Tales from the beach house

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Um look the pregnant woman can hide all she wants, whatever. But no way in hell I'm "not making coffee".

And I totally warm up old coffee in the afternoon. I'm lazy! And an old man apparently.

I would not keep shirts on the children. Grandma can deal with her own issues. It's the beach! Everyone is naked all the time. We just put some flimsy spandex on and it's acceptable now.

This. I also reuse teabags- not for others but for myself. I chuck them out at the end of each day.

Yep, all of this. OP, I Think you're weird for thinking that rewarming cold coffee is weird!

[Anonymous]

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2) FIL's kitchen habits are kind of funny but kind of gross: microwaving coffee in the late afternoon that had been sitting cold still on the burner all day; standing in the kitchen eating rather than ever sitting down.

I do this every day. Am I going to get botulism and die?

[Anonymous]

15:07. I don't reuse tea bags. How long does it have to steep so it's not weak?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:15:07. I don't reuse tea bags. How long does it have to steep so it's not weak?

Not PP, but I use the Tetley British Blend tea bags and can steep for a good 5 minutes and they're fine reused once later in the day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:.
2) FIL's kitchen habits are kind of funny but kind of gross: microwaving coffee in the late afternoon that had been sitting cold still on the burner all day; standing in the kitchen eating rather than ever sitting down.

I do this every day. Am I going to get botulism and die?

same, nothing weird about this at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:15:07. I don't reuse tea bags. How long does it have to steep so it's not weak?

Not PP, but I use the Tetley British Blend tea bags and can steep for a good 5 minutes and they're fine reused once later in the day.

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:.
2) FIL's kitchen habits are kind of funny but kind of gross: microwaving coffee in the late afternoon that had been sitting cold still on the burner all day; standing in the kitchen eating rather than ever sitting down.

I do this every day. Am I going to get botulism and die?

same, nothing weird about this at all.

If you don't rewarm in the microwave, you only have a very narrow window for enjoying hot coffee. I assumed everyone rewarmed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Grandparents (DH's parents) told us our kids wandering around in their undies or just shorts inside their house made them uncomfortable. Now we are scrambling to keep them dressed without making them feel weird about their bodies but I can't explain why they want them in clothes because even when they explained it I didn't understand. I just agreed to keep the peace. We've just started saying "grandma wants it this way".

They are 8, 7 and 4 and my grandmother actually said 'she isn't wearing a shirt and she is a young woman!' about the 7 yr old. I corrected her and said 'no, she is a little girl' but I don't want you uncomfortable so that's fine. They are all very skinny- as are his parents- no boobs in sight.

To be clear, it's just us and the grandparents. No visitors/other family. No huge windows where people can see in. My DH is perplexed and we are trying to think where/why this came from. They've never said a thing in our house in DC when they were shirtless. I'm starting to wonder if someone touched grandma as a child

Uh, yeah, they should be clothed at that age, PP.

OP here, and I agree with the PP who agrees that the kids at that age should be clothed. YOU are actually the weird one, no-clothes mom. People are writing about their ILs meaning YOU in this scenario. Why would they not be wearing clothes-clothes, bathing suits and cover ups, or pajamas at least?

I think it's weird that you're afraid dressing them will make them feel weird about their bodies. Does wearing shorts in the house make them feel weird about their bodies? My son wears underwear, shorts, and a shirt when we are on vacation with the extended family, yet he doesn't seem to feel weird about his body at all. Seriously, ask your daughter: "Larla, does wearing a shirt make you feel weird about your body?" If she says "YES," then I fear you've mishandled the part of parenting where you introduce the general concept of wearing clothes.

+1 I think it's totally normal to walk around a beach home in a swim suit, or swim trunks, or just shorts for boys, though I'd humor a grandparent who preferred to see the kids more completely dressed. Not sure why this would make them feel strange about their bodies in any way. I think it's completely bizarre for kids to be walking around in just their underwear if anyone outside their immediate family is present.

