What is it about my friend that attracts men?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny who married an engineer. He didn’t care about my job or earning potential at all. Neither did the attorney I dated before him. Or the carpenter. They cared that I was cute and not a crazy bitch. I only ever wear mascara. I think most women are delusional about what men like. It ain’t your job.

Some men like women who dont challenge them. Hence the term mail order bride, you situation is not enlightening nor new.

Just because you find her message inconvenient doesn’t mean you need to insult her.

She’s right. We don’t care about your damn job. That’s not about subservience. It means we don’t care about your resume.

But you find fault with women who care about yours. What are your views on alimony?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny who married an engineer. He didn’t care about my job or earning potential at all. Neither did the attorney I dated before him. Or the carpenter. They cared that I was cute and not a crazy bitch. I only ever wear mascara. I think most women are delusional about what men like. It ain’t your job.

Some men like women who dont challenge them. Hence the term mail order bride, you situation is not enlightening nor new.

Just because you find her message inconvenient doesn’t mean you need to insult her.

She’s right. We don’t care about your damn job. That’s not about subservience. It means we don’t care about your resume.

But you find fault with women who care about yours. What are your views on alimony?

What does alimony have to do with dating?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny who married an engineer. He didn’t care about my job or earning potential at all. Neither did the attorney I dated before him. Or the carpenter. They cared that I was cute and not a crazy bitch. I only ever wear mascara. I think most women are delusional about what men like. It ain’t your job.

Some men like women who dont challenge them. Hence the term mail order bride, you situation is not enlightening nor new.

Men want to be respected and women want to be loved. Challenging your man as an attitude means you won't get true love in return. No man wants to be challenged by his woman since the world challenges him enough. Home should be unchallenging and easy.

This is absolutely true for some men - they cannot fall in love if their ego is not cradled and protected at all times.

Shoo.. The spinster queue is over there..

Huh? I was agreeing with PP. These men need to be sheltered, like a baby bird. It is a woman’s duty to provide this shelter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I bet she's coy, OP.

Tried and true: when a semi-attractive woman catches the eye of a man then looks away or down with a semi-smile, and then glances back to meet his eyes again, they know she is interested without her having to say a word. Do you ever see her doing this?

Omg. You mean flirtatious?

NP.. I actually have never done this. I don't know how to flirt. I look away embarrassed at having been caught looking.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes it's hard to tell. Could be something you are missing. Maybe you don't catch her subtle flirting.

I'm not gorgeous, and if dressed to the 9s, people might stare, but I found I was approached more when I wore something casual but form fitting (slender but curvy) and less makeup.
Maybe she has a better than your average girl nextdoor vibe that draws them.

[Anonymous]

We used to joke that one of our college friends must have had crazy pheromones (she joked with us). She was pretty but in an unusual way--dark hair, green eyes, a smattering of freckles, big nose, slightly crooked front teeth--not your classically beautiful, proportioned features at all. She was curvy but not fat--a very womanly fit body but wide hips. A great smile, a twinkle in her eye, confident, funny. And she looked different than the sea of wasps blondarexics at our Ivy League college. Men fell over themselves to date her. Going out with her was an amazing thing to observe. One of our male friends just said that she was "sexy"--not beautiful, but alluring, that whole was greater than the sum of the parts....and I think it is great. glad to know that you don't have to try to be a cookie cutter beauty--she was someone who truly embraced who she was and had huge confidence (not ego) at a young age....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep, she is a nanny. Certain men need to feel superior to their mate. Hence the concept of men marrying down. She needs to be saved. Its not how she looks, certain men will not marry on their level or above.

They do not care about your salary.

--A woman

Ou sweetie. Bless your heart.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny who married an engineer. He didn’t care about my job or earning potential at all. Neither did the attorney I dated before him. Or the carpenter. They cared that I was cute and not a crazy bitch. I only ever wear mascara. I think most women are delusional about what men like. It ain’t your job.

Some men like women who dont challenge them. Hence the term mail order bride, you situation is not enlightening nor new.

Men want to be respected and women want to be loved. Challenging your man as an attitude means you won't get true love in return. No man wants to be challenged by his woman since the world challenges him enough. Home should be unchallenging and easy.

This is absolutely true for some men - they cannot fall in love if their ego is not cradled and protected at all times.

