My child's name in on a KILL list

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hell, let's say her kid IS a mean bully. When she and other children are shot by an upset kid, they become victims. Irregardless of what prompted it, if a child is talking about bringing a gun to school, the police should be notified immediately. The school and parents can all sort out the behavior, but absolutely many more kids than just this group of boys and girls could be impacted.

This.

If you bully someone, killing them is not the answer.

I can't believe that some of you are justifying that fact. What is wrong with you people?

[Anonymous]

NP. The way I read the OP was that the schools aid OP's daughter was "directly involved" meaning that she was the victim.

THEN, the daughter was the one who told the OP about the "kill list" because of course the school didn't release that detail.

I'd say calling the police is 100% the right move here. The school is incentivized to cover this up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:You can handle your daughter. Start by teaching kindness and empathy.

+1. Stop excusing her behavior.

OK people. DD claims she has never done or said anything to the boy. I told her she must have done something or else her name wouldn't be on the list! She maintains she hasn't. DD was involved in 2 lunch room incidents last year. It was a bunch of boy and a bunch of girls fighting over the same table. Some boys got in trouble because of this. Everyone was talked to by the school. Kill List boy is one of the boys in the group.

nope, you are being snowed

Two things:

1.) your daughter is a bully or hangs out with the mean girls. 4 kids, NONE have been involved in any lunch room incidents much less 2......

2.) give the school a deadline to deal with it or you will take it to the police. Obviously they need to deal with the child who has a kill list but more importantly your DD and friends who are driving a child to have a kill list.

More importantly than a possible active shooter is a mean girl?

Um....I hope you aren't a parent because, wow. You are really in need of a prioritization lesson.

[Anonymous]

If you're getting an accurate story here, I think it's highly likely that this boy is in a bad situation at home. He may have been harshly punished at home for the lunch room incident and that's why he has reacted strongly and violently over what seems to be a run of the mill 3rd grade incident. Somewhere this child is learning violence and revenge rather than forgiveness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hell, let's say her kid IS a mean bully. When she and other children are shot by an upset kid, they become victims. Irregardless of what prompted it, if a child is talking about bringing a gun to school, the police should be notified immediately. The school and parents can all sort out the behavior, but absolutely many more kids than just this group of boys and girls could be impacted.

This.

If you bully someone, killing them is not the answer.

I can't believe that some of you are justifying that fact. What is wrong with you people?

No one justified killing bullies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can handle your daughter. Start by teaching kindness and empathy.

+1. Stop excusing her behavior.

OK people. DD claims she has never done or said anything to the boy. I told her she must have done something or else her name wouldn't be on the list! She maintains she hasn't. DD was involved in 2 lunch room incidents last year. It was a bunch of boy and a bunch of girls fighting over the same table. Some boys got in trouble because of this. Everyone was talked to by the school. Kill List boy is one of the boys in the group.

nope, you are being snowed

Two things:

1.) your daughter is a bully or hangs out with the mean girls. 4 kids, NONE have been involved in any lunch room incidents much less 2......

2.) give the school a deadline to deal with it or you will take it to the police. Obviously they need to deal with the child who has a kill list but more importantly your DD and friends who are driving a child to have a kill list.

Are people actually thinking that a bullying girl is more of an issue than a kid saying he's going to bring a gun to school? A bullying girl should be dealt with, yes (don't know if this applies; OP, talk to the school about this) but a kid talking about a gun requires a report to the police immediately. No "giving a deadline" nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hell, let's say her kid IS a mean bully. When she and other children are shot by an upset kid, they become victims. Irregardless of what prompted it, if a child is talking about bringing a gun to school, the police should be notified immediately. The school and parents can all sort out the behavior, but absolutely many more kids than just this group of boys and girls could be impacted.

This.

If you bully someone, killing them is not the answer.

I can't believe that some of you are justifying that fact. What is wrong with you people?

No one justified killing bullies.

