Men, do you think your wife is hot?

[Anonymous]

I think she can be very hot when she wants to be, certain little thing she does or wears, but after 15+ years she doesn't seem to care about putting much effort into trying. On the rare occasion, though, yes she is still hot at 47.

[Anonymous]

Yes and I tell her regularly that's she's beautiful and sexy. She's 42, and even after 3 kids has a great body, and is a bonafide sex kitten to boot.

Even after so many years we are still very affectionate (the kids groan when they see us kissing or hugging, but whatever).

We both make the effort to stay in shape, eat healthy and keep our appearances up (it matters). And lime another PP, if we go a few days without sex, she's aware and either says something or takes action that evening

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes and I tell her regularly that's she's beautiful and sexy. She's 42, and even after 3 kids has a great body, and is a bonafide sex kitten to boot.

Even after so many years we are still very affectionate (the kids groan when they see us kissing or hugging, but whatever).

We both make the effort to stay in shape, eat healthy and keep our appearances up (it matters). And lime another PP, if we go a few days without sex, she's aware and either says something or takes action that evening

This is a very lucky man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife used to be hot, but over the years, she has gained 40 pounds. I don't tell her she's hot, because she isn't. I just keep quiet when she fishes for compliments.

Do you look mostly the same as when you were dating? If so, then you should believe your DH when he says you're hot.

Wow, you sound like a peach. I feel sorry for your wife.

What exactly do you suggest I do instead ? Lie to her?
You should feel sorry for me: I'm the one with a spouse who's let herself go.

My post was intended to convince OP to believe her DH, that men are honest when calling you hot. Or not doing so, if it's not true.

[Anonymous]

My DH is upset with me because after having 2 kids, my breasts are smaller and I have loose skin on my stomach. I did not get fat, I'm actually about 5 pounds less than before kids, but it all came off my breasts and not my stomach. He's pressing me to get a tummy tuck and implants, which I really don't want because I'm afraid of the risks....and I'm still a D cup and rrally don't want something foreign in my body, but he says he can't stand the way I look now. It makes me so sad. I'm 5'6 and 125-130, so not model thin or anything, but I don't judge him on his baldness or belly, but for women, it's different unfortunately

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH is upset with me because after having 2 kids, my breasts are smaller and I have loose skin on my stomach. I did not get fat, I'm actually about 5 pounds less than before kids, but it all came off my breasts and not my stomach. He's pressing me to get a tummy tuck and implants, which I really don't want because I'm afraid of the risks....and I'm still a D cup and rrally don't want something foreign in my body, but he says he can't stand the way I look now. It makes me so sad. I'm 5'6 and 125-130, so not model thin or anything, but I don't judge him on his baldness or belly, but for women, it's different unfortunately

What an ass.

Signed, a man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife used to be hot, but over the years, she has gained 40 pounds. I don't tell her she's hot, because she isn't. I just keep quiet when she fishes for compliments.

Do you look mostly the same as when you were dating? If so, then you should believe your DH when he says you're hot.

And how is that working for you? I'm sure you'll wonder why you're divorced and alone in a few years.

Do tell: what's your suggestion?

But, if divorce should come:

1) I won't wonder why were are divorced (any marriage without physical attraction is doomed) but I will wonder why she stopped caring about being "hot"

2) I won't be alone for long (I am still "hot")

I would rather spend my life with a kind man who is fat, balding, and has a diarrhea problem, then someone like this poster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH is upset with me because after having 2 kids, my breasts are smaller and I have loose skin on my stomach. I did not get fat, I'm actually about 5 pounds less than before kids, but it all came off my breasts and not my stomach. He's pressing me to get a tummy tuck and implants, which I really don't want because I'm afraid of the risks....and I'm still a D cup and rrally don't want something foreign in my body, but he says he can't stand the way I look now. It makes me so sad. I'm 5'6 and 125-130, so not model thin or anything, but I don't judge him on his baldness or belly, but for women, it's different unfortunately

What an ass.

Signed, a man

Agreed. He's an ass. He has no right to insult you (saying he can't stand the way you look). The fact he now has a belly makes him a hypocritical ass. Don't be sad: defend yourself against his verbal abuse.

Signed, the PP who's wife gained 40 pounds (yet I never say a critical word, plus I've stayed fit)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH is upset with me because after having 2 kids, my breasts are smaller and I have loose skin on my stomach. I did not get fat, I'm actually about 5 pounds less than before kids, but it all came off my breasts and not my stomach. He's pressing me to get a tummy tuck and implants, which I really don't want because I'm afraid of the risks....and I'm still a D cup and rrally don't want something foreign in my body, but he says he can't stand the way I look now. It makes me so sad. I'm 5'6 and 125-130, so not model thin or anything, but I don't judge him on his baldness or belly, but for women, it's different unfortunately

Your husband is an ass. But I just wanted to say you could get a lift instead of implants. I had a tummy tuck and breast lift, and I have so much more confidence now. Maybe you should get the surgery and then ditch your husband.

[Anonymous]

My wife is pretty but not hot. Hot means sexy, and you need to have a strong sex drive to be sexy. Her's evaporated when the kids were born.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I married a "MaryAnn". I'd say she's cute. Ginger was hot.

What does this mean? I don't know the show...

[Anonymous]

Smoking hot and and just turned 45! If I had a dollar for every dude I've seen checking her out... works and makes $$ too I totally lucked out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH is upset with me because after having 2 kids, my breasts are smaller and I have loose skin on my stomach. I did not get fat, I'm actually about 5 pounds less than before kids, but it all came off my breasts and not my stomach. He's pressing me to get a tummy tuck and implants, which I really don't want because I'm afraid of the risks....and I'm still a D cup and rrally don't want something foreign in my body, but he says he can't stand the way I look now. It makes me so sad. I'm 5'6 and 125-130, so not model thin or anything, but I don't judge him on his baldness or belly, but for women, it's different unfortunately

What an ass.

Signed, a man

+2

I'm so sorry

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH is upset with me because after having 2 kids, my breasts are smaller and I have loose skin on my stomach. I did not get fat, I'm actually about 5 pounds less than before kids, but it all came off my breasts and not my stomach. He's pressing me to get a tummy tuck and implants, which I really don't want because I'm afraid of the risks....and I'm still a D cup and rrally don't want something foreign in my body, but he says he can't stand the way I look now. It makes me so sad. I'm 5'6 and 125-130, so not model thin or anything, but I don't judge him on his baldness or belly, but for women, it's different unfortunately

You're 5'6", 125 -130 lbs & a D Cup yet he wants you to get implants??? He must want to be married to Jessica Rabbit!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Smoking hot and and just turned 45! If I had a dollar for every dude I've seen checking her out... works and makes $$ too I totally lucked out

I'll take works and makes money over hot anyday. Better than the ball and chain i have to support.