What is it about my friend that attracts men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, clearly she's atttactive, and not in the "plain" way you see her, either.

+1

[Anonymous]

Your friend is attractive. That's what attracts men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everything you've said about her indicates that she's low-maintenance and a natural beauty. A lot of men don't want high-maintenance women and someone who isn't all lacquered and highlighted is really refreshing. No doubt a chunk of your "high-earnings" is spent on clothes, hair, and makeup, amiright?

This.

[Anonymous]

She doesn't wear makeup most days. Her job pays around 20-30k per year. I think it may be her personality. She's shy, sweet but very funny

Pretty, sweet, and fun. Wouldn’t sneer at a guy who makes less than a doctor. Sounds horrible.

[Anonymous]

Man are insecure OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man are insecure OP.

Insecure because they would prefer a cute girl-next-door look to high maintenance "hot?" Right. It's all about men thinking they have a chance with her and not you that leads them in that direction. Just keep telling yourself that.

[Anonymous]

Men check me out all the time, I am always dressed in black, the only makeup I wear is a little bit of black eyeliner, and you'll find me at the bar with a shot of whiskey. I'm the one who makes eye contact once across a crowded room and then turn back to my whiskey, he comes over and buys another shot for me, I chat for a few and while his back is turned, I vanish. Maybe your friend knows a few tricks, OP, and you don't notice them. Pay close attention. I could take them home, but I don't want them. It's a game. Some of the sexiest men you could imagine. Wealthy men. I have no interest in them. Women are more fun.

[Anonymous]

If men walk into things staring it means her body is really shaped in the most sexual way. The face alone doesn't cause that kind of reaction. Men are picturing her naked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a high-earning, attractive, fit woman in my late 20s. My friend is in her mid 20s but could pass for early 20s. She's a nanny and she's attractive in a plain way and also very fit/ petite. She has NO trouble getting dates. I don't understand it. She's plain looking. She doesn't wear makeup most days. Her job pays around 20-30k per year. I think it may be her personality. She's shy, sweet but very funny once you get to know her. I catch men checking her out constantly. She doesn't dress flashy. Her last boyfriend looked like an European model. He was beautiful and they were together for a 5 years! She has always been able to attract men I find attractive.

Guy here: said before here, but she is probably really attractive. Many women have zero idea of what men actually find attractive. (“Plain” is a concept that doesn’t really resonate with men, I have no idea what you mean by that.)

My DW, for instance, often describes very unappealing women as “attractive,” including some rather plump and unappealing women, and extremely sexually attractive women as “unattractive.” Here, the simplest possibility is probably the correct one, she’s just good looking in a way that appeals to men that you don’t see.

[Anonymous]

Stop being jelly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a high-earning, attractive, fit woman in my late 20s. My friend is in her mid 20s but could pass for early 20s. She's a nanny and she's attractive in a plain way and also very fit/ petite. She has NO trouble getting dates. I don't understand it. She's plain looking. She doesn't wear makeup most days. Her job pays around 20-30k per year. I think it may be her personality. She's shy, sweet but very funny once you get to know her. I catch men checking her out constantly. She doesn't dress flashy. Her last boyfriend looked like an European model. He was beautiful and they were together for a 5 years! She has always been able to attract men I find attractive.

Guy here: said before here, but she is probably really attractive. Many women have zero idea of what men actually find attractive. (“Plain” is a concept that doesn’t really resonate with men, I have no idea what you mean by that.)

My DW, for instance, often describes very unappealing women as “attractive,” including some rather plump and unappealing women, and extremely sexually attractive women as “unattractive.” Here, the simplest possibility is probably the correct one, she’s just good looking in a way that appeals to men that you don’t see.

Mid-20s, fit: it's hard for her to be not good looking.

[Anonymous]

I always find it odd on these threads when people assert that men in general don't care about a woman's career or earning potential. That is not true IME and runs counter to trends of assortive making. Most of the men I know from boarding school, college, and law school are married to women with post-graduate degrees and professional careers. That said, if men routinely check out OP's friend in the street she's obviously attractive. Physical attraction doesn't depend on an assessment of a person's potential as a long-term mate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always find it odd on these threads when people assert that men in general don't care about a woman's career or earning potential. That is not true IME and runs counter to trends of assortive making. Most of the men I know from boarding school, college, and law school are married to women with post-graduate degrees and professional careers. That said, if men routinely check out OP's friend in the street she's obviously attractive. Physical attraction doesn't depend on an assessment of a person's potential as a long-term mate.

This is simply because they ran around in their social circle with educated women. It’s not because they got hard over a JD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always find it odd on these threads when people assert that men in general don't care about a woman's career or earning potential. That is not true IME and runs counter to trends of assortive making. Most of the men I know from boarding school, college, and law school are married to women with post-graduate degrees and professional careers. That said, if men routinely check out OP's friend in the street she's obviously attractive. Physical attraction doesn't depend on an assessment of a person's potential as a long-term mate.

This is simply because they ran around in their social circle with educated women. It’s not because they got hard over a JD.

Well, yes. But it's unlikely that uneducated women would enter their social circle. I do know people who nannied as a side hustle in college or grad school, but I don't know anyone who did that as a long-term job, nor do I know anyone without a college degree, and I know most of my friends would not view such a person as a potential partner. This has nothing to do with OP's friend specifically since I don't know her situation; it's more of a general observation.

[Anonymous]

She must have a thigh gap.