Q: Catholic Funeral

[Anonymous]

I was recently at a funeral where the church music director, who had a fantastic voice, led the singing. That was a very good thing as the deceased was in her 90s and didn't have a lot of remaining friends, and her small family there couldn't sing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^^ The ones with a picture of the deceased on them are more like protestant memorial cards.

Then you don't know many Irish Catholics, because the card with the picture is absolutely traditional and very common.

Irish Catholic here. I've got my grandma's cards on my desk, one with the Virgin Mary holding baby Jesus and one with baby Jesus, Mary and Joseph, prayers on the back. Have never ever seen a prayer card with a photo. Maybe in your particular neck of the woods, but not mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^^ The ones with a picture of the deceased on them are more like protestant memorial cards.

Then you don't know many Irish Catholics, because the card with the picture is absolutely traditional and very common.

Irish Catholic here. I've got my grandma's cards on my desk, one with the Virgin Mary holding baby Jesus and one with baby Jesus, Mary and Joseph, prayers on the back. Have never ever seen a prayer card with a photo. Maybe in your particular neck of the woods, but not mine.

I've seen them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in the awful position of coordinating a Catholic funeral mass for a relative. Having never done this before, I'm really not sure what I'm supposed to do. I've called the church, set up a date and time. I'm primarily concerned about whether there are any customary fees or tips? I'm guessing I won't be billed for anything, correct? Am I supposed to tip the priest afterwards? Hand him a thank you card with some cash in an envelope? If so, how much?

Unfortunately, I can't think of anyone IRL to ask the question.

BEWARE - THE PRIEST MIGHT LAY DOWN RULES FOR TAKING COMMUNION. Non-Catholics not allowed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm in the awful position of coordinating a Catholic funeral mass for a relative. Having never done this before, I'm really not sure what I'm supposed to do. I've called the church, set up a date and time. I'm primarily concerned about whether there are any customary fees or tips? I'm guessing I won't be billed for anything, correct? Am I supposed to tip the priest afterwards? Hand him a thank you card with some cash in an envelope? If so, how much?

Unfortunately, I can't think of anyone IRL to ask the question.

BEWARE - THE PRIEST MIGHT LAY DOWN RULES FOR TAKING COMMUNION. Non-Catholics not allowed

First of all Catholics “receive” communion, they do not “take” it. The whole “take” thing seems to be an awkward importation of British language usage via the Episcopals.

Second, it is not the priest who “lays down rules” about receiving Communion. It is a uniform Church requirement that to receive the Eucharist a person must be a Catholic in good standing and not aware of being in grave sin. This is not new information.