. My friends would have this perspective. It really is a tough situation.

[Anonymous]

Nope - one friend who seemed to have a fun and happy marriage divorced. Basically they had been faking it so long that they had the happy married couple act perfected. They had lived like roommates for years and gotten comfortable with that dynamic. They are both still fun and happy divorced people!

[Anonymous]

Here are some red flags.

Couples who communicate love messages via Facebook. To my wonderful sexy husband who I adore, he's so perfect, we are still so in love...bla,bla. Divorce city.

Couplse who renew wedding vows.marriage CPR.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
We have a very small circle of good friends, and I know that none will. We are 40s to 50s and have each gone through very difficult challenges, so the marriages are strong, otherwise they would have cracked a long time ago.

Just wait. Lol

That makes you laugh? Moron.

Different poster. But I carried my ex wife through terrible circumstances. She still cheated on me later and we divorced. I laughed too. Divorce can happen to anyone. And guess what? It’s not a big a deal after you start to heal. Terrible when it’s hapening. Terrible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In my group of friends, were early 30s, it seems the wheels have been falling off for some right as the second kid is born...

I sometimes wonder if our marriage would have survived a second kid but it's good now.

Kids are hell on a marriage. The stress and financial demands increase.

[Anonymous]

People who got married too young in their 20's or because of a deadline like turning 30are the most predictable for divorce.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. We've predicted nearly every divorce. It starts when the oldest is in upper elementary school/middle school. And it's contagious. Seriously. A ton of couples split over a two-year period.

All but one was prompted by adultery.

Maybe its a mentality 'They did it so maybe now I can start pretending and do it too?'

I’ve seen this herd mentality for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I are getting divorced after 27 years and people are shocked as they thought we had a great marriage. What we had was a good relationship connected by our children. But once we became empty nesters our relationship became empty. I haven't had an affair nor do I believe my husband has but we both just want more.

I am afraid this will happen to me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who got married too young in their 20's or because of a deadline like turning 30are the most predictable for divorce.

Funny - the couples I know who got married straight out of undergrad are still married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People who got married too young in their 20's or because of a deadline like turning 30are the most predictable for divorce.

Funny - the couples I know who got married straight out of undergrad are still married.

Only the religious couples who married young are still together. They are not necessarily happy tho.

[Anonymous]

Some people will surprise you and are actually happy together, no matter what people outside of their marriage speculate about. They play their cards close to their chests. Others, when they divorce, announce it to suddenly that everyone feels like they have been blindsided because no one guessed. Still others aren't surprising at all, because everyone could see it from the beginning. When I walked out of my first marriage, I shocked everyone, including him. After he finished crying, he immediately went out and got a tattoo that says "Love Hurts". His wife hates it, and the fact that he still has one of my pieces of jewelry, and he guards it with his life. My sons think it's hilarious. My marriage now is different. We enjoy the hell out of each other. Neither of us have any desire to divorce, but damn do we have some awesome fights, great makeup sex, and many, many laughs. We're never bored with each other. I hate boring and predictable?.

[Anonymous]

^ I also hate question marks that insert themselves without permission

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people will surprise you and are actually happy together, no matter what people outside of their marriage speculate about. They play their cards close to their chests. Others, when they divorce, announce it to suddenly that everyone feels like they have been blindsided because no one guessed. Still others aren't surprising at all, because everyone could see it from the beginning. When I walked out of my first marriage, I shocked everyone, including him. After he finished crying, he immediately went out and got a tattoo that says "Love Hurts". His wife hates it, and the fact that he still has one of my pieces of jewelry, and he guards it with his life. My sons think it's hilarious. My marriage now is different. We enjoy the hell out of each other. Neither of us have any desire to divorce, but damn do we have some awesome fights, great makeup sex, and many, many laughs. We're never bored with each other. I hate boring and predictable?.

Are your sons from your first marriage or second?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. We've predicted nearly every divorce. It starts when the oldest is in upper elementary school/middle school. And it's contagious. Seriously. A ton of couples split over a two-year period.

All but one was prompted by adultery.

Maybe its a mentality 'They did it so maybe now I can start pretending and do it too?'

It's seeing a peer take the bold step, landing in a new place, and being envious of their freedom. All of a sudden you have half the week completely free as your ex handles the kids.