Did anyone do or not do gender selection and regret the decision?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't get to choose the sex of my second child, but if I had, I would have chosen a boy, just because my first was a boy and I loved him so much. But of course now I love the girl I got, and I'm so glad she is ours. You'll love whoever you end up having. If your husband doesn't want to choose, I would respect that.

I agree with you. I didn't get to choose either and wanted a second girl but had a boy. Wouldn't trade him for the world, obviously. But I don't have a huge problem if you want to decide for yourself. Except for the husband issue. Do you think maybe he really wants a boy deep down?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the Pp who wanted a girl and chose girl after having my first boy. I just thought obviously having one of each was preferable. Funny that Op wants 2 girls bc when I started reading the thread I assumed that she wanted to pick a boy bc she has a girl. To each their own!

No way, having one of each is definitely not preferable for everyone. Why would it be? I have a daughter, and my husband and I are planning to get pregnant again this year. I am not even going to waste my time, we are doing PGS specifically so we can have another girl. I have always wanted two girls. So that's what I will have.

[Anonymous]

Gender selection , sorry folks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the Pp who wanted a girl and chose girl after having my first boy. I just thought obviously having one of each was preferable. Funny that Op wants 2 girls bc when I started reading the thread I assumed that she wanted to pick a boy bc she has a girl. To each their own!

No way, having one of each is definitely not preferable for everyone. Why would it be? I have a daughter, and my husband and I are planning to get pregnant again this year. I am not even going to waste my time, we are doing PGS specifically so we can have another girl. I have always wanted two girls. So that's what I will have.

Uh... good for you... why did you respond to a two year old thread just to tell the internet you’re having two girls?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We chose three boys,

Us too

[Anonymous]

This is way too close to the many countries that have messed up their gender mix (at the population level) due to social norms that favor boys. Nature is usually healthier. So do I V F if you can afford it, but don’t go for designer families. It leads down a bad path for the greater good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is way too close to the many countries that have messed up their gender mix (at the population level) due to social norms that favor boys. Nature is usually healthier. So do I V F if you can afford it, but don’t go for designer families. It leads down a bad path for the greater good.

you realize its a tiny fraction of families who do this? no need to catastrophize it in context of greater good. In case of donor eggs with PGS you get to select donor characteristics and gender of baby on top of that.

[Anonymous]

I would choose a girl because I’m older and worry about autism.

[Anonymous]

I'd be very worried that I was playing God too much. I know this isn't objectively how things work, but I'd worry I'd end up with daughters who despise each other, a butch lesbian (assuming you want a pretty little blond girl with a bow), etc etc etc.

Be careful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the Pp who wanted a girl and chose girl after having my first boy. I just thought obviously having one of each was preferable. Funny that Op wants 2 girls bc when I started reading the thread I assumed that she wanted to pick a boy bc she has a girl. To each their own!

No way, having one of each is definitely not preferable for everyone. Why would it be? I have a daughter, and my husband and I are planning to get pregnant again this year. I am not even going to waste my time, we are doing PGS specifically so we can have another girl. I have always wanted two girls. So that's what I will have.

ME ME ME. Your poor daughters, who you obviously want in your image.

[Anonymous]

I'm 100% for having the staff choose randomly. I loved the magic of surprise. Two of the coolest experiences of my life were the days we found out 1) the genders of our twins (at 20 week ultrasound) and 2) gender of our third child (at delivery). Pure magic!!!

[Anonymous]

People who want to choose gender are thinking about themselves and not the child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who want to choose gender are thinking about themselves and not the child.

People who want to have a child, are thinking of themselves and not a child. No one chooses to be conceived/born.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People who want to choose gender are thinking about themselves and not the child.

People who want to have a child, are thinking of themselves and not a child. No one chooses to be conceived/born.

That’s true. But to have to bend to your parents’ expectations when you aren’t even out of the womb yet – recipe for disaster.

[Anonymous]

I'm not going to lie, the whole gender selection thing weirds me out a little, but that's a personal opinion and I think people should be able to decide, especially since our country doesn't have a gender imbalance. I know plenty of couples that have 4 or 5 kids just trying to get a different gender. I guess choosing is better than having a tons of kids and making your previous ones feeling unwanted in your attempts just to get that girl or boy.

I think the thing to consider when doing this is that what ifs. Are you going to regret putting in a less quality embryo (yes, I know lab grading doesn't necessarily mean anything) if it ends up not being successful or ending in a MC (it still happens with PGS normal embryos).

Also, I'd say respect your husband's wishes if he really doesn't want to. Even if you really want to choose, you not getting what you wants puts you in the same position as 99.9% of the population. Him not getting his wishes puts him in an odd position of potentially thinking he has made a designer baby.