Things you do 'your way' and parents/ILs disapprove

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Anonymous wrote:Things we do that our parents disapprove of:
Breastfeeding (I don't even exclusively breastfeed but the fact that I do it at all is A Thing for them)
Room sharing for the first few months
Playing video games ever (isn't even a daily thing but my mother things any video games are trash)
Same as OP with eating fast food on road trips
DH and I share a car instead of having two vehicles
Meatless Mondays
DH has rheumatoid arthritis and takes meds for it. My mother thinks he just needs some apple cider vinegar and coconut oil and he'll be cured and the meds are just poisoning him.

Things we don't do/don't allow that our parents think we're nuts for:
Not diluting formula (even though they know DD is very low percentile weight wise and needs to gain)
Not giving newborn DD water
Not introducing solids before 4 months
Not allowing anyone to hold DD immediately after they've smoked

Omg that is my mom. What is with the apple cider vinegar??

LOL...NP here. It's something they probably saw on Dr. Oz or heard that Dr. Phil did one time, or something. My mom is always telling me stuff like "Oprah says soda is unhealthy," as if that is new news, and Oprah is the Surgeon General.

Yes! If Oprah or Dr. OZ said it, she does it. She also does like eat right for your blood type diets! I can't!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Things we do that our parents disapprove of:
Breastfeeding (I don't even exclusively breastfeed but the fact that I do it at all is A Thing for them)
Room sharing for the first few months
Playing video games ever (isn't even a daily thing but my mother things any video games are trash)
Same as OP with eating fast food on road trips
DH and I share a car instead of having two vehicles
Meatless Mondays
DH has rheumatoid arthritis and takes meds for it. My mother thinks he just needs some apple cider vinegar and coconut oil and he'll be cured and the meds are just poisoning him.

Things we don't do/don't allow that our parents think we're nuts for:
Not diluting formula (even though they know DD is very low percentile weight wise and needs to gain)
Not giving newborn DD water
Not introducing solids before 4 months
Not allowing anyone to hold DD immediately after they've smoked

Omg that is my mom. What is with the apple cider vinegar??

LOL...NP here. It's something they probably saw on Dr. Oz or heard that Dr. Phil did one time, or something. My mom is always telling me stuff like "Oprah says soda is unhealthy," as if that is new news, and Oprah is the Surgeon General.

Yes! If Oprah or Dr. OZ said it, she does it. She also does like eat right for your blood type diets! I can't!

I am crying! My mom is always calling me up with new diet tips (I'm not overweight), and acts like "The Doctors" have finally found the miracle cure-all. HELLO: Eat less, move more. Eat lots of veggies, and fewer donuts. It really is that simple. But no, FISH OIL AND QUINOA SMOOTHIES WITH COCONUT WATER!

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+1 with the Dr Oz-obsessed MIL. If Dr Oz said it by God it's the gospel. She's pretty interested in what doctors have to say about my kid too -- she can't believe I don't take DS to the doctor every time he has a cold or fever. Sorry, no, not paying them to tell me to push fluids and alternate Tylenol and Advil. I got that.

MIL couldn't believe I nursed to nine months, wouldn't give the newborn water, waited until six months for solids, or wouldn't pierce DD's ears at any point she was too young to ask for it herself. She also harassed us endlessly about having another kid. She also completely flipped out about even the mention of using tap water for a formula bottle when our filter broke.

My parents generally don't say much about my choices, but my dad does not care for DH. Can't believe I would be with someone so "uptight" and also who refuses to fly. Sigh. I don't love it either but it's not worth divorcing over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When our car was totaled (oh, the things that happen when you park on the street in DC!) and we decided not to replace it, MIL flipped out. The words "But you can't live without a car!" actually came out of her mouth. She went so far as to call my mother in a desperate attempt to get her to intervene and "stop this ridiculous thinking."

My mother comments EVERY DAMN TIME she visits about our lack of microwave.

Both of them think there's something deeply wrong with us living in a small rowhouse in the city. "Don't you wish you had more space?" No. "Ugh, I can't believe you're okay having people on either side of you." It's a rowhouse, kinda how this whole thing works. "I don't understand how all this noise doesn't make you nervous." Because it doesn't. "Why can't you be like your sister a buy a normal house in a normal neighborhood?" I'd sooner slit my wrists than live in the far flung reaches of outer suburbia in a cookie cutter house circa 1992.

Does it make you feel like your parents don't know you at all when they make comments like this? My parents didn't understand me and I sort of felt like they didn't like me because I had a life very different from theirs.

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When we moved to Shaw my MIL was so horrified she offered to buy us out of the house.

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- insisting on naps and a schedule -- they think I'm rigid and controlling.
- not spanking
- rear-facing till 4 (got so much crap for this)
- refusing to eat or make my child eat coconut oil, even though mom swears it's a miracle food, and she knows because she used to work in a hospital
- eating the same dinner every night (works for us).

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Not feeding our Celiac/dairy-intolerant food gluten or dairy because "that's just a trend." Grrrr!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:My father was HORRIFIED to find out we didn't have a weekend nanny. And that was after he got over his heart attack that we didn't have a live-in, or at the VERY least have the nanny stay to bathe and put them to sleep.

Him: "But what do you DO with them all weekend?"
Me: We haul them around to all the stuff we do, and when we're doing boring stuff at home, they play.
Him: You should get someone.
Me: We have each other.
Him: No, a professional - call an agency.

Did he grow up in Downton Abbey?

[Anonymous]

Thank you. You all make me love my mother and mother-in-law so much more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My father was HORRIFIED to find out we didn't have a weekend nanny. And that was after he got over his heart attack that we didn't have a live-in, or at the VERY least have the nanny stay to bathe and put them to sleep.

Him: "But what do you DO with them all weekend?"
Me: We haul them around to all the stuff we do, and when we're doing boring stuff at home, they play.
Him: You should get someone.
Me: We have each other.
Him: No, a professional - call an agency.

Did he grow up in Downton Abbey?

UES

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Anonymous wrote:When we moved to Shaw my MIL was so horrified she offered to buy us out of the house.

Well at least you know you'll probably get a windfall when she dies!

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Dual language school, especially because it is a Title I.

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Anonymous wrote:When we moved to Shaw my MIL was so horrified she offered to buy us out of the house.

I can relate. We bought a place and my parents came to visit. She said, "the cab driver told us to be careful because this is a dangerous neighborhood. Why'd you buy here?"

"Mom. The cab driver was clearly a weirdo. We live in Shirlington. It's only dangerous if you think an over abundance of French bulldogs is dangerous."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When we moved to Shaw my MIL was so horrified she offered to buy us out of the house.

I can relate. We bought a place and my parents came to visit. She said, "the cab driver told us to be careful because this is a dangerous neighborhood. Why'd you buy here?"

"Mom. The cab driver was clearly a weirdo. We live in Shirlington. It's only dangerous if you think an over abundance of French bulldogs is dangerous."

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Anonymous wrote:My parents think I'm some kind of nazi mom for not giving my toddler juice.

Yes! Stop with the juice crap! "Not even watered down juice?" She won't die because she only drinks water!