How Many People Do You Think it is OK to Sleep With?

[Anonymous]

You're single and dating and the world is wide open for you right now. Be safe and be up front with the people you are dating.

Sleeping with multiple people can certainly help you determine what you like and don't like.

[Anonymous]

For me it was always 1 at a time and rather exclusively.

I don't care about over all numbers.

For me I wanted to limit my STD exposure or at least if I caught one be able to narrow it down more easily.

The other reason was if there was a birth control failure I'd want to know for certain who the father was.

[Anonymous]

One person at a time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally I only sleep with one person at a time and I do not sleep with anyone unless we are in an exclusive relationship

Exactly. Don't you watch millionaire matchmaker?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One person at a time.

+1 and not fair to your partner, especially if you don't like condoms, which most men don't like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sleeping with three men at once is promiscuous. It’s behavior like that that’s may contribute to a so-called rape culture on some campuses.

That's bullshit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sleeping with three men at once is promiscuous. It’s behavior like that that’s may contribute to a so-called rape culture on some campuses.

That's bullshit.

Let's ignore this troll rather than letting him derail the thread please.

[Anonymous]

Two questions I'd ask:

- would it bother me if the person I was sleeping with was sleeping with a couple of other people?

- would it bother the person I'm sleeping with that I'm sleeping with a couple of other people?

[Anonymous]

If you are sleeping with multiple people at the same time, you need to make it explicitly clear to any partners that you are actively having other partners.

This means that getting tested is pretty ineffective as you can't show yourself as disease free as it could be the person you slept with yesterday gave you an STI that you are passing on to the person you are sleeping with today.

If your goals is just sex with multiple people you may want to look into sex clubs or less traditional ways of hooking up.

[Anonymous]

As long as you change sheets after sex you are good to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am newly single and actively dating for the first time in my life. I am 35 and not interested in jumping into a serious, monogamous relationship until I feel very strong about a future with that person. I am also completely honest about this with anyone I am dating before things get close to that point. I am currently interested in four people, though not sleeping with all of them. 1-2 of them are lower on my priority list, so depending on our next couple of dates, they may not be people I want to keep around. But again, until I feel strongly about a future, I will continue to date new people as I have no interest in investing myself in something that I don't feel strongly about, not at my age. So, back to my question... In your opinion, how many people is too many to have an intimate relationship with at one time?

Oh, at one time. I thought you meant ever. And I was sad, because why is that a question still in 2017?

Anyway, I'm not a big fan of sexual intimacy with more than one person at a time. Dating? Fine. Not sex. But that's just me. There is a much higher risk of STD transmission before you can stop it. And condoms are not always good enough. To me, that's not ethical.

[Anonymous]

Do you think men have a double standard about this? Let's say a man and a woman is in the initial stages of dating. The man is sleeping with different women. If the man finds out the woman is doing the same what do you think his reaction would be? Would it be "that's fine because so am I" or would it be "eh she's good enough to sleep with but I don't want a relationship with her because that's slutty"?

[Anonymous]

One at a time

[Anonymous]

I'd say one at a time. I feel lime there could be a scenario where one person becomes that person multiple times in an on and off way. But if you've decided you're sleeping with someone (not just a one night stand) then I'd keep it to that person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depending on what your definition of sex is, I don't see how more than three at a time is physically possible.

Lol! This is pretty funny.