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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Grandparents (DH's parents) told us our kids wandering around in their undies or just shorts inside their house made them uncomfortable. Now we are scrambling to keep them dressed without making them feel weird about their bodies but I can't explain why they want them in clothes because even when they explained it I didn't understand. I just agreed to keep the peace. We've just started saying "grandma wants it this way".

They are 8, 7 and 4 and my grandmother actually said 'she isn't wearing a shirt and she is a young woman!' about the 7 yr old. I corrected her and said 'no, she is a little girl' but I don't want you uncomfortable so that's fine. They are all very skinny- as are his parents- no boobs in sight.

To be clear, it's just us and the grandparents. No visitors/other family. No huge windows where people can see in. My DH is perplexed and we are trying to think where/why this came from. They've never said a thing in our house in DC when they were shirtless. I'm starting to wonder if someone touched grandma as a child :([/quote]

Uh, yeah, they should be clothed at that age, PP. [/quote]

OP here, and I agree with the PP who agrees that the kids at that age should be clothed. YOU are actually the weird one, no-clothes mom. People are writing about their ILs meaning YOU in this scenario. Why would they not be wearing clothes-clothes, bathing suits and cover ups, or pajamas at least?[/quote]

I think it's weird that you're afraid dressing them will make them feel weird about their bodies. Does wearing shorts in the house make them feel weird about their bodies? My son wears underwear, shorts, and a shirt when we are on vacation with the extended family, yet he doesn't seem to feel weird about his body at all. Seriously, ask your daughter: "Larla, does wearing a shirt make you feel weird about your body?" If she says "YES," then I fear you've mishandled the part of parenting where you introduce the general concept of wearing clothes. [/quote]

+1  I think it's totally normal to walk around a beach home in a swim suit, or swim trunks, or just shorts for boys, though I'd humor a grandparent who preferred to see the kids more completely dressed.  Not sure why this would make them feel strange about their bodies in any way.  I think it's completely bizarre for kids to be walking around in just their underwear if anyone outside their immediate family is present.[/quote]

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