Men: why are so many of you seemingly turned on by virginity?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I said this in the other thread but I’d be worried about physical abuse in this situation. A man who pays you 3M to have sex is most likely not going to be satisfied with the standard positions.

THIS

Even if he doesn’t physically abuse you but you know it’s not going to be all sweet and romantic. Most of these creeps seem like sick misogynistic f^cks who get off on humiliating and degrading women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Some of my friends like it, some don't want it at all.

The reason it's a turn-on is the woman is unspoiled and new. The same reason people like new cars instead of used cars I guess. I had a friend (ok we dated for a while) and she told me in her younger wild years, she went into the men's room of a nightclub and had sex with 15 guys in a row. Now, how many guys want to imagine their girlfriend/wife being that person?

Also, a woman can have only one first time, so it's a nice feeling to know you're the one.

On the negative side, it means they have no experience, and also the first time, it may be more pain than pleasure and that's no fun.

Um, a man can also only have one first time

???

It's different. I bet most women remember their first time much more than for men. It's a bigger deal. You know that woman will remember you forever, even 30 or 40 years later. She's going to remember her #1, but not necessarily #5 or #8.

If you ever saw the move Kids, there's a famous quote in the movie about it: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0113540/quotes/qt0230440

I don't know about you, but neither of my grandmothers told me about the first man they had sex with.

[Anonymous]

There is nothing like it in this world than to look into a girls eyes while you penetrate her for the first time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing like it in this world than to look into a girls eyes while you penetrate her for the first time.

Oh yuck

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing like it in this world than to look into a girls eyes while you penetrate her for the first time.

Oh yuck

Troll

I'm not PP but I agree -- it is amazing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Some of my friends like it, some don't want it at all.

The reason it's a turn-on is the woman is unspoiled and new. The same reason people like new cars instead of used cars I guess. I had a friend (ok we dated for a while) and she told me in her younger wild years, she went into the men's room of a nightclub and had sex with 15 guys in a row. Now, how many guys want to imagine their girlfriend/wife being that person?

Also, a woman can have only one first time, so it's a nice feeling to know you're the one.

On the negative side, it means they have no experience, and also the first time, it may be more pain than pleasure and that's no fun.

I think everyone on this thread is being far too generous.

I think the pp inadvertently hit the nail on the head re: pain.

I think those men who are willing to pay for a virgin do so out of a twisted kink to control and inflict pain on a young virgin.

[Anonymous]

I see some parallels between this thread and the various "bisexuals can't be trusted" threads. In both cases, some people want to restrict their partner's sexuality in some way, but do not apply the same restriction to their own gender (i.e. it's OK for men to be sluts, but not women -- and it's kind of OK for women to fool around with other women, but definitely not OK for men).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Some of my friends like it, some don't want it at all.

The reason it's a turn-on is the woman is unspoiled and new. The same reason people like new cars instead of used cars I guess. I had a friend (ok we dated for a while) and she told me in her younger wild years, she went into the men's room of a nightclub and had sex with 15 guys in a row. Now, how many guys want to imagine their girlfriend/wife being that person?

Also, a woman can have only one first time, so it's a nice feeling to know you're the one.

On the negative side, it means they have no experience, and also the first time, it may be more pain than pleasure and that's no fun.

Um, a man can also only have one first time

???

It's different. I bet most women remember their first time much more than for men. It's a bigger deal. You know that woman will remember you forever, even 30 or 40 years later. She's going to remember her #1, but not necessarily #5 or #8.

If you ever saw the move Kids, there's a famous quote in the movie about it: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0113540/quotes/qt0230440

I'm a woman and I have very few memories of my first time, actually close to none.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not and I don't know a single man that is. I'm finished teaching women how to have orgasms. I'm? keeping my current lady for life

That's awesome. However it seems hot to me to teach a lady how to O.

That said, I take responsibility for my own Os when I'm with a guy. I know they won't just happen without my uh, moving things along myself.

It was awesome at the time. Now I want someone who is experienced enough to know what they need and how to get it. Things just flow more smoothly and there is a much better connection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Some of my friends like it, some don't want it at all.

The reason it's a turn-on is the woman is unspoiled and new. The same reason people like new cars instead of used cars I guess. I had a friend (ok we dated for a while) and she told me in her younger wild years, she went into the men's room of a nightclub and had sex with 15 guys in a row. Now, how many guys want to imagine their girlfriend/wife being that person?

Also, a woman can have only one first time, so it's a nice feeling to know you're the one.

On the negative side, it means they have no experience, and also the first time, it may be more pain than pleasure and that's no fun.

Um, a man can also only have one first time

???

It's different. I bet most women remember their first time much more than for men. It's a bigger deal. You know that woman will remember you forever, even 30 or 40 years later. She's going to remember her #1, but not necessarily #5 or #8.

If you ever saw the move Kids, there's a famous quote in the movie about it: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0113540/quotes/qt0230440

I remember my first time, but not with any fondness. It was uncomfortable and messy and not pleasurable. As for the guy, I remember his first name but not his surname or his face, and I doubt I would recognize him today (20 years later) - he was a loser and I didn't bother keeping in touch. It wasn't really that big a deal, because he wasn't a meaningful part of my life and I don't fetishise virginity so the "loss" of it wasn't a big milestone. I actually remember #s 4-6 much better because my relationships with them were more significant (6=DH). And quoting Telly, a diseased rapist, doesn't really make virginity fetishists look normal.

[Anonymous]

I don't know of any guys who are out seeking virgins. My first serious gf (who I later married and divorced) was a virgin when we met. I was pretty inexperienced too and our first time was awful. I have kind of a large wang and didn't know ANYTHING about foreplay. She ended up crying because it was really painful. I still get sick to my stomach when I think about that night because I feel terrible.

The other things people are saying about not wanting to date a virgin because they lack experience or can't be good in bed is dumb too. She became VERY good within weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't true of most men. But some will want the ego boost of being the first one and "breaking new ground."

My poor high school BF did not enjoy taking mine....it was extremely painful and took multiple attempts.

Me too. I only later learned that this is somewhat common. I thought there must be something g wrong with my physically because it was so painful. I cringe every time I think about how awful that was. I still feel bad for him. It was his first time too and I know he felt bad.

I thought I was messed up too at the time. We tried for several weeks and he would often lose his erection b.c it hurt me so much. Nice guy. I felt horrible. I found out later part of the problem was he was well-endowed. I hope his wife appreciates him now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know of any guys who are out seeking virgins. My first serious gf (who I later married and divorced) was a virgin when we met. I was pretty inexperienced too and our first time was awful. I have kind of a large wang and didn't know ANYTHING about foreplay. She ended up crying because it was really painful. I still get sick to my stomach when I think about that night because I feel terrible.

The other things people are saying about not wanting to date a virgin because they lack experience or can't be good in bed is dumb too. She became VERY good within weeks.

So then it's not dumb, it's accurate. The sex sucked when she was a virgin

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know of any guys who are out seeking virgins. My first serious gf (who I later married and divorced) was a virgin when we met. I was pretty inexperienced too and our first time was awful. I have kind of a large wang and didn't know ANYTHING about foreplay. She ended up crying because it was really painful. I still get sick to my stomach when I think about that night because I feel terrible.

The other things people are saying about not wanting to date a virgin because they lack experience or can't be good in bed is dumb too. She became VERY good within weeks.

So then it's not dumb, it's accurate. The sex sucked when she was a virgin

Yes, for maybe a week or two. Then she would try anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I'm a woman and I have very few memories of my first time, actually close to none.

Not our fault you drank too much.