WWYD: Boyfriend said he'd be over soon. That was an hour and a half ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound very high maintenance at best.

Yes. Sorry, OP. But you really do.

You both probably just had different interpretations of what was agreed upon. It's not a big deal. Don't panic, or get resentful. Just relax and send him a text asking when he's going to show up.

[Anonymous]

I'm a high maintenance girl myself and I even think you sound nuts. it must be early in your relationship. you probably still have makeup on and can't wash up for bed if he is coming over?

[Anonymous]

I would chill the f out.

[Anonymous]

I hope all you high maintenance pps don't consider yourselves feminists, anti-misogyny or anti-bully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound very high maintenance at best.

Agreed. Fell asleep. Read a book or something, you sound like you can use a hobby.

[Anonymous]

He might have gone to hunt bobcats.

[Anonymous]

Bunch of freaks replying here tonight. Is it a full moon?

I'd be worried too if an SO was an hour and a half late without contact. Sure there's probably nothing wrong but crap can happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He might have gone to hunt bobcats.

ha ha. Didn’t they end up getting married???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He might have gone to hunt bobcats.

ha ha. Didn’t they end up getting married???

Everyone on DCUM is so supportive of bobcat girl and her relationship, but her now DH isn’t a good guy. She was crazy to go back to him. It seemed to be a toxic relationship. The thread was great, but not the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He might have gone to hunt bobcats.

ha ha. Didn’t they end up getting married???

Everyone on DCUM is so supportive of bobcat girl and her relationship, but her now DH isn’t a good guy. She was crazy to go back to him. It seemed to be a toxic relationship. The thread was great, but not the relationship.

Wait, so are they officially married? Was there a follow up post-marriage? I haven’t been on dcum in at least 6 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why you don't see your boyfriend every night. If you're not going to spend the evening together then just skip having him come over. Men get bored easily and women like to play house. See him 2-3 nights a week when it'll be special. He shouldn't just be coming over to get in bed.

This plus what pp said that later means different things to different people.

Work backwards from the impact it had on you to what can be done differently the next time. Like if you were waiting up and tired because you thought he would be by earlier, next time ask “are you able to make it over by x time? If not, why don’t we get together tomorrow. I’m really tired tonight and we will have more time to spend together tomorrow”. If you were prevented from running out or starting x activities, then set the time later like “can you come about 8:30-9, I have some errands and things around the house I have to get done.” If you had no place to be, nothing to do, and could wait up for him and it was more of worried something happened to him figure out how to phrase it so he knows it’s okay if on those iffy/last minute plan fall apart ...just send you a text so you know not to wait up and he is okay. Mention the the reverse that if said you would stop by and never showed up and never texted, that he might be worried.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bunch of freaks replying here tonight. Is it a full moon?

I'd be worried too if an SO was an hour and a half late without contact. Sure there's probably nothing wrong but crap can happen.

Is he an hour and a half late or do you have reading comprehension issues? He said "soon". The meaning of soon can be very different to different people. This was further defined by the fact that he was at work and going home prior to coming over. How long is his commute? Could there be traffic issues? We also know he was going to eat dinner. Did he have to prepare the dinner as well? Was he picking up take out? Did he need to stop at the store and neglect to mention that? Then we have the obscure "decompression period". Does that mean a relaxing shower? A favorite tv show? Read a chapter in a book? He will also likely want to change.

So the issue is: is she tired of waiting and want to do something else or is she just needy? If she had a long day and is wiped out and struggling to stay awake, then she should text him that she's running out of steam and can't wait much longer. Will he be there in the next 30 mins or should they just do it another night? If not, she needs to find something to occupy her brain to prevent the crazies.

[Anonymous]

I love reading threads like this, because it makes me appreciate my wife so much.

[Anonymous]

So did he make it over, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here: forgot to add, he lives less than ten minutes away.

Please don't do the crazy girlfriend thing and show up at his door.

She's already done the crazy girlfriend thing by posting this nonsense here.