sick of my needy husband and kids
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Anonymous
She wrote upthread she works full time. Some people are just not lazy. |
Anonymous
| Come on OP, tell us about the guy you met on your trip. |
Anonymous
| Would have been livid if I had taken a rare trip and returned to a trashed house especially with Kids old enough to know better! You go girl. |
Anonymous
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I’m on your side, OP. Kids, and a lot of men, just don’t get polite requests and subtle hints. You have to really shock them and stick to your guns. I applaud you. I can’t believe people are actually bashing you—it’s your husband and kids who owe you an apology for the way they’ve acted, not the other way around!
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Anonymous
| I seem to remember another OP a while back who posted that she was doing the same thing, and with kids who are a similar age. Does anyone else remember that? I wonder how it's gone for her? |
Anonymous
I am team OP as well! |
Anonymous
Being a SAHM doesn't mean you're a short order cook or even required to make breakfast. |
Anonymous
Good for you! I have been posting about how women need to stop acting like martyrs and doing everything and that is the only way to change how world sees and treats women. If I could implement a world wide women strike I would love to do it. Here is an article that says moms work not a full time job, but actually two and a half full time jobs! And people act like SAHMs sit on their a**es all day long. Even if half on it is true, that is heck a lot of work! To previous pp, she needs to realize that divorce is not the end of the world. My DH works overseas, and I have less work with him not here. The idea that men help at home is more of a myth than a reality for most families even in the US. Stay on course! https://www.mummypages.co.uk/being-a-mum-is-the-equivalent-of-25-full-time-jobs-according-to-new-research[url] |
Anonymous
| I am previous pp. I wish my MIL implemented what you are doing. Instead FIL is a sexist pig who think all the problems in marriages would go away if wives just shut up and do all the work! My DH was a slob, his sister is a total slob, like literally disgusting, her kids are the same. My FIL is deluded that he had the best marriage(she kept quiet and did all the work!) She died before 50. On the same day she tried to do work for 4 people to please her DH! |
Anonymous
Half way? She is doing what needs to be done. Kids used to work from dawn to dusk in the past, just to make farm/house work. Everybody worked, husband in the fields, with animals, wife and kids too. Waking up before dawn to go to factory or ranch, kids took care of younger kids and cooked and cleaned and worked, grandmas helped with food and kids, wives worked in the veggie garden/farm or factories. Now one person is expected to work full time at a paying job, cook, clean, take care of the kids, look pretty, have a perfect house, attend all PTA, go to every sporting/musical event. Drive kid around to all the activities, oh, yeah and feed them like Wolfgang Pack? Equality is nowhere to be found, except for few lucky women, and the worst thing is women keep the toxic cycle spinning with their "doing it all for the sake of peace in the family." |
Anonymous
I do, and I WOH full time with two toddlers. I prioritize waking up 30 minutes earlier so my family doesn’t eat processed crap for breakfast. Totally team OP though, my kids have the excuse of being toddlers and my DH does the dishes. |
Anonymous
The moment you say that, your marriage is over. |
Anonymous
| Go OP! I've been doing a lot of thinking about what skills I want my kids to have as they grow up (they're 3 and 5 right now) and have already started on that work. It's easy getting them on board since all the tasks seem fun to them. Yesterday they were making a marinade for the chicken for dinner and my 3 year old was peeling cucumbers for our dinner. I tell my kids all the time DH and I aren't their maids. I can only imagine how you felt after years of being treated like that by your kids and your DH. I would have reached my breaking point too! |
Anonymous
How would that be a bad thing for the OP? |
Anonymous
Why wait? OP, get it over with. Why stay with your miserable kids and DH? |