Can I yell at my daughter for this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are mad because she got a yogurt bowl and a SIDE OF AVOCADO? And a drink, which is expected?


What. In. The. Hell.

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This post is blowing my mind, I must be missing something

If the financial straits are dire enough for you to be in a rage about this, OP- not only should you not be taking your daughter out to eat, you should not ever be going out to eat yourself either. And perhaps looking into footstamps .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you ask for a box?

I ask if she wants to take her leftovers home EVERY SINGLE time and she either says no, or takes it home and then doesn't eat it later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is listening to her body and stopping eating when she's full. It doesn't sound like she ordered anything particularly expensive either.

I'm all for her listening to her body. But she is wasting over 50% of what she is ordering. That's what I have the problem with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is listening to her body and stopping eating when she's full. It doesn't sound like she ordered anything particularly expensive either.

I'm all for her listening to her body. But she is wasting over 50% of what she is ordering. That's what I have the problem with.

You sound like you have some serious control issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:???

What's wrong with you, OP?

American portions are ginormous. We are on a tight budget and don't go out much, however, if she had to order a drink, it's fine if she doesn't finish it. It's fine if she has some but not all of her VERY HEALTHY choices.

I applaud her, and advise you to check yourself.

She didn't have to order a drink at all. She could have just gotten water and had she ASKED me if she could have a lemonade I'd have said no. My issue isn't the food choices but the QUANTITY of food she orders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:???

What's wrong with you, OP?

American portions are ginormous. We are on a tight budget and don't go out much, however, if she had to order a drink, it's fine if she doesn't finish it. It's fine if she has some but not all of her VERY HEALTHY choices.

I applaud her, and advise you to check yourself.

She didn't have to order a drink at all. She could have just gotten water and had she ASKED me if she could have a lemonade I'd have said no. My issue isn't the food choices but the QUANTITY of food she orders.

What in the hell is wrong with you? Are you homeless or something?

[Anonymous]

This has to be a troll post. No one can be this clueless. There is no way

[Anonymous]

No, don't yell. Be happy she is healthy and ask for a box. Duh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP do you talk about having "eyes bigger than your stomach"? Some families have cash to burn at restaurants. Some don't. Is there a reason she doesn't like to take leftovers home? It sounds to me like you should cut back on taking her out.

I haven't but I really want to. I don't like leftovers reheated so I understand the idea of not wanting them. I think you're right, and will cut back on taking her out.

[Anonymous]

So, what do you want her to have ordered? She ate all the avocado. Should she have just ordered avocado and water.

[Anonymous]

I had a father like this. He was a complete cheapskate and would act super passive aggressive and angry if I ordered anything that was more expensive than the (very cheap) margin he set for me. Often he would try to hold it in but make it VERY OBVIOUS that he was extremely angry about it by acting silent and making annoyed faces. Sometimes he would bring it up to me later and launch into long spiels about how selfish it was

That resulted in me gradually learning to block him out entirely, and eat my food in silence while he tried (unsuccessfully) to make me feel remorseful by glaring at me.

And now.... we don't speak. I blocked his number and eventually changed it. Because this behavior was symptomatic of his overall childish, passive aggressive, and controlling behavior, and his anger issues.

Now, I happily eat out, ordering what I want. Sometimes I order two dishes, if I have a real craving, and I'll eat what I want from it and not necessarily finish. And sometimes I will remember how psycho it would have made my father and it feels like a delicious "screw you" to him. Because it really is about more than food, right? It's about control and needing things to be "your way", isn't it OP?

I got sick and tired of having that trash in my life and I am SO much happier now. I suspect your daughter will follow a similar path.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why you didn't get her leftovers to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you ask for a box?

That's what I do.

And then I eat it at home!

Easy to do with some foods, gross with what she ordered.

She is eating the way she should. She ordered a healthy meal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you didn't get her leftovers to go.

Because quinoa soaked in yogurt gets gross.

Steak reheats well. Grains soaked in dairy? Yuck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, don't yell. Be happy she is healthy and ask for a box. Duh!

This. And if you think it's wasteful, then you eat the leftovers. Or don't take her out to eat. We never over-order when DH and I take our three kids out to eat. We base our own orders on what the kids might not eat and plan to either eat what they don't finish or take it home. We aren't cheapskates, but I hate wasting food and money, and this is something we have taught our kids.