Woke up in the middle of the night

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are so many red flags waving I don't know where to start.

End it. Then take a huge deep breath that you dodged an abusive crazy bullet.

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[Anonymous]

Op here.

I have a password on my phone, and I have always given it to him. I don't have anything to hide.

He has messaged friends (Male) before on Facebook to inquire about the nature of our friendship in the past.

He has accused me of cheating many times before this.

I didn't freak out on him. I just simply took my phone and changed my password and tried to go back to sleep but I was so upset. I trust him when he's at my house and Im sleeping to not go through my personal things. If he wanted to see my phone, he could have asked. But waking up like that seeing him sitting on the floor in the dark next to my bed, not only scared me at first, but really I felt spied on.

[Anonymous]

The longer the relationship goes on the worse it will get.

[Anonymous]

Do you really want to spend more than the 1.5 years of your life you have devoted to this guy with someone who doesn't trust you? if the answer is yes stay, if no leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I have a password on my phone, and I have always given it to him. I don't have anything to hide.

He has messaged friends (Male) before on Facebook to inquire about the nature of our friendship in the past.

He has accused me of cheating many times before this.

I didn't freak out on him. I just simply took my phone and changed my password and tried to go back to sleep but I was so upset. I trust him when he's at my house and Im sleeping to not go through my personal things. If he wanted to see my phone, he could have asked. But waking up like that seeing him sitting on the floor in the dark next to my bed, not only scared me at first, but really I felt spied on.

Posted before, and this story just gets worse. End it NOW.

[Anonymous]

I had a boyfriend who kept thinking I was cheating on him. He was very insecure. I'm not a cheater. If I'm done with you, I'll break up with you, not sneak around. Long story short.... we broke up after he started cheating on ME. He had cheated on the girl before me, too. Cheaters think other people are cheaters too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are so many red flags waving I don't know where to start.

End it. Then take a huge deep breath that you dodged an abusive crazy bullet.

+1

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[Anonymous]

You've posted about him several times before, right? Does he drive by your house and stalk you and then get mad when you go somewhere without telling you, and accuse you of cheating? And he rages and curses at you, texts vile things, etc.? And you have a child who could be exposed to this monster? Is this you?

If it is, then you need to see this situation for what it is, clear as day -- you are in an abusive relationship, and will accept however he treats you, bending over backwards to appease you. There is pretty much nothing you won't forgive. Next month you'll be posting again, as if he's finally crossed the line -- and the details of your story will make our collective hair stand on end...and you will still go back to him.

Get some help -- for yourself. Your BF is beyond your help.
He won't change, ever - except he might eventually kill you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You've posted about him several times before, right? Does he drive by your house and stalk you and then get mad when you go somewhere without telling you, and accuse you of cheating? And he rages and curses at you, texts vile things, etc.? And you have a child who could be exposed to this monster? Is this you?

If it is, then you need to see this situation for what it is, clear as day -- you are in an abusive relationship, and will accept however he treats you, bending over backwards to appease you. There is pretty much nothing you won't forgive. Next month you'll be posting again, as if he's finally crossed the line -- and the details of your story will make our collective hair stand on end...and you will still go back to him.

Get some help -- for yourself. Your BF is beyond your help.
He won't change, ever - except he might eventually kill you.

Pardon typos..."you" should be "him", etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are so many red flags waving I don't know where to start.

End it. Then take a huge deep breath that you dodged an abusive crazy bullet.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are so many red flags waving I don't know where to start.

End it. Then take a huge deep breath that you dodged an abusive crazy bullet.

This. I'd be out. I don't want to live my life being constantly accused of things I didn't do. However, if I was in a very serious relationship and an acquaintance or ex was contacting me and I knew it bothered my boyfriend/fiancé/husband, I'd ask him to stop and probably not be friends with him on FB if he persisted, even if I wasn't asked to unfriend him. But it seems like your BF is going to be suspicious no matter what.

[Anonymous]

I would break up with someone who didn't trust me. Full stop. I don't play games. I don't do drama.

[Anonymous]

whats good for the goose is good for the gander. Bottom line girls do this stuff all the time. Maybe your phone just fell open or he herd it make a buzz and thought it might be something important and want just checking on it for you.

[Anonymous]

Op here.

I met up with my friend, the same girl that this guy was seeing before at a bar on Monday. This guy happened to be there as well.
I walked out of the bar with the guy friend and my boyfriend had been waiting outside the bar I was at, watching me. I had told him where I would be. Was there maybe 2 hours.
I left the bar, called my boyfriend to meet up and he accused me of cheating.

[Anonymous]

Any yet all the pathetic posters on DCUM were supporting the woman who wanted to put tracking software on her BF phone.