What is it about my friend that attracts men?

[Anonymous]

OP, this is a pointless pursuit. Regardless of why men find others attractive, you are not and will never be others. Focus on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These threads are so stupid. It's impossible to accurately summarize the preferences of half the population (i.e. men). Most of the men I know are married to successful professionals, and I genuinely can't imagine most of them dating a nanny or similar seriously. Their serious relationships have all been with women they viewed as intellectual peers. On the other hand, lots of men don't care about their partner's professional success or earning potential. People are all over the map.

You’ve assumed someone’s job title implies a lot about their intelligence overall. I wouldn’t bet on that. I know lots of idiots with multiple degrees. It’s quite possible someone works whatever job for a host of reasons that might not be obvious. In any event, men find all sorts of women attractive. But I’m pretty sure job title ranks lower on the list than many other attributes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These threads are so stupid. It's impossible to accurately summarize the preferences of half the population (i.e. men). Most of the men I know are married to successful professionals, and I genuinely can't imagine most of them dating a nanny or similar seriously. Their serious relationships have all been with women they viewed as intellectual peers. On the other hand, lots of men don't care about their partner's professional success or earning potential. People are all over the map.

You’ve assumed someone’s job title implies a lot about their intelligence overall. I wouldn’t bet on that. I know lots of idiots with multiple degrees. It’s quite possible someone works whatever job for a host of reasons that might not be obvious. In any event, men find all sorts of women attractive. But I’m pretty sure job title ranks lower on the list than many other attributes.

Obviously it's not 100% predictive, but all else being equal it's more likely that someone at a bulge bracket IB shop or in Biglaw will be brighter and better educated than someone who is a nanny or other unskilled labor. The former jobs are a lot more selective, for one thing. And some men do care about professional success when choosing a long-term partner. Others don't. My point is that it's ridiculous to try to generalise about what "men" want.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:These threads are so stupid. It's impossible to accurately summarize the preferences of half the population (i.e. men). Most of the men I know are married to successful professionals, and I genuinely can't imagine most of them dating a nanny or similar seriously. Their serious relationships have all been with women they viewed as intellectual peers. On the other hand, lots of men don't care about their partner's professional success or earning potential. People are all over the map.

You’ve assumed someone’s job title implies a lot about their intelligence overall. I wouldn’t bet on that. I know lots of idiots with multiple degrees. It’s quite possible someone works whatever job for a host of reasons that might not be obvious. In any event, men find all sorts of women attractive. But I’m pretty sure job title ranks lower on the list than many other attributes.

Obviously it's not 100% predictive, but all else being equal it's more likely that someone at a bulge bracket IB shop or in Biglaw will be brighter and better educated than someone who is a nanny or other unskilled labor. The former jobs are a lot more selective, for one thing. And some men do care about professional success when choosing a long-term partner. Others don't. My point is that it's ridiculous to try to generalise about what "men" want.

You’re insane. The same accurate generalization has been stated on here multiple times, and some women keep pushing back: “no men really want this ...”. It’s simple, and you’re ignoring it.

[Anonymous]

OP has body odor or bad breath.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:These threads are so stupid. It's impossible to accurately summarize the preferences of half the population (i.e. men). Most of the men I know are married to successful professionals, and I genuinely can't imagine most of them dating a nanny or similar seriously. Their serious relationships have all been with women they viewed as intellectual peers. On the other hand, lots of men don't care about their partner's professional success or earning potential. People are all over the map.

You’ve assumed someone’s job title implies a lot about their intelligence overall. I wouldn’t bet on that. I know lots of idiots with multiple degrees. It’s quite possible someone works whatever job for a host of reasons that might not be obvious. In any event, men find all sorts of women attractive. But I’m pretty sure job title ranks lower on the list than many other attributes.