You haven't read this entire thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can handle your daughter. Start by teaching kindness and empathy.

+1. Stop excusing her behavior.

OK people. DD claims she has never done or said anything to the boy. I told her she must have done something or else her name wouldn't be on the list! She maintains she hasn't. DD was involved in 2 lunch room incidents last year. It was a bunch of boy and a bunch of girls fighting over the same table. Some boys got in trouble because of this. Everyone was talked to by the school. Kill List boy is one of the boys in the group.

nope, you are being snowed

Two things:
1.) your daughter is a bully or hangs out with the mean girls. 4 kids, NONE have been involved in any lunch room incidents much less 2......
2.) give the school a deadline to deal with it or you will take it to the police. Obviously they need to deal with the child who has a kill list but more importantly your DD and friends who are driving a child to have a kill list.

Don't know why you think you know more about the past than I do. You exclaim statements as thought you were there. You weren't. SO please stop. This is the last I will address you. DD reported the boys mean behavior and physical violence to the school last year. That got the boys in trouble. So there.

[Anonymous]

This is very scary. You need to find out what the school is doing and if they are not doing anything then the police should be called.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hell, let's say her kid IS a mean bully. When she and other children are shot by an upset kid, they become victims. Irregardless of what prompted it, if a child is talking about bringing a gun to school, the police should be notified immediately. The school and parents can all sort out the behavior, but absolutely many more kids than just this group of boys and girls could be impacted.

This.

If you bully someone, killing them is not the answer.

I can't believe that some of you are justifying that fact. What is wrong with you people?

No one justified killing bullies.

You haven't read this entire thread.

Yes indeed I have. Please point out the quote that states shooters are justified in killing. The only thing that has been said is that OP can work with her daughter on being kind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is very scary. You need to find out what the school is doing and if they are not doing anything then the police should be called.

I will and intend to. The phone call was last night. I'll give the school time to deal with it. When I follow up and if I cannot ascertain that the police was involved, I will call them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are the police involved? They would be if I were in your situation.

Grade 4
Don't over react.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are the police involved? They would be if I were in your situation.

Grade 4
Don't over react.

Omg me again. I don't read the whole post. Sorry.

Yes call the police. A gun, that's scary.

[Anonymous]

OP if I was a parent at that school and found you didn't call the police with all the info above and that child brought a weapon you are absolutely negligible. Someone needs to have Jeff find the IP addy for this post and send that as well so at least they can be notified to some extent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can handle your daughter. Start by teaching kindness and empathy.

+1. Stop excusing her behavior.

OK people. DD claims she has never done or said anything to the boy. I told her she must have done something or else her name wouldn't be on the list! She maintains she hasn't. DD was involved in 2 lunch room incidents last year. It was a bunch of boy and a bunch of girls fighting over the same table. Some boys got in trouble because of this. Everyone was talked to by the school. Kill List boy is one of the boys in the group.

nope, you are being snowed

Two things:
1.) your daughter is a bully or hangs out with the mean girls. 4 kids, NONE have been involved in any lunch room incidents much less 2......
2.) give the school a deadline to deal with it or you will take it to the police. Obviously they need to deal with the child who has a kill list but more importantly your DD and friends who are driving a child to have a kill list.

Don't know why you think you know more about the past than I do. You exclaim statements as thought you were there. You weren't. SO please stop. This is the last I will address you. DD reported the boys mean behavior and physical violence to the school last year. That got the boys in trouble. So there.

I don't need to know your past. Your child is no different that the typical mean girl/mean girl crowd that and their mothers think they are just darling and would NEVER be involved in anything mean. It is the boys alone right?

That was my first post BTW. There are more than just me saying you have a mean girl. Sometimes the truth hurts. Your child is mean or hangs with the mean kids. Good news is that she is young and can possibly be turned around. Parent your child now because a 4th grader's kill list isn't nearly as scary as a middle schooler's kill list.