What do you think of people who don't have children?

[Anonymous]

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Congrats, hope it was satisfying to announce how non judgemental you are

When I hear people don't have kids, I think it must be harder to have meaning in their lives

When you die, there is nothing left of you in the universe except the memories your friends and (surviving) family have of you

So you'really butthurt because the first PP isn't as narrow minded as you?

Haha I admit I dial up the troll factor a little bit sometimes when posting anonymously but it's true that I feel like unless you make a great contribution to science, literature, art, politics etc to go into history books, for the average person their legacy is their kids and grandkids and great grandkids

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:nothing

Congrats, hope it was satisfying to announce how non judgemental you are

When I hear people don't have kids, I think it must be harder to have meaning in their lives

When you die, there is nothing left of you in the universe except the memories your friends and (surviving) family have of you

Or the projects you created, which may continue to have effects further on than you could predict (VanGogh, DaVinci, Shakepeare, the Gates Foundation, the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation).

Or the effect you had on the lives of your patients, or your students, or the people you transported safely, or ...

There is so much else, PP. Lives have meaning, even if they are not the lives you would have chosen.

[Anonymous]

Gonna get flamed and shamed for this "claptrap," but I think people who don't have children can sometimes judge parents unfairly and don't cut parents any slack. I'm thinking more of younger adults when I say this, and coming from the perspective of a parent in an urban area popular with younger, untethered adults. However, other parents can be just as brutal and judgmental as child-free adults.

I know what it's like to be an adult without kids, but they don't know or can't understand what it's like to have the responsibility of being a parent. Hell, I didn't know even though I thought I understood. And no, having a dog/pet doesn't count.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:nothing

Congrats, hope it was satisfying to announce how non judgemental you are

When I hear people don't have kids, I think it must be harder to have meaning in their lives

When you die, there is nothing left of you in the universe except the memories your friends and (surviving) family have of you

So you'really butthurt because the first PP isn't as narrow minded as you?

Haha I admit I dial up the troll factor a little bit sometimes when posting anonymously but it's true that I feel like unless you make a great contribution to science, literature, art, politics etc to go into history books, for the average person their legacy is their kids and grandkids and great grandkids

I don’t really care about my “legacy; I’ll be dead. And what a narcissistic mindset.

All I care about is that my life was fulfilling to ME.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gonna get flamed and shamed for this "claptrap," but I think people who don't have children can sometimes judge parents unfairly and don't cut parents any slack. I'm thinking more of younger adults when I say this, and coming from the perspective of a parent in an urban area popular with younger, untethered adults. However, other parents can be just as brutal and judgmental as child-free adults.

I know what it's like to be an adult without kids, but they don't know or can't understand what it's like to have the responsibility of being a parent. Hell, I didn't know even though I thought I understood. And no, having a dog/pet doesn't count.

I am childless and the reason I am I because I completely understand the responsibility. For me people with children already heros. No kidding.

[Anonymous]

If they’re cool, that’s cool. If they make much of brats this and I get to sleep in that, I smile sadly and say I’m glad I don’t have to die alone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:nothing

Congrats, hope it was satisfying to announce how non judgemental you are

When I hear people don't have kids, I think it must be harder to have meaning in their lives

When you die, there is nothing left of you in the universe except the memories your friends and (surviving) family have of you

So you'really butthurt because the first PP isn't as narrow minded as you?

Haha I admit I dial up the troll factor a little bit sometimes when posting anonymously but it's true that I feel like unless you make a great contribution to science, literature, art, politics etc to go into history books, for the average person their legacy is their kids and grandkids and great grandkids

Instead of being so concerned about your "legacy", how about trying to be a better person and less of a troll in the here and now?

[Anonymous]

It took my DH and I seven years to have kids. We now have three kids. I pass absolutely no judgement on someone who is Childless because you have no idea why. My best friend is choosing not to have children, and sometimes I think she will miss out and sometimes I’m jealous because she lives a very adventurous life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:nothing

Congrats, hope it was satisfying to announce how non judgemental you are

When I hear people don't have kids, I think it must be harder to have meaning in their lives

When you die, there is nothing left of you in the universe except the memories your friends and (surviving) family have of you

So you'really butthurt because the first PP isn't as narrow minded as you?

Haha I admit I dial up the troll factor a little bit sometimes when posting anonymously but it's true that I feel like unless you make a great contribution to science, literature, art, politics etc to go into history books, for the average person their legacy is their kids and grandkids and great grandkids

You won’t be here. Why does legacy matter?

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I’m a little jealous.

I feel bad saying it because I literally have the best kids ever and the thought of something happening makes me physically ill. But...it’s taken it’s toll and I envy those who just have the time and space to travel, to create, to absorb.

[Anonymous]

I don't care if people don't have children. It isn't anyone else's business. Parenting is difficult enough when you want to do it.

[Anonymous]

I feel like they sleep in late and roll around naked on their large piles of disposable cash.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think anything really. I assume that they are either childless by choice or that they unsuccessfully tried to conceive but unless they bring it up first I don’t assume anything.

[Anonymous]

As someone who has no kids by choice, I'm relieved because it means that we will actually get to hang out. Could be confirmation bias here - but in my experience some of the more interesting people I know have no kids.

That said I like kids, and am glad to get to know other people's kids. But it's definitely harder to make plans with folks with kids since their schedules are more complicated.

As for PP wondering how you have meaning in your life without kids - I'm happy to answer any questions you have about how we find meaning, how we think about what our legacies will be, any of that, if you are actually curious and not just trolling.

[Anonymous]

I sometimes fantasize about how easy-breezy their lives must be....but then I can't imagine my life without my kids.

Other than that thought - there is zero judgement. we have enough of that going around already.