[Anonymous]

My kids (7 and 9) are not shy about their bodies and they will walk around naked before shower time. But they know that they have to cover up even if family is over. Nobody is ashamed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Grandparents (DH's parents) told us our kids wandering around in their undies or just shorts inside their house made them uncomfortable. Now we are scrambling to keep them dressed without making them feel weird about their bodies but I can't explain why they want them in clothes because even when they explained it I didn't understand. I just agreed to keep the peace. We've just started saying "grandma wants it this way".

They are 8, 7 and 4 and my grandmother actually said 'she isn't wearing a shirt and she is a young woman!' about the 7 yr old. I corrected her and said 'no, she is a little girl' but I don't want you uncomfortable so that's fine. They are all very skinny- as are his parents- no boobs in sight.

To be clear, it's just us and the grandparents. No visitors/other family. No huge windows where people can see in. My DH is perplexed and we are trying to think where/why this came from. They've never said a thing in our house in DC when they were shirtless. I'm starting to wonder if someone touched grandma as a child

Uh, yeah, they should be clothed at that age, PP.

+1
I am comfortable with my body but not half naked with everyone I'm related too.
What is weird is not understanding an respecting other people's discomfort with seeing someone else half-naked.
It by no means that they are 'sexualizing' the nakedness -- THEY JUST FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE.
Why in the world is it so hard to say to your kids, 'we cover up around other people, keep our bodies private sometimes'

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um look the pregnant woman can hide all she wants, whatever. But no way in hell I'm "not making coffee".

And I totally warm up old coffee in the afternoon. I'm lazy! And an old man apparently.

I would not keep shirts on the children. Grandma can deal with her own issues. It's the beach! Everyone is naked all the time. We just put some flimsy spandex on and it's acceptable now.

Hello, BFF!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grandparents (DH's parents) told us our kids wandering around in their undies or just shorts inside their house made them uncomfortable. Now we are scrambling to keep them dressed without making them feel weird about their bodies but I can't explain why they want them in clothes because even when they explained it I didn't understand. I just agreed to keep the peace. We've just started saying "grandma wants it this way".

They are 8, 7 and 4 and my grandmother actually said 'she isn't wearing a shirt and she is a young woman!' about the 7 yr old. I corrected her and said 'no, she is a little girl' but I don't want you uncomfortable so that's fine. They are all very skinny- as are his parents- no boobs in sight.

To be clear, it's just us and the grandparents. No visitors/other family. No huge windows where people can see in. My DH is perplexed and we are trying to think where/why this came from. They've never said a thing in our house in DC when they were shirtless. I'm starting to wonder if someone touched grandma as a child

Uh, yeah, they should be clothed at that age, PP.

+1
I am comfortable with my body but not half naked with everyone I'm related too.
What is weird is not understanding an respecting other people's discomfort with seeing someone else half-naked.
It by no means that they are 'sexualizing' the nakedness -- THEY JUST FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE.
Why in the world is it so hard to say to your kids, 'we cover up around other people, keep our bodies private sometimes'

Sorry, I don't get this at all. Sure, it's not appropriate to be naked in public. But PP said they are inside, with just parents and grandparents, and the oldest child is 8. Why do they need to be clothed, other than for warmth? Why on earth would a grandparent feel uncomfortable seeing their grandchild without a shirt on? (I'm British so maybe cultural differences.. but I think the responses to this are nuts)

[Anonymous]

I think the no clothes in front of grandma and grandpa totally depends on how close you all are. I would never do this in front of my parents, but we hardly see them. Some grandparents are around all time and are truly like immediate family. In our home with just us, my kids run around in their underwear at times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the no clothes in front of grandma and grandpa totally depends on how close you all are. I would never do this in front of my parents, but we hardly see them. Some grandparents are around all time and are truly like immediate family. In our home with just us, my kids run around in their underwear at times.

But even then, walking around naked in front of immediate family? We're not talking about in bathing suits right? We're talking straight up naked?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think the no clothes in front of grandma and grandpa totally depends on how close you all are. I would never do this in front of my parents, but we hardly see them. Some grandparents are around all time and are truly like immediate family. In our home with just us, my kids run around in their underwear at times.

But even then, walking around naked in front of immediate family? We're not talking about in bathing suits right? We're talking straight up naked?

I think the kids had underwear/bathing suits in the original post. But I can't see the problem with being fully naked if the kid is happy with it. It's just a human body!