Obviously it's not 100% predictive, but all else being equal it's more likely that someone at a bulge bracket IB shop or in Biglaw will be brighter and better educated than someone who is a nanny or other unskilled labor. The former jobs are a lot more selective, for one thing. And some men do care about professional success when choosing a long-term partner. Others don't. My point is that it's ridiculous to try to generalise about what "men" want.

You’re insane. The same accurate generalization has been stated on here multiple times, and some women keep pushing back: “no men really want this ...”. It’s simple, and you’re ignoring it.

? Did you read what I wrote? How is it insane to say men want different things and you can't generalize? I know my husband, for example, would not have considered dating someone who worked as a nanny as anything othet than a college or grad school side hustle. He is ambitious and professionally successful and interested in someone who was the same. Most of the men i know under 40 are like this. I don't assume I can extrapolate from my experience to all men, though.

[Anonymous]

He is ambitious and professionally successful and interested in someone who was the same. Most of the men i know under 40 are like this. I don't assume I can extrapolate from my experience to all men, though

Are you the woman that went from boarding school to law school? Because her circle of acquaintances is not representative of the larger world. And the statement made in this thread multiple times is not about 100% of all men. But it is a very very accurate generalization.

[Anonymous]

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He is ambitious and professionally successful and interested in someone who was the same. Most of the men i know under 40 are like this. I don't assume I can extrapolate from my experience to all men, though

Are you the woman that went from boarding school to law school? Because her circle of acquaintances is not representative of the larger world. And the statement made in this thread multiple times is not about 100% of all men. But it is a very very accurate generalization.

I am she. Good call. I know it's not representative of the larger world, obviously, but it's not unrepresentative of the DMV inside the beltway, which is the demographic I assume we're discussing on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

He is ambitious and professionally successful and interested in someone who was the same. Most of the men i know under 40 are like this. I don't assume I can extrapolate from my experience to all men, though

Are you the woman that went from boarding school to law school? Because her circle of acquaintances is not representative of the larger world. And the statement made in this thread multiple times is not about 100% of all men. But it is a very very accurate generalization.

I am she. Good call. I know it's not representative of the larger world, obviously, but it's not unrepresentative of the DMV inside the beltway, which is the demographic I assume we're discussing on DCUM.

Bad assumption, unless the thread is captioned appropriately. We ain’t Big Law. Some of us are blue collar. Most men do not gross the $150K per year that is a magic number on both Match and occasionally on this site.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:These threads are so stupid. It's impossible to accurately summarize the preferences of half the population (i.e. men). Most of the men I know are married to successful professionals, and I genuinely can't imagine most of them dating a nanny or similar seriously. Their serious relationships have all been with women they viewed as intellectual peers. On the other hand, lots of men don't care about their partner's professional success or earning potential. People are all over the map.

You’ve assumed someone’s job title implies a lot about their intelligence overall. I wouldn’t bet on that. I know lots of idiots with multiple degrees. It’s quite possible someone works whatever job for a host of reasons that might not be obvious. In any event, men find all sorts of women attractive. But I’m pretty sure job title ranks lower on the list than many other attributes.

Obviously it's not 100% predictive, but all else being equal it's more likely that someone at a bulge bracket IB shop or in Biglaw will be brighter and better educated than someone who is a nanny or other unskilled labor. The former jobs are a lot more selective, for one thing. And some men do care about professional success when choosing a long-term partner. Others don't. My point is that it's ridiculous to try to generalise about what "men" want.

You’re insane. The same accurate generalization has been stated on here multiple times, and some women keep pushing back: “no men really want this ...”. It’s simple, and you’re ignoring it.

? Did you read what I wrote? How is it insane to say men want different things and you can't generalize? I know my husband, for example, would not have considered dating someone who worked as a nanny as anything othet than a college or grad school side hustle. He is ambitious and professionally successful and interested in someone who was the same. Most of the men i know under 40 are like this. I don't assume I can extrapolate from my experience to all men, though.

