Can I yell at my daughter for this?

[Anonymous]

It doesn't sound to me like she's over ordering. The portion sizes are usually too large and well over the normal portion size suggested by nutritionists. Your daughter sounds to me like she orders healthy options and even used the extra toast to spread the avocado on. Be happy - would you rather have her ordering and eating the pancakes with whipped cream? Ask if they have half size or appetizer size portions. It's not her fault the portions are too big.

[Anonymous]

Whether she ate all the food or not is immaterial - it's a sunk cost. Meaning, you pay the same amount of money no matter how much she eats. So, no, you don't get to yell at her for only eating half of it because it's the cost that is the issue.

[Anonymous]

OP, if this bothers you, I would do the following:

I told my two kids that we can go out only if they share the meal (either with adult or among themselves). The portions are big, it is expensive to eat out and if they enjoy to eat out, this is their only option.
If we go out for dinner and if they want their own food, they have this option:

- each order appetizer (mine never liked kids menu)
- they each order meal conditioned that they will eat leftover at the next meal (they learned to choose something that can be taken next day to school for lunch).

[Anonymous]

What the h, OP? I always ask for a box because restaurant portions are always to big. Just ask for one, the servers will bring it.

[Anonymous]

You should have finished off her food if you were so concerned about it.

[Anonymous]

Np: OP, do you also have a son that orders too much at food courts when on a field trip?

[Anonymous]

Well good thing she ate your leftover toast, so that you can direct your loathing at her instead of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a father like this. He was a complete cheapskate and would act super passive aggressive and angry if I ordered anything that was more expensive than the (very cheap) margin he set for me. Often he would try to hold it in but make it VERY OBVIOUS that he was extremely angry about it by acting silent and making annoyed faces. Sometimes he would bring it up to me later and launch into long spiels about how selfish it was

That resulted in me gradually learning to block him out entirely, and eat my food in silence while he tried (unsuccessfully) to make me feel remorseful by glaring at me.

And now.... we don't speak. I blocked his number and eventually changed it. Because this behavior was symptomatic of his overall childish, passive aggressive, and controlling behavior, and his anger issues.

Now, I happily eat out, ordering what I want. Sometimes I order two dishes, if I have a real craving, and I'll eat what I want from it and not necessarily finish. And sometimes I will remember how psycho it would have made my father and it feels like a delicious "screw you" to him. Because it really is about more than food, right? It's about control and needing things to be "your way", isn't it OP?

I got sick and tired of having that trash in my life and I am SO much happier now. I suspect your daughter will follow a similar path.

Sorry you had to go through that but good for you that you cut him off! I also suspect ops daughter will die the same and it will be welldeserved.
Prepare yourself op

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What the h, OP? I always ask for a box because restaurant portions are always to big. Just ask for one, the servers will bring it.

It seems like nobody read the OP. The kid won't eat the leftovers!

[Anonymous]

This has to be the same insane, idiotic, control freak OP who went crazy when her son spent $20 at the air and space museum for food. What a heinous b.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What the h, OP? I always ask for a box because restaurant portions are always to big. Just ask for one, the servers will bring it.

It seems like nobody read the OP. The kid won't eat the leftovers!

Those leftovers are inedible! Quinoa in yogurt?! It'll barely be good through the car ride home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well good thing she ate your leftover toast, so that you can direct your loathing at her instead of yourself.

Oh, she told me she was going to order a side of toast with her side of avocado and I told her no, I would just give her my toast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well good thing she ate your leftover toast, so that you can direct your loathing at her instead of yourself.

What would OP do if he hadn't finished his toast? I'm picturing some self-flagellation, DaVinci Code style

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has to be the same insane, idiotic, control freak OP who went crazy when her son spent $20 at the air and space museum for food. What a heinous b.

Is it a male or a female? I can't tell. All I'm getting is a boatload of crazy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has to be the same insane, idiotic, control freak OP who went crazy when her son spent $20 at the air and space museum for food. What a heinous b.

I remember that one. It does sound like the same kind of crazy