Tales from the beach house

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Anonymous wrote:I am allergic to the smell of fresh coffee...just a delightful allergy to have. You think avoiding nuts is hard!

If it makes grandparents uncomfortable, put a shirt on. Your kids will survive wearing a shirt.

My family weekend at the beachhouse led to me seething with rage at my SIL and sending her texts that should never have been sent...but they were true!

You must tell us the gist of the texts.

Yes! Please start your own thread!

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Anonymous wrote:1. Your FIL sounds fine.
2. I hate Crazy Cat Ladies and have no patience for talk of cats.
3. Why is the wife doing laundry? How long is your vacation that you need to do multiple loads of laundry?

We do laundry every day at the beach -- at least the sandy towels.

Same here. I did a load every day last week. On the plus side, I came home with only one load to do.

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I invited a recently laid off friend to share our beach house for the week. Happy to do it - didnt' cost us any extra, etc.

BUT she IMMEDIATELY began criticizing our choice of beach (too crowded), our choice of town (not the BEST one in DE), and our general beach house routines. I'm like, man. Could you shut the hell up and enjoy a free trip? Or stay the hell home!

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. Someone denying "me" coffee would mean war.

I know, right? I totally sympathize with the nauseous pregnant lady. But dang I need my coffee. Take the pot outside and brew it on the balcony. Then bring it back inside and enjoy.

No way. Pregnant lady can go outside.

Oh, come on. You don't make a woman with morning sickness drag herself out of bed and away from the toilet, out onto the balcony while you brew your coffee inside like a big old jerk. Just take the pot outside, sit on the balcony enjoying the sunrise while your coffee brews next to you. You won't even have to get up to pour yourself a cup. Just sit there enjoying that salty sea air with the smell of fresh coffee wafting in the wind - absolute heaven.

So we should run an extension cord to the balcony to brew coffee and the rest of the house of 10+ adults should sit outside while the one person bothered by it sits inside? You're kidding right?

Use the outdoor outlet. Or run an extension cord. Brew the pot outside. People can come out and get a cup and go back inside. It is the brewing that is making the pregnant woman sick. So a small effort on your part to avoid that would be nice.

You are nuts. I am currently pregnant and spent the first 20 weeks throwing up at the smell of coffee. Totally unreasonable to make people brew coffee outside. I could leave the room for a few minutes while people make coffee. Move the entire coffee maker outside for one person? Not a chance. If she is that sensitive to smells she can take medicine like I did.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the no clothes in front of grandma and grandpa totally depends on how close you all are. I would never do this in front of my parents, but we hardly see them. Some grandparents are around all time and are truly like immediate family. In our home with just us, my kids run around in their underwear at times.

But even then, walking around naked in front of immediate family? We're not talking about in bathing suits right? We're talking straight up naked?

I think the kids had underwear/bathing suits in the original post. But I can't see the problem with being fully naked if the kid is happy with it. It's just a human body!

Because the grandparents are unhappy with it, and they get a vote too. In fact, as the elders, their vote counts more.

But the question is WHY are the grandparents unhappy with seeing their 7 year old grandchild without a top on? I think that is very weird.

I don't think it's weird. I would never let my kids go around shirtless, even my 2yo wears clothes in our beach house with my parents and siblings. Sure my son may swim in just trunks when it's late enough not to need a rash guard. But I would be super uncomfortable if there was a shirtless 7 year old girl walking around. My friend changes her 5yo daughter into and out of her swim suit in public and I am horrified. I was raised in the US and this is just the custom here. My dad would never walk around in his boxers around me growing up, and I would never walk around in my underwear either. The kids can be naked in their own house, but put shirts on them with the grandparents!

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Sharing a house with ILs. Opened the fridge this morning, and DH's aunt has stuffed a raw, whole chicken--butterflied and seasoned--onto a sheet pan and put it in the fridge with no covering whatsoever. She laid it on top of a chock-full shelf. GIRL, GET SOME SARAN WRAP, FOR THE LOVE.

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Sharing a beach condo with my parents for 2 weeks. My mother has left the condo only 3 times when we've gone out to eat, but at no other times, not even to walk from our 1st floor rental to the beach directly outside. She keeps telling us (my father, my DH, and me) to Google various questions, even while she's sitting in front of her own computer. Fun times.

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Beach house with my parents....never again. My mom is fine but my father is too high strung. Nothing about this trip has been relaxing with him here. He gets super anxious with the kids on the beach. We usually eat most meals out on vacation but have been stuck eating in more because dining out with my father is to stressful and I do not want to deal with listening to him if there is a wait at a restaurant. I'm tired of worrying about everyone's needs and what we're eating for dinner.

Lesson learned...vacation alone.

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Beach house with friends. Every single person in that family SLAMS each and every door they ever close. All day and all night. WTF?! Do they have secret superhuman strength and can't control it on vacation?

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. Someone denying "me" coffee would mean war.

I know, right? I totally sympathize with the nauseous pregnant lady. But dang I need my coffee. Take the pot outside and brew it on the balcony. Then bring it back inside and enjoy.

No way. Pregnant lady can go outside.

Oh, come on. You don't make a woman with morning sickness drag herself out of bed and away from the toilet, out onto the balcony while you brew your coffee inside like a big old jerk. Just take the pot outside, sit on the balcony enjoying the sunrise while your coffee brews next to you. You won't even have to get up to pour yourself a cup. Just sit there enjoying that salty sea air with the smell of fresh coffee wafting in the wind - absolute heaven.

So we should run an extension cord to the balcony to brew coffee and the rest of the house of 10+ adults should sit outside while the one person bothered by it sits inside? You're kidding right?

