Husband's family is ALWAYS late

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG!
All of you can kick rocks!
I know plenty of Latino people who are not as late or ever late in the manner in which you describe .
Screw all of you for trying to say it's something inherently a part of being a Latino .
I know compulsively late people who are racial and ethnic backgrounds you all should be ashamed of yourselves.

Oh please. It's called a generalization. Nobody is saying that every single Latino on the face of the earth is late all the time for everything. Yes, different cultures view time differently. Nobody is judging anybody here, just trying to cope with cultural difference.

Latina here!! I am extremely punctual as is most of my immediate family. However, the rest of the family is always late for social events. It is a cultural thing and I don't like it. However, every single one of them is hard working and not lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG!
All of you can kick rocks!
I know plenty of Latino people who are not as late or ever late in the manner in which you describe .
Screw all of you for trying to say it's something inherently a part of being a Latino .
I know compulsively late people who are racial and ethnic backgrounds you all should be ashamed of yourselves.

NP here. Our Latina nanny of over a decade told me, "We Latinos are always late. That's how we are."

Thankfully, her previous employer drilled into her the importance of being on time for work, but every party and celebration we have gone to with her family and friends has started way late and ended way late. No big deal. Not casting racial stones. Just telling you what was told to me and what we have experienced.

Wow !
A Latino person told you so she must speak for all Latino people, thank God her white employer told her how she should act. White savior to the rescue, how is that for a generalization ????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ILs are similar - always late (by hours), unreliable, make plans they don't keep, etc.

They were supposed to take care of something for us while we were out of town one time, decided at the last second that maybe they couldn't, and had us running around in circles during our vacation trying to find a back up, before they decided (at the point that it had become an emergency) they could do it after all.

They are constantly throwing out dates for the family to get together and then after tons of phone calls discussing it, nothing materializes. Or they ask to come visit us (hour drive away), and then call an hour before they're supposed to arrive to say they're just getting out of bed, or call an hour after they were supposed to arrive to say they're not coming after all.

I've learned my lesson - NEVER rely on them for help. If DH asks for help, I assume they won't come through and make sure we have a back up plan. I consider plans with them tentative until we are actually in the same room. So I won't block off a day for a visit that will probably be cancelled at the last second - I make alternate plans. I don't expect them to ever be on time, so I don't worry about being ready to go or arriving to a party at the time they say. (They are also the types to call a BBQ for 2pm and not start the grill until 4.)

The ILs are who they are. You need to take control of YOUR choices. Don't rely on them to show up or help. You want a drink, order a drink! MIL is hours late, leave without her, or say you have plans and aren't available to drive her. Etc.

Oh, and my ILs are white, from the East Coast. Some people are flaky and unreliable. I don't see it as a racial or cultural thing; it's just how some people/families are. Adapt your own behavior accordingly.

[Anonymous]

polar opposite here. my mother is habitually early....

not talking an hour early on a drive up from florida, but deciding on a whim to arrive 12-24 hours early.

would piss off my wife to no end...

[Anonymous]

I find those that are habitually late extremely rude. Unless, I am contacted via text, etc. I wouldn't wait for anyone after 30 minutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG!
All of you can kick rocks!
I know plenty of Latino people who are not as late or ever late in the manner in which you describe .
Screw all of you for trying to say it's something inherently a part of being a Latino .
I know compulsively late people who are racial and ethnic backgrounds you all should be ashamed of yourselves.

NP here. Our Latina nanny of over a decade told me, "We Latinos are always late. That's how we are."

Thankfully, her previous employer drilled into her the importance of being on time for work, but every party and celebration we have gone to with her family and friends has started way late and ended way late. No big deal. Not casting racial stones. Just telling you what was told to me and what we have experienced.

Wow !
A Latino person told you so she must speak for all Latino people, thank God her white employer told her how she should act. White savior to the rescue, how is that for a generalization ????

Ooh, hit a nerve there, huh, honey? And guess what? Her previous employer was, wait for it, AA! How do you like them apples? Who is committing the sin of generalization now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find those that are habitually late extremely rude. Unless, I am contacted via text, etc. I wouldn't wait for anyone after 30 minutes.

+1 rude and inconsiderate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG!
All of you can kick rocks!
I know plenty of Latino people who are not as late or ever late in the manner in which you describe .
Screw all of you for trying to say it's something inherently a part of being a Latino .
I know compulsively late people who are racial and ethnic backgrounds you all should be ashamed of yourselves.

NP here. Our Latina nanny of over a decade told me, "We Latinos are always late. That's how we are."

Thankfully, her previous employer drilled into her the importance of being on time for work, but every party and celebration we have gone to with her family and friends has started way late and ended way late. No big deal. Not casting racial stones. Just telling you what was told to me and what we have experienced.

Wow !
A Latino person told you so she must speak for all Latino people, thank God her white employer told her how she should act. White savior to the rescue, how is that for a generalization ????

Ooh, hit a nerve there, huh, honey? And guess what? Her previous employer was, wait for it, AA! How do you like them apples? Who is committing the sin of generalization now?

You sound stupid as hell.
You are the one who is still making generalizations. Did her African American employer tell her about punctuality because she was latino or because she was just late ?
Did her African-American players say because your Latino and of course you're late let me teach you about being on time?
You are the one who's making generalizations after generalization as if a African-Americans could not generalize about themselves, against other people of color . It's still a generalization . So yeah I like them apples .

