WWYD: Boyfriend said he'd be over soon. That was an hour and a half ago.

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Anonymous wrote:He might have gone to hunt bobcats.

ha ha. Didn’t they end up getting married???

Everyone on DCUM is so supportive of bobcat girl and her relationship, but her now DH isn’t a good guy. She was crazy to go back to him. It seemed to be a toxic relationship. The thread was great, but not the relationship.

Wait, so are they officially married? Was there a follow up post-marriage? I haven’t been on dcum in at least 6 months.

Yes, Bobcat Girl is married. You missed one hell of a wedding. Those bobcat skin bridesmaid dresses were to die for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So did he make it over, OP?

Yes! I was in a funk anyway (as you may have been able to tell), so I cried, did some yoga, and danced. He came in, and I was in a *much* better mood than I'd been when I posted this. We started watching Twin Peaks (the original) and I'm already hooked!

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Anonymous wrote:Bunch of freaks replying here tonight. Is it a full moon?

I'd be worried too if an SO was an hour and a half late without contact. Sure there's probably nothing wrong but crap can happen.

For what? He said he was leaving work, headed home, was going to have dinner, etc...what is there to be worried about? Does he really need to account for every minute before he comes over "soon"?

I mean...maybe you get an email before you log off. So another 10 minutes before you leave. Or you run into your boss/coworker on the way out. Traffic. You missed the train. You got home and decided to relax for a few minutes. Maybe you need to take a dump. Maybe you need to cook dinner because you don't have leftovers. Maybe he wanted to change clothes.

If he said he would be there in 15 minutes, yes. Soon? AND OP knew he needed to leave, head home, get dinner, etc...wondering where he is an hour and a half later is crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love reading threads like this, because it makes me appreciate my wife so much.

+1, my husband and I use find my friends so its no big deal if one of us doesn't answer as we know where the other is if concerned.

[Anonymous]

He’s just getting a quick blow job. He’ Be right over.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So did he make it over, OP?

Yes! I was in a funk anyway (as you may have been able to tell), so I cried, did some yoga, and danced. He came in, and I was in a *much* better mood than I'd been when I posted this. We started watching Twin Peaks (the original) and I'm already hooked!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So did he make it over, OP?

Yes! I was in a funk anyway (as you may have been able to tell), so I cried, did some yoga, and danced. He came in, and I was in a *much* better mood than I'd been when I posted this. We started watching Twin Peaks (the original) and I'm already hooked!

[Anonymous]

OP here. I am crazy ? thanks y'all, love you so much DCUM

[Anonymous]

lol because the sane thing to do when you're feeling down is to take a Xanax, or drink wine, or yell at your kids/spouse, or try to control everyone around you, and/or troll people on DCUM

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love reading threads like this, because it makes me appreciate my wife so much.

Yup. Reading DCUM has been so good for my marriage as it really shows me that I have the absolute best wife in the world and I appreciate her so much after seeing what I could have ended up with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So did he make it over, OP?

Yes! I was in a funk anyway (as you may have been able to tell), so I cried, did some yoga, and danced. He came in, and I was in a *much* better mood than I'd been when I posted this. We started watching Twin Peaks (the original) and I'm already hooked!

My advice was going to be that when you start getting upset about plans falling through, just forget him and go on with your day as if he was not in the picture. I am divorced with kid and I have had some dates that got me riled up because they were late getting back to me to nail down a time for the night. If I start to feel upset, I decide to do what I would do on that night. Go to bed, go to dinner alone, go take a walk. If things work out, then that's great. If not, I didn't let myself sit there and feel sorry for myself.

That said, as I have gotten older, I have less time alone and I need more. So sometimes I leave dates hanging a bit. I need more time to eat and decompress. I try to communicate, ask for that time. I was 10,minutes late a month ago, because I just needed that time. I texted when I was getting myself out the door.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So did he make it over, OP?

Yes! I was in a funk anyway (as you may have been able to tell), so I cried, did some yoga, and danced. He came in, and I was in a *much* better mood than I'd been when I posted this. We started watching Twin Peaks (the original) and I'm already hooked!

YOU CRIED?????

Omg I hope this guy runs

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am crazy ? thanks y'all, love you so much DCUM

I think what people were trying to tell you is that you shouldn't be afraid to express your needs, and you need to learn to not take things to personally if you have any chance of a being in a relationship. The reason he's not rushing over is not that he doesn't want to be with you. It is that he is tired, hungry and trying to take care of his own needs. If that doesn't work for you, just tell him next time, "Hey I'd love to see you tonight, but I'm really tired and I want to go to bed by 10. Can you be here by 8:30? If not, let's hang out tomorrow." Women often anticipate other people's needs, but most men just aren't that way. They need to be told what your needs are in a straightforward way.

[Anonymous]

So he came to your place just to Netflix and chill? Interesting.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am crazy ? thanks y'all, love you so much DCUM

I think what people were trying to tell you is that you shouldn't be afraid to express your needs, and you need to learn to not take things to personally if you have any chance of a being in a relationship. The reason he's not rushing over is not that he doesn't want to be with you. It is that he is tired, hungry and trying to take care of his own needs. If that doesn't work for you, just tell him next time, "Hey I'd love to see you tonight, but I'm really tired and I want to go to bed by 10. Can you be here by 8:30? If not, let's hang out tomorrow." Women often anticipate other people's needs, but most men just aren't that way. They need to be told what your needs are in a straightforward way.

Be very careful going this route when you're dating! Keep this up and he'll start looking twice at the cute girl with the nice smile that doesn't have as many "needs" and who he doesn't know spends her nights crying. Dating is about keeping up appearances- sorry but true. Be cool next time!