Woke up in the middle of the night

[Anonymous]

DUMP HIM. This is a PROBLEM. It is seriously a pre-cursor to abuse.
You DO NOT need to tolerate that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a boyfriend who kept thinking I was cheating on him. He was very insecure. I'm not a cheater. If I'm done with you, I'll break up with you, not sneak around. Long story short.... we broke up after he started cheating on ME. He had cheated on the girl before me, too. Cheaters think other people are cheaters too.

+1.

It's one thing to have security and trust issues. It's another thing entirely - and totally unacceptable - to violate YOUR trust.

I could never close my eyes next to someone who did that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I met up with my friend, the same girl that this guy was seeing before at a bar on Monday. This guy happened to be there as well.
I walked out of the bar with the guy friend and my boyfriend had been waiting outside the bar I was at, watching me. I had told him where I would be. Was there maybe 2 hours.
I left the bar, called my boyfriend to meet up and he accused me of cheating.

OP, what kind of reaction are you looking for from us? You've told us many times about this lunatic, and nothing should surprise you by now. It's more of the same. We've all told you to dump him, but you aren't willing.

Do not give him access to your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I met up with my friend, the same girl that this guy was seeing before at a bar on Monday. This guy happened to be there as well.
I walked out of the bar with the guy friend and my boyfriend had been waiting outside the bar I was at, watching me. I had told him where I would be. Was there maybe 2 hours.
I left the bar, called my boyfriend to meet up and he accused me of cheating.

Why are you even questioning what to do?

End it. Now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any yet all the pathetic posters on DCUM were supporting the woman who wanted to put tracking software on her BF phone.

What?!?!

I didn't see that thread.

[Anonymous]

OP and her boyfriend both sound immature. I would advise breaking up and take some time to grow up a little.

[Anonymous]

OP, he sounds like my ex. Does he also make "comparison's" of you to other women, or make back handed compliments?

My ex always accused me of cheating. Constantly wanted to go through my things. He kept on getting progressively more emotionally controlling and abusive, before it escalated to verbal and physical. Oh, and he was the one unable to control himself around other women. And a pathological liar.

Get out now, before you're in so deep you can't get out. Mine attempted to blackmail me, to prevent me from leaving. I nearly had a full-on mental breakdown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any yet all the pathetic posters on DCUM were supporting the woman who wanted to put tracking software on her BF phone.

What?!?!

I didn't see that thread.

Whenever a woman on DCUM suggests her partner might be cheating--no matter how scant he evidence--people always, in a completely serious fashion, suggest spyware, keyboard loggers, or a tracking device on the vehicle. Or using the iPhone tracker or some kind of shared iPhone program that lets you read their texts. It's completely psychotic and absurd.

[Anonymous]

Op here.

I have a password on my phone, and I have always given it to him. I don't have anything to hide.

He has messaged friends (Male) before on Facebook to inquire about the nature of our friendship in the past.

He has accused me of cheating many times before this.

I didn't freak out on him. I just simply took my phone and changed my password and tried to go back to sleep but I was so upset. I trust him when he's at my house and Im sleeping to not go through my personal things. If he wanted to see my phone, he could have asked. But waking up like that seeing him sitting on the floor in the dark next to my bed, not only scared me at first, but really I felt spied on.

You need to end this now. This is not normal behavior and will not get better. Trust me. I dated someone like this. He got more and more weird. Turned out that he was engaged in multiple online flirtations, etc, which he did because, as he told me, he was convinced I was cheating and this was his way of protecting himself. It was a very messed up relationship.

Just end it. No one should be stalking you when you go out.

[Anonymous]

Dtmf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:whats good for the goose is good for the gander. Bottom line girls do this stuff all the time. Maybe your phone just fell open or he herd it make a buzz and thought it might be something important and want just checking on it for you.

Sitting on the floor? Did the phone fall and he with it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I met up with my friend, the same girl that this guy was seeing before at a bar on Monday. This guy happened to be there as well.
I walked out of the bar with the guy friend and my boyfriend had been waiting outside the bar I was at, watching me. I had told him where I would be. Was there maybe 2 hours.
I left the bar, called my boyfriend to meet up and he accused me of cheating.

You know that this is terrible, right? DTMFN!

[Anonymous]

You have proven you're not trustworthy and it is guaranteed you are not telling the whole story.

He should dump your cheating ass.

[Anonymous]

If I open up our computer and see my husband's emails because he left himself logged in and automatically scan through them before catching myself and closing it out I feel guilty and like I violated his privacy. I cannot FATHOM taking his phone and actively scanning through his stuff.

Abusive, red flag, why did you not dump him and kick him out right then and there? I literally would have made him go home right then, with all his stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you both and how long have you been together?

My DH when we first started dating literally would turn up at lunches I was having with female friends as a "surprise" when I think he was checking I wasn't meeting a guy.

But it stopped because it was obvious I wasn't cheating and had no intention of doing so. I'm basically the most non-flirtatious non-cheaty person, ever in the universe.

He is not paranoid now and never checks my phone or email. We've been happily married for nearly 15 years and have two kids.

I really like this story of how your DH learned to trust you over time!