[Anonymous]

36 hours late must be some kind of record.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish I could be more like this. Except for how crazy it makes you, it's a better way to live. No one worries about schedules too much, everyone is always happy to be together whenever/however it happens, if plans fall through, no one much cares, they don't give up a pleasure now because they have an appointment later, they don't stress about a trip for weeks in advance ...

I'm a typical get-there-early-and-have-the-guest-room-spotless planner. I think there's less joy in my life, honestly.

11:36 again.
I derive great relaxation from knowing that I'm not making others' lives a nightmare.
Apparently some people in my life don't care at all about that - it's always them first, and to hell with their inability to plan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG!
All of you can kick rocks!
I know plenty of Latino people who are not as late or ever late in the manner in which you describe .
Screw all of you for trying to say it's something inherently a part of being a Latino .
I know compulsively late people who are racial and ethnic backgrounds you all should be ashamed of yourselves.

NP here. Our Latina nanny of over a decade told me, "We Latinos are always late. That's how we are."

Thankfully, her previous employer drilled into her the importance of being on time for work, but every party and celebration we have gone to with her family and friends has started way late and ended way late. No big deal. Not casting racial stones. Just telling you what was told to me and what we have experienced.

Wow !
A Latino person told you so she must speak for all Latino people, thank God her white employer told her how she should act. White savior to the rescue, how is that for a generalization ????

Ooh, hit a nerve there, huh, honey? And guess what? Her previous employer was, wait for it, AA! How do you like them apples? Who is committing the sin of generalization now?

You sound stupid as hell.
You are the one who is still making generalizations. Did her African American employer tell her about punctuality because she was latino or because she was just late ?
Did her African-American players say because your Latino and of course you're late let me teach you about being on time?
You are the one who's making generalizations after generalization as if a African-Americans could not generalize about themselves, against other people of color . It's still a generalization . So yeah I like them apples .

You are a riot! Keep talking, especially about your expertise in the area of "African American players." Your posts are better than a laugh machine!

[Anonymous]

Hate to break the mold but I have two white sisters that can't tell time either, And since I don't need that stress, I dob't go around them. Been 20 years, don't miss them at all.

When you ruin every holiday and family function, you forfeit your right to be invited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG!
All of you can kick rocks!
I know plenty of Latino people who are not as late or ever late in the manner in which you describe .
Screw all of you for trying to say it's something inherently a part of being a Latino .
I know compulsively late people who are racial and ethnic backgrounds you all should be ashamed of yourselves.

NP here. Our Latina nanny of over a decade told me, "We Latinos are always late. That's how we are."

Thankfully, her previous employer drilled into her the importance of being on time for work, but every party and celebration we have gone to with her family and friends has started way late and ended way late. No big deal. Not casting racial stones. Just telling you what was told to me and what we have experienced.

Wow !
A Latino person told you so she must speak for all Latino people, thank God her white employer told her how she should act. White savior to the rescue, how is that for a generalization ????

Ooh, hit a nerve there, huh, honey? And guess what? Her previous employer was, wait for it, AA! How do you like them apples? Who is committing the sin of generalization now?

You sound stupid as hell.
You are the one who is still making generalizations. Did her African American employer tell her about punctuality because she was latino or because she was just late ?
Did her African-American players say because your Latino and of course you're late let me teach you about being on time?
You are the one who's making generalizations after generalization as if a African-Americans could not generalize about themselves, against other people of color . It's still a generalization . So yeah I like them apples .

You are a riot! Keep talking, especially about your expertise in the area of "African American players." Your posts are better than a laugh machine!

Autocorrect
It was supposed to say employers

[Anonymous]

My husband's non-Latino family used to be like that, but got shamed out of it at our wedding - a destination wedding where everyone was already THERE, but they managed to be late for almost everything anyhow.

Everyone noticed and many commented and things changed.

Spouse is still on the late side, but has learned it's not funny to almost miss planes or inconvenience people with your lack of organization.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG!
All of you can kick rocks!
I know plenty of Latino people who are not as late or ever late in the manner in which you describe .
Screw all of you for trying to say it's something inherently a part of being a Latino .
I know compulsively late people who are racial and ethnic backgrounds you all should be ashamed of yourselves.

NP here. Our Latina nanny of over a decade told me, "We Latinos are always late. That's how we are."

Thankfully, her previous employer drilled into her the importance of being on time for work, but every party and celebration we have gone to with her family and friends has started way late and ended way late. No big deal. Not casting racial stones. Just telling you what was told to me and what we have experienced.

Wow !
A Latino person told you so she must speak for all Latino people, thank God her white employer told her how she should act. White savior to the rescue, how is that for a generalization ????

Ooh, hit a nerve there, huh, honey? And guess what? Her previous employer was, wait for it, AA! How do you like them apples? Who is committing the sin of generalization now?

You sound stupid as hell.
You are the one who is still making generalizations. Did her African American employer tell her about punctuality because she was latino or because she was just late ?
Did her African-American players say because your Latino and of course you're late let me teach you about being on time?
You are the one who's making generalizations after generalization as if a African-Americans could not generalize about themselves, against other people of color . It's still a generalization . So yeah I like them apples .

You are a riot! Keep talking, especially about your expertise in the area of "African American players." Your posts are better than a laugh machine!

Autocorrect
It was supposed to say employers

Oh, really??