No that is true for women. Think of the all the stuff a man has to do when dating....it’s all to stroke the ego of the woman. Come on every girl wants a big ring to show(up) their girlfriends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny who married an engineer. He didn’t care about my job or earning potential at all. Neither did the attorney I dated before him. Or the carpenter. They cared that I was cute and not a crazy bitch. I only ever wear mascara. I think most women are delusional about what men like. It ain’t your job.

Some men like women who dont challenge them. Hence the term mail order bride, you situation is not enlightening nor new.

Men want to be respected and women want to be loved. Challenging your man as an attitude means you won't get true love in return. No man wants to be challenged by his woman since the world challenges him enough. Home should be unchallenging and easy.

This is absolutely true for some men - they cannot fall in love if their ego is not cradled and protected at all times.

No that is true for women. Think of the all the stuff a man has to do when dating....it’s all to stroke the ego of the woman. Come on every girl wants a big ring to show(up) their girlfriends.

Completely untrue. I'm sure there are many women who do feel that way, but I do not, nor do most of my friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny who married an engineer. He didn’t care about my job or earning potential at all. Neither did the attorney I dated before him. Or the carpenter. They cared that I was cute and not a crazy bitch. I only ever wear mascara. I think most women are delusional about what men like. It ain’t your job.

Some men like women who dont challenge them. Hence the term mail order bride, you situation is not enlightening nor new.

Men want to be respected and women want to be loved. Challenging your man as an attitude means you won't get true love in return. No man wants to be challenged by his woman since the world challenges him enough. Home should be unchallenging and easy.

This is absolutely true for some men - they cannot fall in love if their ego is not cradled and protected at all times.

No that is true for women. Think of the all the stuff a man has to do when dating....it’s all to stroke the ego of the woman. Come on every girl wants a big ring to show(up) their girlfriends.

Completely untrue. I'm sure there are many women who do feel that way, but I do not, nor do most of my friends.

Yah, seriously. Barf.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny who married an engineer. He didn’t care about my job or earning potential at all. Neither did the attorney I dated before him. Or the carpenter. They cared that I was cute and not a crazy bitch. I only ever wear mascara. I think most women are delusional about what men like. It ain’t your job.

Some men like women who dont challenge them. Hence the term mail order bride, you situation is not enlightening nor new.[/quote


Ahhhh, the bitter women chimes in. I bet you are one of these stupid women that thinks "funny and sarcastic" is appealing. She is right most women are absolutely delusional about what men like, hence the large number of women that think "sarcastic" is attractive. Funny how jealous women try to find fault in others. Your "challenge" comment is telling, no most people do not want someone who challenges them, are you dating or training for a fight? No one cares about your stupid career, there is nothing more boring than a moron that talks about their job in social settings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny who married an engineer. He didn’t care about my job or earning potential at all. Neither did the attorney I dated before him. Or the carpenter. They cared that I was cute and not a crazy bitch. I only ever wear mascara. I think most women are delusional about what men like. It ain’t your job.

Some men like women who dont challenge them. Hence the term mail order bride, you situation is not enlightening nor new.[/quote


Ahhhh, the bitter women chimes in. I bet you are one of these stupid women that thinks "funny and sarcastic" is appealing. She is right most women are absolutely delusional about what men like, hence the large number of women that think "sarcastic" is attractive. Funny how jealous women try to find fault in others. Your "challenge" comment is telling, no most people do not want someone who challenges them, are you dating or training for a fight? No one cares about your stupid career, there is nothing more boring than a moron that talks about their job in social settings.

+1. I have a friend that always gets lots of guys. When we are in a group, she’s the one who always gets men buying us drinks. She is funny and sarcastic and has a high powered career -is challenging. If anything, a lot of men find her “too much” and “too busy”, doesn’t make them a priority, once they get to know her better. It isn’t the funny, sarcastic and challenging that is getting us drinks. My friend is very pretty with a great figure, glamorous more than girl next door in her case, and for meeting men that’s what counts most.

[Anonymous]

What attracts men are sexy, nice and not crazy. Men are simple creatures. End of story.

[Anonymous]

All my life, I've noticed this. There are the women that other women consider gorgeous and attractive, but men find them just okay. And then there are the women that other women find just okay, but men find them gorgeous and attractive. Men and women obviously don't have the same taste.

[Anonymous]

These threads are so stupid. It's impossible to accurately summarize the preferences of half the population (i.e. men). Most of the men I know are married to successful professionals, and I genuinely can't imagine most of them dating a nanny or similar seriously. Their serious relationships have all been with women they viewed as intellectual peers. On the other hand, lots of men don't care about their partner's professional success or earning potential. People are all over the map.