Avoiding becoming my sister's keeper

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Anonymous wrote:OP here: I've spent a lot of time thinking about this over the past couple weeks and have reached this conclusion: all of my sister's relationships are essentially mercenary, which is why all of them have failed. I would never let her go without food or shelter but I will not make any effort to sustain her lifestyle or appease her with invitations to substitute my family/friendships for those she has lost.

That seems simple and fair, doesn't it? However, if she's really mentally disturbed, it could be a whole world of pain to get those basics for her.

How do you go about making sure they never go without food or shelter without housing them or giving them money? Similar situation with sibling with mental illness, refusing counseling, freelancing/poor/in debt, etc.

1) Do what you can to find publicly available resources
2) pay if needed for space in a shelter or halfway house facility
3) if you have enough advanced notice (as OP does), you might consider getting long-term care insurance to cover a future need for a nursing home).