My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his

[Anonymous]

Sorry, if he kept the inheritance money in a separate account that didn't have your name on it, it's his. You have no legal right to it. The law is very specific on this issue with regard to inheritances.

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Anonymous wrote:If he's feeling guilty and is being more generous than he is legally required to be, then TAKE IT. Soon enough he will get impatient and/or instead of feeling guilty will want to redirect that guilt outward into anger and will withdraw a generous offer.

Push him for as much as you think you can get, and then take it.

Yeah, that's the ticket. Push for everything you can instead of taking the advice of the expert and realizing you are pretty lucky not to be dividing the house, etc. Karma dictates he takes back the offer and forces the sales of the house.

I was amazed at how great the first 5 or 6 replies to this were but DCUM never lets you down. My faith was restored when I hit the quoted response and the one that followed.

[Anonymous]

You wanted to use it for kitchen upgrade? He invested it and now it's 4 million?
How can you not know that inherited money is his? Even a hedgehog knows it. You should be glad he didn't listen to you and put it into the house.
He seems generous to me.

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Anonymous wrote:You wanted to use it for kitchen upgrade? He invested it and now it's 4 million?
How can you not know that inherited money is his? Even a hedgehog knows it. You should be glad he didn't listen to you and put it into the house.
He seems generous to me.

NP here. Don't be an ass. I wouldn't have known it wasn't common property but I'd believe what my lawyer told me.

[Anonymous]

OP, I urge you to find work and start building a career for yourself. Otherwise, what are you going to do in 10 years when the alimony payments stop?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why the spouse is entitled to half the 401k?

If I go into the marriage in 1990 with $100,000.
We're married from 1995 - 2005 in which I accrued another $400,000

should I only have to split the $400,000 from which the time we were married?

Also is this with every retirement accounts (including ROTH and SEP) or just 401Ks?

the 100K is yours, everything earned during 1995-2005 you share.

Actually, the $100K you started with AND the earnings on it are yours. The balance is shared at whatever % you negotiate. This applies to all asset accounts.
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[Anonymous]

Of course the inheritance is his. He is being very generous to you giving you the house and paying you alimony for a decade. Take it before he changes his mind.

I would try to get in writing that he will take care of college funds for the kids.

[Anonymous]

So you are a SAHM to high schoolers. You decided the gravy train was just too much and you've had enough of your marriage, and you want the house, alimony, child support, and $2 million in cash? Are you Donald Trump's secret wife? What exactly is he getting out of this arrangement?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he's feeling guilty and is being more generous than he is legally required to be, then TAKE IT. Soon enough he will get impatient and/or instead of feeling guilty will want to redirect that guilt outward into anger and will withdraw a generous offer.

Push him for as much as you think you can get, and then take it.

Yeah, that's the ticket. Push for everything you can instead of taking the advice of the expert and realizing you are pretty lucky not to be dividing the house, etc. Karma dictates he takes back the offer and forces the sales of the house.

I was amazed at how great the first 5 or 6 replies to this were but DCUM never lets you down. My faith was restored when I hit the quoted response and the one that followed.

+1 His inheritence - not yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you are a SAHM to high schoolers. You decided the gravy train was just too much and you've had enough of your marriage, and you want the house, alimony, child support, and $2 million in cash? Are you Donald Trump's secret wife? What exactly is he getting out of this arrangement?

I'm curious if she would've divorced if she realized beforehand that she wasn't walking away with $2 mil.

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Anonymous wrote:He is right. It is his. Sounds like he was pretty deliberate and smart about knowing this and never used the money jointly. It's not yours and frankly I think it's selfish of people to believe that HIS inheritance from
HIS family belongs to you.

. Dear OP - I was in this situation but I was the DW with the inheritance. STBX refused to cooperate on custody, fought for every dollar and made my life hell for 3 years until I just gave him the money to get him away from me (after 24 years together). I wondered why he was buying new clothes and taking expensive trips then he told me he wanted half of everything ...you could go this route. If you are up for being a real jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course the inheritance is his. He is being very generous to you giving you the house and paying you alimony for a decade. Take it before he changes his mind.

I would try to get in writing that he will take care of college funds for the kids.

. Put it in the separation agreement that he has to fund each kids 529 plan with 60,000 upfront.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I urge you to find work and start building a career for yourself. Otherwise, what are you going to do in 10 years when the alimony payments stop?

Remarry of course

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course the inheritance is his. He is being very generous to you giving you the house and paying you alimony for a decade. Take it before he changes his mind.

I would try to get in writing that he will take care of college funds for the kids.

. Put it in the separation agreement that he has to fund each kids 529 plan with 60,000 upfront.

I don't think OP is in a strong bargaining position, folks.

Why should her DH agree, in writing, to fully fund the kids' college tuition on his own? He's already giving OP more than she is legally entitled to.

[Anonymous]

How did he make that much off Apple? I invested in apple in 2004 and I've only doubled my money.