Husband's family is ALWAYS late

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG!
All of you can kick rocks!
I know plenty of Latino people who are not as late or ever late in the manner in which you describe .
Screw all of you for trying to say it's something inherently a part of being a Latino .
I know compulsively late people who are racial and ethnic backgrounds you all should be ashamed of yourselves.

Oh, quit it with the feigned act of insult, pp.

I'm Puerto Rican, my husband is Cuban & everyone in our families are one million percent exactly like the OP described, so chill out she said nothing insulting.

We are hard workers & are on time for that, but when it comes time to let loose, we're on nobodies clock!

We call it Latin time or Cuban time or PR time, but she's right it's just the way we were raised. We expect it from each other (which is why our parties last for entire weekends, lol) & nobody within our culture gets mad, because again... its just expected.

Sometimes we forget when we're dealing with white people, because when you're generally around your own for so long, you do tend to forget that others live differently.

Growing up I thought everyone lived the same way... that is until I entered elementary school & I missed out on a bunch of birthday parties because we arrived really late. That's why Latino birthday parties last for 12+ hours or more, lol.

However I promise you this OP, it's never done intentionally... sometimes we really do just forget. I can't imagine how frustrating it must be for you, but as they say "you can't reach an old dog new tricks" & this tardy trick has been engrained in us for many, many generations...sorry.

Just please don't take it personally, we never mean harm by it...its just how we were all raised.

[Anonymous]

I would not include them in decisions, and if I invite them, it would be for whatever time is convenient for the responsible people. If they make it, great. If not, too bad.

[Anonymous]

You sound stupid as hell.
You are the one who is still making generalizations. Did her African American employer tell her about punctuality because she was latino or because she was just late ?
Did her African-American players say because your Latino and of course you're late let me teach you about being on time?
You are the one who's making generalizations after generalization as if a African-Americans could not generalize about themselves, against other people of color . It's still a generalization . So yeah I like them apples.

Omg, this post made my head hurt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG!
All of you can kick rocks!
I know plenty of Latino people who are not as late or ever late in the manner in which you describe .
Screw all of you for trying to say it's something inherently a part of being a Latino .
I know compulsively late people who are racial and ethnic backgrounds you all should be ashamed of yourselves.

Oh, quit it with the feigned act of insult, pp.

I'm Puerto Rican, my husband is Cuban & everyone in our families are one million percent exactly like the OP described, so chill out she said nothing insulting.

We are hard workers & are on time for that, but when it comes time to let loose, we're on nobodies clock!

We call it Latin time or Cuban time or PR time, but she's right it's just the way we were raised. We expect it from each other (which is why our parties last for entire weekends, lol) & nobody within our culture gets mad, because again... its just expected.

Sometimes we forget when we're dealing with white people, because when you're generally around your own for so long, you do tend to forget that others live differently.

Growing up I thought everyone lived the same way... that is until I entered elementary school & I missed out on a bunch of birthday parties because we arrived really late. That's why Latino birthday parties last for 12+ hours or more, lol.

However I promise you this OP, it's never done intentionally... sometimes we really do just forget. I can't imagine how frustrating it must be for you, but as they say "you can't reach an old dog new tricks" & this tardy trick has been engrained in us for many, many generations...sorry.

Just please don't take it personally, we never mean harm by it...its just how we were all raised.

Fellow Boriqua & I definitely agree!

Like the PP said, don't take it personally OP.
I'm very much like you, even though the rest of my family are late-lucinda's.

It is frustrating & I also happen to agree that to outsiders it shows a lack of respect for other people's personal time.
However, I know my family isn't trying to be disrespectful to my time & if they knew I felt this way, they'd feel terrible.

Speaking in terms of being late in general & not a latina thing, I do find that when people are late for no apparent reason, they are telling me that they don't have respect for my time & the time I've spent waiting on them.
I've had to get over that, because when I put the expectations I have for myself on other people, I just tend to become disappointed & hurt and I don't want to live that way.

Depending on who it is & why you're late, is dependant on how I'll react... although, I have come to realize that going through life as a clock watcher isn't very fun.
But that's just me... to each his own!
I

[Anonymous]

My SIL is late to everything. Which is weird, because my DH is the total opposite. But DH still insists on showinv up early and SIL will roll up 45 minutes late like its no big deal. DH gets all agitated but won't say anything to her.

I'm over it. I've started calling it out. DH doesn't like that. I don't like being disrespected and having my time wasted. Alas, SIL and her idiot clod of a husband don't seem to be getting my comments through their very thick skulls.

