Coming to terms with losing looks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never had any so that's a non-issue. Thanks for helping me realize there's an upside to being ugly!

Why don't you just accept that your prime has apparently passed, and it's the younger ladies turn now? You had your decade. This is theirs, you know?

Yes, now that I'm in my 60s I realize that this was a blessing of sorts. I feel great in my 60s but I wasn't pretty so I don't feel like I've lost anything. I wish every nerdy teenaged girl knew this!

On another note, OP, can you carve out some time to exercise? It won't make you gorgeous again but once you start getting back into it, you'll feel physically good and that makes a huge difference to one's quality of life. If you feel good physically, you won't worry as much about whether other people think you're pretty. Good luck with this.

[Anonymous]

I was expecting to open this and see a post from a women in her early to mid 40s.

30?!?!?!?!?!

Any looks that are "lost" at 30 are 100 percent in your control unless you've had a major health issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was expecting to open this and see a post from a women in her early to mid 40s.

30?!?!?!?!?!

Any looks that are "lost" at 30 are 100 percent in your control unless you've had a major health issue.

Don't worry, this is a troll post from some old man. What 30 year old says "I was considered quite a dish"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op what the hell are you doing to lose your looks at 30 and not even have kids as an excuse? You have all the time and resources to devote to self care. Come on. Get off your butt and workout- voila I fixed your fat belly and flabby arms. Get a night cream and baby your skin. Drink water, cut back on booze, don't eat like a teenager who has a lightning fast metabolism. You're too damn young to be losing it like this. I'm 32 with two kids and look the best I ever have. You're going to end up slumping through your prime because you were too lazy to actually take care of yourself and that's all it boils down to: laziness. You have to work a bit harder to look good at 30 than at 22 but it can certainly be done.

I hate to see women throw away their prime years when they should be confident and kicking ass and really growing into themselves because they won't put down the snacks and lift a few weights.

This is OP. I gained 15lbs the last few years of my twenties. Suddenly my metabolism dipped and I was unaware and kept eating like I always had. I have now lost 5 lbs with light lifting and eating tons of fruits and vegetables.

[Anonymous]

Is this a troll post? I finally grew into my self at 30 and was beautiful. Like even my family commented that age had made me good looking. Start exercising and love yourself. Your 30s should be amazing. Women are like wine!

[Anonymous]

Drinking coffee/caffeine and lack of protein are face and hair killers.

Well, a lot of people are okay with coffee. But there are some where it just is horrible for your skin, hair, metabolism.

[Anonymous]

I felt this way, OP, just a few months ago. 37.

But I've recently started taking better care of my skin and making a little more effort with make up and am a little more careful with what I eat. I also do simple exercises more regularly. I've started to feel more attractive again. I don't think I turn heads yet, but I think it's within reach.

Don't give up on yourself.

[Anonymous]

Sad!

[Anonymous]

When I was 32 people still thought I was 19-21

Its genetics

[Anonymous]

47 is the age where I noticed my freshness of youth left the room.
I am now 48 and it takes more time + effort to be "cute."

Dying my hair every two weeks.
Shampooing less ------> Conditioning more.

Eye bags no matter how much I actually sleep.
Meh looking complexion.

Tummy flab.
Age spots.
Skin tags.

Crepey looking hands.

Aging is not for the faint of heart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good looks have to be maintained. If you have a fat belly and flabby arms, it's time to get back into shape. Find a workout routine or classes you enjoy. What happened to your long luscious locks? It sounds like cut and color are in order. Hopefully, you are using salon quality products on your hair. You should also use high quality skincare products. At this point, you should definitely be using an anti-aging system. Daily sunscreen is a must. A visit with a dermatologist to address your skin concerns is in order. Dietary changes are also needed. Eat more fruits, vegetables, and healthy fats.

If you're wearing t-shirts and yoga pants daily, it's also time for wardrobe improvements.

Be sure to take care of yourself mentally and emotionally. Sever toxic relationships. Surround yourself with people who support you.

I think this is the best response so far. I'd add that I went through a dumpy phase after my baby. It wasn't until I did some hard working out that I got back in shape. Once that was back, I could maintain. Then I read How Not To Look Old. Lot of good advice for transitioning out of your younger years. I got a new cut. I revamped my wardrobe by first throwing out everything unflattering or that I didn't feel was "me" anymore. I picked a style and stuck with it so it's easy to dress myself. I don't have time to think about what to wear so I make sure I have a lot of dresses. Dresses are so much easier than tops and bottoms.

I had major stress in my life that was ruining my face so I get Botox/Dysport. Huge difference and no one knows unless I tell them. It's s misconception that you can always tell. You can only tell the bad Botox jobs. I also got an amazing flattering haircut and watched you tube videos on makeup tutorials.

And I can't change the stressors in my life. I am stuck with them so I went and got meds. Antidepressants and benzos. Flame away if you will but I startled sleeping good and stopped feeling like a wreck.

Now, the hot dads at daycare are always checking me out and I get the helped and doors opened, etc.

My husband is very happy too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was 32 people still thought I was 19-21

Its genetics

How does this help OP? You're a complete ass!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was expecting to open this and see a post from a women in her early to mid 40s.

30?!?!?!?!?!

Any looks that are "lost" at 30 are 100 percent in your control unless you've had a major health issue.

Don't worry, this is a troll post from some old man. What 30 year old says "I was considered quite a dish"?

+1.

[Anonymous]

OP, Have you implemented any of these suggestions? If so, how are things going? If not, why not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was expecting to open this and see a post from a women in her early to mid 40s.

30?!?!?!?!?!

Any looks that are "lost" at 30 are 100 percent in your control unless you've had a major health issue.

Don't worry, this is a troll post from some old man. What 30 year old says "I was considered quite a dish"?

+1.

I found the "dish" assertion to be suspect as well.