And by the same token lawyer guy looks at the future in practical terms and realize he wants a sah spouse once he has children, therefore making cute college educated nannies, admins, vet techs, teachers etc just as appealing as ms biglaw.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny who married an engineer. He didn’t care about my job or earning potential at all. Neither did the attorney I dated before him. Or the carpenter. They cared that I was cute and not a crazy bitch. I only ever wear mascara. I think most women are delusional about what men like. It ain’t your job.

Some men like women who dont challenge them. Hence the term mail order bride, you situation is not enlightening nor new.

Why do you assume pp isn't "challenging"? Sure, she probably isn't a big bitter b*tch like you, but that doesn't mean she doesn't have her own thoughts and opinions.

[Anonymous]

It's truly very simple, OP. If guys are literally walking into things while looking at her, then she is hot and or very beautiful. Ask a guy friend what he thinks. You aren't attracted to women so you don't see it.

Remember on Orange is the New Black it's Alex not Piper that's "the hot one." Most white women would assume the most Gwyneth-looking is the hottest.....not always the case!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny who married an engineer. He didn’t care about my job or earning potential at all. Neither did the attorney I dated before him. Or the carpenter. They cared that I was cute and not a crazy bitch. I only ever wear mascara. I think most women are delusional about what men like. It ain’t your job.

Some men like women who dont challenge them. Hence the term mail order bride, you situation is not enlightening nor new.

Why do you assume pp isn't "challenging"? Sure, she probably isn't a big bitter b*tch like you, but that doesn't mean she doesn't have her own thoughts and opinions.

+1. This "challenging" stuff is crazy. Anyone you live with will be "challenging" enough, you don't need to seek out more power struggles. Do other women consider it a positive to hear a man is "challenging" or "will challenge them"? I don't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:These threads are so stupid. It's impossible to accurately summarize the preferences of half the population (i.e. men). Most of the men I know are married to successful professionals, and I genuinely can't imagine most of them dating a nanny or similar seriously. Their serious relationships have all been with women they viewed as intellectual peers. On the other hand, lots of men don't care about their partner's professional success or earning potential. People are all over the map.

You’ve assumed someone’s job title implies a lot about their intelligence overall. I wouldn’t bet on that. I know lots of idiots with multiple degrees. It’s quite possible someone works whatever job for a host of reasons that might not be obvious. In any event, men find all sorts of women attractive. But I’m pretty sure job title ranks lower on the list than many other attributes.

Obviously it's not 100% predictive, but all else being equal it's more likely that someone at a bulge bracket IB shop or in Biglaw will be brighter and better educated than someone who is a nanny or other unskilled labor. The former jobs are a lot more selective, for one thing. And some men do care about professional success when choosing a long-term partner. Others don't. My point is that it's ridiculous to try to generalise about what "men" want.

You’re insane. The same accurate generalization has been stated on here multiple times, and some women keep pushing back: “no men really want this ...”. It’s simple, and you’re ignoring it.

? Did you read what I wrote? How is it insane to say men want different things and you can't generalize? I know my husband, for example, would not have considered dating someone who worked as a nanny as anything othet than a college or grad school side hustle. He is ambitious and professionally successful and interested in someone who was the same. Most of the men i know under 40 are like this. I don't assume I can extrapolate from my experience to all men, though.

Sure he wouldnt. That is something men say to make women feel their career makes them attractive.

[Anonymous]

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He is ambitious and professionally successful and interested in someone who was the same. Most of the men i know under 40 are like this. I don't assume I can extrapolate from my experience to all men, though

Are you the woman that went from boarding school to law school? Because her circle of acquaintances is not representative of the larger world. And the statement made in this thread multiple times is not about 100% of all men. But it is a very very accurate generalization.

I am she. Good call. I know it's not representative of the larger world, obviously, but it's not unrepresentative of the DMV inside the beltway, which is the demographic I assume we're discussing on DCUM.

Completely unrepresentative, to the point it is not relevant to the discussion.