[Anonymous]

Indian here ... we joke about how late people are and say they are on IST (Indian Standard Time).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My SIL is late to everything. Which is weird, because my DH is the total opposite. But DH still insists on showinv up early and SIL will roll up 45 minutes late like its no big deal. DH gets all agitated but won't say anything to her.

I'm over it. I've started calling it out. DH doesn't like that. I don't like being disrespected and having my time wasted. Alas, SIL and her idiot clod of a husband don't seem to be getting my comments through their very thick skulls.

Don't tell me, SIL is the younger sibling, right? Same dynamic in our family except it's my (younger) brother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG!
All of you can kick rocks!
I know plenty of Latino people who are not as late or ever late in the manner in which you describe .
Screw all of you for trying to say it's something inherently a part of being a Latino .
I know compulsively late people who are racial and ethnic backgrounds you all should be ashamed of yourselves.

Oh, quit it with the feigned act of insult, pp.

I'm Puerto Rican, my husband is Cuban & everyone in our families are one million percent exactly like the OP described, so chill out she said nothing insulting.

We are hard workers & are on time for that, but when it comes time to let loose, we're on nobodies clock!

We call it Latin time or Cuban time or PR time, but she's right it's just the way we were raised. We expect it from each other (which is why our parties last for entire weekends, lol) & nobody within our culture gets mad, because again... its just expected.

Sometimes we forget when we're dealing with white people, because when you're generally around your own for so long, you do tend to forget that others live differently.

Growing up I thought everyone lived the same way... that is until I entered elementary school & I missed out on a bunch of birthday parties because we arrived really late. That's it why Latino birthday parties last for 12+ hours or more, lol.

However I promise you this OP, it's never done intentionally... sometimes we really do just forget. I can't imagine how frustrating it must be for you, but as they say "you can't reach an old dog new tricks" & this tardy trick has been engrained in us for many, many generations...sorry.

Just please don't take it personally, we never mean harm by it...its just how we were all raised.

And......
You are now the spokesman for all Puerto Ricans and Cubans?
Not every Puerto Rican person is late, nor every Cuban person.
They aren't .
And to suggest that most are is asinine.
It's funny you bring that up because all those two island countries are different and have different cultures .
There such a thing called CP time(colored people time).
I'm black, but I'm timely and I don't fit that stereotype.
And certainly don't want that generalization foisted on me.
It is sick and strange that in 2017 people are willing to let themselves be boxed in and stereotyped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG!
All of you can kick rocks!
I know plenty of Latino people who are not as late or ever late in the manner in which you describe .
Screw all of you for trying to say it's something inherently a part of being a Latino .
I know compulsively late people who are racial and ethnic backgrounds you all should be ashamed of yourselves.

Oh, quit it with the feigned act of insult, pp.

I'm Puerto Rican, my husband is Cuban & everyone in our families are one million percent exactly like the OP described, so chill out she said nothing insulting.

We are hard workers & are on time for that, but when it comes time to let loose, we're on nobodies clock!

We call it Latin time or Cuban time or PR time, but she's right it's just the way we were raised. We expect it from each other (which is why our parties last for entire weekends, lol) & nobody within our culture gets mad, because again... its just expected.

Sometimes we forget when we're dealing with white people, because when you're generally around your own for so long, you do tend to forget that others live differently.

Growing up I thought everyone lived the same way... that is until I entered elementary school & I missed out on a bunch of birthday parties because we arrived really late. That's it why Latino birthday parties last for 12+ hours or more, lol.

However I promise you this OP, it's never done intentionally... sometimes we really do just forget. I can't imagine how frustrating it must be for you, but as they say "you can't reach an old dog new tricks" & this tardy trick has been engrained in us for many, many generations...sorry.

Just please don't take it personally, we never mean harm by it...its just how we were all raised.

And......
You are now the spokesman for all Puerto Ricans and Cubans?
Not every Puerto Rican person is late, nor every Cuban person.
They aren't .
And to suggest that most are is asinine.
It's funny you bring that up because all those two island countries are different and have different cultures .
There such a thing called CP time(colored people time).
I'm black, but I'm timely and I don't fit that stereotype.
And certainly don't want that generalization foisted on me.
It is sick and strange that in 2017 people are willing to let themselves be boxed in and stereotyped.

Just give it a rest.

I see nothing wrong with what that pp wrote and I AM Cuban (are you, no?). Her comments were lighthearted & nowhere did she insult or speak negatively about ANY culture, especially her own.
She even told the OP not to take it personally.

News flash... she is ALLOWED to speak about her own experiences with her own race& her own family.
Who are you, the self appointed DCUM police?? Please... She wrote nothing for you to become so unglued & offended by.

You on the other hand sound like a real joy, I'm sure everyone comments on your laid back, easy going & non sticking your nose into other people's business personality, lol.