Use the outdoor outlet. Or run an extension cord. Brew the pot outside. People can come out and get a cup and go back inside. It is the brewing that is making the pregnant woman sick. So a small effort on your part to avoid that would be nice.

You are nuts. I am currently pregnant and spent the first 20 weeks throwing up at the smell of coffee. Totally unreasonable to make people brew coffee outside. I could leave the room for a few minutes while people make coffee. Move the entire coffee maker outside for one person? Not a chance. If she is that sensitive to smells she can take medicine like I did.

O.k. but if your sense of smell is heightened during pregnancy and can smell the coffee brewing in your bedroom with the door closed...and the smell is making you vomit, then what?

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. Someone denying "me" coffee would mean war.

I know, right? I totally sympathize with the nauseous pregnant lady. But dang I need my coffee. Take the pot outside and brew it on the balcony. Then bring it back inside and enjoy.

No way. Pregnant lady can go outside.

Oh, come on. You don't make a woman with morning sickness drag herself out of bed and away from the toilet, out onto the balcony while you brew your coffee inside like a big old jerk. Just take the pot outside, sit on the balcony enjoying the sunrise while your coffee brews next to you. You won't even have to get up to pour yourself a cup. Just sit there enjoying that salty sea air with the smell of fresh coffee wafting in the wind - absolute heaven.

So we should run an extension cord to the balcony to brew coffee and the rest of the house of 10+ adults should sit outside while the one person bothered by it sits inside? You're kidding right?

Use the outdoor outlet. Or run an extension cord. Brew the pot outside. People can come out and get a cup and go back inside. It is the brewing that is making the pregnant woman sick. So a small effort on your part to avoid that would be nice.

You are nuts. I am currently pregnant and spent the first 20 weeks throwing up at the smell of coffee. Totally unreasonable to make people brew coffee outside. I could leave the room for a few minutes while people make coffee. Move the entire coffee maker outside for one person? Not a chance. If she is that sensitive to smells she can take medicine like I did.

O.k. but if your sense of smell is heightened during pregnancy and can smell the coffee brewing in your bedroom with the door closed...and the smell is making you vomit, then what?

If things are that bad during your pregnancy, avoid travel with large groups of people.

[Anonymous]

We shouldn't all be inconvenienced by your choice to be pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sharing a house with ILs. Opened the fridge this morning, and DH's aunt has stuffed a raw, whole chicken--butterflied and seasoned--onto a sheet pan and put it in the fridge with no covering whatsoever. She laid it on top of a chock-full shelf. GIRL, GET SOME SARAN WRAP, FOR THE LOVE.

My FIL put a pan of marinating raw chicken in the crisper drawer. He'd covered it with foil, and set it precariously on top of bags of grapes, broccoli, boxes of blueberries, etc. Later, I realized that all of my produce in that drawer had been soaked with raw chicken juice. He grumpily complained "well, it wouldn't have leaked if you'd left it alone." Ugh. Obviously whenever anybody opened that drawer, the pan tipped and jostled. Then when I started throwing things out, he was offended, telling me I was overreacting.

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Anonymous wrote:Sharing a house with ILs. Opened the fridge this morning, and DH's aunt has stuffed a raw, whole chicken--butterflied and seasoned--onto a sheet pan and put it in the fridge with no covering whatsoever. She laid it on top of a chock-full shelf. GIRL, GET SOME SARAN WRAP, FOR THE LOVE.

My FIL put a pan of marinating raw chicken in the crisper drawer. He'd covered it with foil, and set it precariously on top of bags of grapes, broccoli, boxes of blueberries, etc. Later, I realized that all of my produce in that drawer had been soaked with raw chicken juice. He grumpily complained "well, it wouldn't have leaked if you'd left it alone." Ugh. Obviously whenever anybody opened that drawer, the pan tipped and jostled. Then when I started throwing things out, he was offended, telling me I was overreacting.

Ugh, I'm the PP of the raw chicken above. Your anecdote "wins," for sure. That is so disgusting.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. Someone denying "me" coffee would mean war.

I know, right? I totally sympathize with the nauseous pregnant lady. But dang I need my coffee. Take the pot outside and brew it on the balcony. Then bring it back inside and enjoy.

No way. Pregnant lady can go outside.

Oh, come on. You don't make a woman with morning sickness drag herself out of bed and away from the toilet, out onto the balcony while you brew your coffee inside like a big old jerk. Just take the pot outside, sit on the balcony enjoying the sunrise while your coffee brews next to you. You won't even have to get up to pour yourself a cup. Just sit there enjoying that salty sea air with the smell of fresh coffee wafting in the wind - absolute heaven.

So we should run an extension cord to the balcony to brew coffee and the rest of the house of 10+ adults should sit outside while the one person bothered by it sits inside? You're kidding right?

Use the outdoor outlet. Or run an extension cord. Brew the pot outside. People can come out and get a cup and go back inside. It is the brewing that is making the pregnant woman sick. So a small effort on your part to avoid that would be nice.

You are nuts. I am currently pregnant and spent the first 20 weeks throwing up at the smell of coffee. Totally unreasonable to make people brew coffee outside. I could leave the room for a few minutes while people make coffee. Move the entire coffee maker outside for one person? Not a chance. If she is that sensitive to smells she can take medicine like I did.

O.k. but if your sense of smell is heightened during pregnancy and can smell the coffee brewing in your bedroom with the door closed...and the smell is making you vomit, then what?

Then I would throw up. I threw up all the time anyway. Lots of smells made me sick, and I could get sick without offending smells at all. I took prescription medicine to help combat the vomiting. But I would not have insisted that people take coffee elsewhere. At the beach house this summer, I threw up several times when my FIL was making egg salad, for some reason the smell of hard boiled eggs was horrible. But that was my problem, he should be allowed to make food in the kitchen.