Dating and intimacy? How long to wait?

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Anonymous wrote:First date if its a hot guy that you don't think is a real prospect for an LTR.

4-6 weeks if hes a good guy.

Oh, and if you meet both at the same time and the first guy is really good in bed make the second guy wait longer until you're done with the hot guy. Being sexually active with two guys at once is a little questionable, morally speaking.

And if I'm the second guy and I find out or even suspect the first guy exists, I'm gone.

What if you had sex but did not express any desire to have an exclusive type relationship?

Doesn't matter. If I find out she's playing goody-two-shoes with me, while banging another guy on the first date, she's history. I have zero respect for hypocrites.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:First date if its a hot guy that you don't think is a real prospect for an LTR.

4-6 weeks if hes a good guy.

Oh, and if you meet both at the same time and the first guy is really good in bed make the second guy wait longer until you're done with the hot guy. Being sexually active with two guys at once is a little questionable, morally speaking.

And if I'm the second guy and I find out or even suspect the first guy exists, I'm gone.

What if you had sex but did not express any desire to have an exclusive type relationship?

Doesn't matter. If I find out she's playing goody-two-shoes with me, while banging another guy on the first date, she's history. I have zero respect for hypocrites.

I agree if it's intentional. At the same time why would continue dating for 4-6 or more weeks?

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Anonymous wrote:First date if its a hot guy that you don't think is a real prospect for an LTR.

4-6 weeks if hes a good guy.

Oh, and if you meet both at the same time and the first guy is really good in bed make the second guy wait longer until you're done with the hot guy. Being sexually active with two guys at once is a little questionable, morally speaking.

No, it's not, as long as there's been no discussion of exclusivity.

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Anonymous wrote:I typically date someone for several months and wait until the guy suggests making it exclusive. I also ask him to get std testing first. People on this forum will say no guy will put up with that and will bolt, but only once had I had a guy not be willing to wait.

Are you comfortable sleeping with someone who might be sleeping with or dating other people? I am not, so I wait. But if you are, go for it.

I'm assuming you're a woman. If you're a man, I recommend waiting till date five so raise sex. Kiss on the second date, hook up without sex on date three or four, but wait till the fifth or later to bring up sex.

Guy here and if there is no goodnight kiss on the first date, I'm going to assume a lack of interest and move on.

I'm the original poster here. My advice given about waiting till the second date to kiss is if the op is a man is the safe route and based on online dating. If you're on a first date with a woman you already met and know otherwise, that's fine to go for a kiss on a first date

And I am not opposed to kissing on a first online date myself. But the woman agreed to go on that date without meeting you, so it's just safer in terms of making her feel safe and respected to wait till the second, when she's already met you and agreed to see you again.

+1 I am a quality, fit and attractive woman- I don't consider sex something I just give away to anybody. if you feel that you can't wait until I know you well enough, you're obviously just a F***k Boy and not worth my time. Thirsty Boys are a dime a dozen. Goodbye-don't let the door hit you in the ass.

You sound like a real catch. Keep it Klassy.

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3-5 dates for me. I have "the talk" first if I want sex. I require exclusivity, talk about past sexual history, require safe sex.

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If it is someone I know (e.g. a friend or acquaintance that I started dating, a guy I knew from book club or volleyball), three dates is fine. If it is someone I really don't know, it needs to be much longer.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with 13:02 ... I don't wait very long now that I am older. I know what I want and I want to know if the sexual chemistry is good before I invest a lot of time. I also want a good, kind, decent person but I am pretty good at figuring that out. No need for some long courtship ritual. We either hit it off fairly quickly or we don't. We are no longer middle schoolers.

How many middle schoolers do you know who are having sex?

You'd be surprised.

Not really. If you think it's a lot, you're wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:I typically prefer to wait a bit - like a month of steady dating, maybe longer - before I sleep with someone. Because you can always move forward later on, but once you've slept with someone you can't take it back. And we unfortunately still live in a slut-shaming society that doesn't like women to have 100 partners. (which can happen if you're single for awhile and you sleep with people right away.)

Why is this unfortunate?

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18:15 - it's unfortunate that guys seem to want women to sleep with them right away, and think it's ok to dump a woman if she hasn't slept with him after a few dates, but then don't want a woman who has done that with more than a few people. It would be really easy to rack up the lovers if you meet guys, sleep with them after a few dates, have to start over, and then are single for a few years. The guys add up.

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Anonymous wrote:3-5 dates for me. I have "the talk" first if I want sex. I require exclusivity, talk about past sexual history, require safe sex.

Sexual history. What story do you want to hear?

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Anonymous wrote:3-5 dates for me. I have "the talk" first if I want sex. I require exclusivity, talk about past sexual history, require safe sex.

Sexual history. What story do you want to hear?

Morgan Fairchild. Yeah, that's the ticket.