If you think anything that poster wrote was "sick and strange" then you sound like someone who does nothing all day but LOOK for things to bitch about.

I'm sure you're a total blast at parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My SIL is late to everything. Which is weird, because my DH is the total opposite. But DH still insists on showinv up early and SIL will roll up 45 minutes late like its no big deal. DH gets all agitated but won't say anything to her.

I'm over it. I've started calling it out. DH doesn't like that. I don't like being disrespected and having my time wasted. Alas, SIL and her idiot clod of a husband don't seem to be getting my comments through their very thick skulls.

Don't tell me, SIL is the younger sibling, right? Same dynamic in our family except it's my (younger) brother.

Yep! Almost 6 years between DH and SIL.

[Anonymous]

We call it "Papi Time" and we tell Papi (patriarch of a South American family) when things are on yanqui time.

[Anonymous]

I think my culture (Mexican America) is more lax on time. It's more event centric. If my family knows the Thanksgiving turkey is cut an hour after the party starts, half will show up an hour late. Sunday dinners don't even have a start time---just sundown, later in the summer, earlier in the winter.

But 36 hours and lying to you is not cultural. That's a personality issue. Like others said, you just have to not rely on them. Don't make firm plans, or leave without them and ask them to join you whenever they're ready. If they miss lunch completely, it's on them at that point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG!
All of you can kick rocks!
I know plenty of Latino people who are not as late or ever late in the manner in which you describe .
Screw all of you for trying to say it's something inherently a part of being a Latino .
I know compulsively late people who are racial and ethnic backgrounds you all should be ashamed of yourselves.

Oh, quit it with the feigned act of insult, pp.

I'm Puerto Rican, my husband is Cuban & everyone in our families are one million percent exactly like the OP described, so chill out she said nothing insulting.

We are hard workers & are on time for that, but when it comes time to let loose, we're on nobodies clock!

We call it Latin time or Cuban time or PR time, but she's right it's just the way we were raised. We expect it from each other (which is why our parties last for entire weekends, lol) & nobody within our culture gets mad, because again... its just expected.

Sometimes we forget when we're dealing with white people, because when you're generally around your own for so long, you do tend to forget that others live differently.

Growing up I thought everyone lived the same way... that is until I entered elementary school & I missed out on a bunch of birthday parties because we arrived really late. That's it why Latino birthday parties last for 12+ hours or more, lol.

However I promise you this OP, it's never done intentionally... sometimes we really do just forget. I can't imagine how frustrating it must be for you, but as they say "you can't reach an old dog new tricks" & this tardy trick has been engrained in us for many, many generations...sorry.

Just please don't take it personally, we never mean harm by it...its just how we were all raised.

And......
You are now the spokesman for all Puerto Ricans and Cubans?
Not every Puerto Rican person is late, nor every Cuban person.
They aren't .
And to suggest that most are is asinine.
It's funny you bring that up because all those two island countries are different and have different cultures .
There such a thing called CP time(colored people time).
I'm black, but I'm timely and I don't fit that stereotype.
And certainly don't want that generalization foisted on me.
It is sick and strange that in 2017 people are willing to let themselves be boxed in and stereotyped.

Just give it a rest.

I see nothing wrong with what that pp wrote and I AM Cuban (are you, no?). Her comments were lighthearted & nowhere did she insult or speak negatively about ANY culture, especially her own.
She even told the OP not to take it personally.

News flash... she is ALLOWED to speak about her own experiences with her own race& her own family.
Who are you, the self appointed DCUM police?? Please... She wrote nothing for you to become so unglued & offended by.

You on the other hand sound like a real joy, I'm sure everyone comments on your laid back, easy going & non sticking your nose into other people's business personality, lol.

If you think anything that poster wrote was "sick and strange" then you sound like someone who does nothing all day but LOOK for things to bitch about.

I'm sure you're a total blast at parties.

Are you the police of the DCUM police ???
And you totally missed the point , why would OP take anything personally ? They are not the ones being stereotyped, they are the ones asserting the stereotype .
WHATEVS!

[Anonymous]

My Irish Catholic parents were supposed to be here for lunch today. I texted them at 11 to get an ETA. "Oh, we won't be there until dinner!" WTF? And apparently weren't planning on telling me this major change in plans. Sadly typical for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My Irish Catholic parents were supposed to be here for lunch today. I texted them at 11 to get an ETA. "Oh, we won't be there until dinner!" WTF? And apparently weren't planning on telling me this major change in plans. Sadly typical for them.

Did you tell them you weren't available for dinner, only lunch? Even beloved parents need boundaries reinforced if they continually ignore them. You have your own household now.