Switching back to my maiden name

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This ridiculous American sexist custom of women changing their names. We Hispanics always keep our names. I never once considered changing my name. Also sexist for the kids to take only the husband's name. They should get both names. I have never understood why any self respecting woman would go along with this.

And... which last name of yours did your kids get????

They got 14 different names because no one in her family would ever give up a name, so everything just got hyphenated.

Please see 17:30. I'd love to hear your response! Perhaps a visit to Wikipedia would also help you to understand different cultures' naming customs?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And then at a certain point the kids have 14 names...

When do the kids have 14 names? I've heard this reasoning mentioned many times, but have never heard of someone in real life with anything even approaching that many names. Please explain. Cites appreciated. Thanks!

NP here. Don't really get why you're being purposefully obtuse about this. You give your kid both names. How does that kid decide what to name their kid? Pretty reasonable question, and we shouldn't have to look to Wikipedia, you should tell us your answer. Your reticence to do so is a bit curious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This ridiculous American sexist custom of women changing their names. We Hispanics always keep our names. I never once considered changing my name. Also sexist for the kids to take only the husband's name. They should get both names. I have never understood why any self respecting woman would go along with this.

I got to carry the beauties, he got to call them by his last name. I DID NOT want them to have a hyphenated last name. Or two last names. His last name made the most sense to me. And my kids can change their name to include mine if they wish. Or to include their spouses. Or to an entirely different name.

I have number understood why any self-respecting woman wouldn't try to empathize with somebody else's choices.

[Anonymous]

I changed back to my maiden name when we separated. It is actually very easy. It involves some minor paperwork at the court house and a fee of approx $60.00 (in MD). Changing credit cards is the biggest pain (they require more proof of the name change.

It took me a couple months to get everything changed including a new passport. It wasn't as big an ordeal as I had imagined.

Go for it!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And then at a certain point the kids have 14 names...

When do the kids have 14 names? I've heard this reasoning mentioned many times, but have never heard of someone in real life with anything even approaching that many names. Please explain. Cites appreciated. Thanks!

NP here. Don't really get why you're being purposefully obtuse about this. You give your kid both names. How does that kid decide what to name their kid? Pretty reasonable question, and we shouldn't have to look to Wikipedia, you should tell us your answer. Your reticence to do so is a bit curious.

My reticence to do what? No one asked me a question. Perhaps if you could manage to read a sentence or two of the Wikipedia link, you'd understand how parents like the Hispanic PP choose names for their children. Since that's apparently too much for you to handle, here you go:

"According to these customs, a person's name consists of a given name (simple or composite) followed by two family names (surnames). The first surname is usually the father's first surname, and the second the mother's first surname....If a man named Eduardo Fernández Garrido marries a woman named María Dolores Martínez Ruiz and they have a child named José, there are several legal options, but their child would most usually be known as José Fernández Martínez."

Since people like the "14 names" poster show up on every thread like this to insist that the future offspring of kids with two last names (or even one last name and two middles, since they're apparently under the assumption that kids take their parents middle names AND surnames?) will end up with some ridiculous amount of names, I think it's fair to ask them to back that up with actual proof. So, feel free to provide that.

[Anonymous]

I changed mine back - just did not want to share more with him than I had to. The kids don't care. (mine were 2 when we split up.)

[Anonymous]

Flawed logic by 12:48 and 13:00 -- a woman is not "wiping out her identity" by changing her name upon marriage. Are they claiming that a woman's identity is so terribly fragile? What a silly assertion. Perhaps only outdone by 13:23's claim of "small penis syndrome."

Men may not typically give up their surnames to marriage, but they are certainly expected to give up plenty, much of which is, arguably, part of their identity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pick a whole NEW last name.

LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And then at a certain point the kids have 14 names...

When do the kids have 14 names? I've heard this reasoning mentioned many times, but have never heard of someone in real life with anything even approaching that many names. Please explain. Cites appreciated. Thanks!

NP here. Don't really get why you're being purposefully obtuse about this. You give your kid both names. How does that kid decide what to name their kid? Pretty reasonable question, and we shouldn't have to look to Wikipedia, you should tell us your answer. Your reticence to do so is a bit curious.

My reticence to do what? No one asked me a question. Perhaps if you could manage to read a sentence or two of the Wikipedia link, you'd understand how parents like the Hispanic PP choose names for their children. Since that's apparently too much for you to handle, here you go:

"According to these customs, a person's name consists of a given name (simple or composite) followed by two family names (surnames). The first surname is usually the father's first surname, and the second the mother's first surname....If a man named Eduardo Fernández Garrido marries a woman named María Dolores Martínez Ruiz and they have a child named José, there are several legal options, but their child would most usually be known as José Fernández Martínez."

Since people like the "14 names" poster show up on every thread like this to insist that the future offspring of kids with two last names (or even one last name and two middles, since they're apparently under the assumption that kids take their parents middle names AND surnames?) will end up with some ridiculous amount of names, I think it's fair to ask them to back that up with actual proof. So, feel free to provide that.

Thanks for proving the point that in your naming tradition as well, the father's name is the one usually passed on and the mother's fades away. Not seeing how this is some great win for feminism.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Pick a whole NEW last name.

LOL

I knew a married couple who did this. They changed their last name to Rain, to honor the place where they met. At some point, why not just choose a name that is meaningful to you and use it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And then at a certain point the kids have 14 names...

When do the kids have 14 names? I've heard this reasoning mentioned many times, but have never heard of someone in real life with anything even approaching that many names. Please explain. Cites appreciated. Thanks!

NP here. Don't really get why you're being purposefully obtuse about this. You give your kid both names. How does that kid decide what to name their kid? Pretty reasonable question, and we shouldn't have to look to Wikipedia, you should tell us your answer. Your reticence to do so is a bit curious.

My reticence to do what? No one asked me a question. Perhaps if you could manage to read a sentence or two of the Wikipedia link, you'd understand how parents like the Hispanic PP choose names for their children. Since that's apparently too much for you to handle, here you go:

"According to these customs, a person's name consists of a given name (simple or composite) followed by two family names (surnames). The first surname is usually the father's first surname, and the second the mother's first surname....If a man named Eduardo Fernández Garrido marries a woman named María Dolores Martínez Ruiz and they have a child named José, there are several legal options, but their child would most usually be known as José Fernández Martínez."

Since people like the "14 names" poster show up on every thread like this to insist that the future offspring of kids with two last names (or even one last name and two middles, since they're apparently under the assumption that kids take their parents middle names AND surnames?) will end up with some ridiculous amount of names, I think it's fair to ask them to back that up with actual proof. So, feel free to provide that.

Thanks for proving the point that in your naming tradition as well, the father's name is the one usually passed on and the mother's fades away. Not seeing how this is some great win for feminism.

You are sorely lacking in critical thinking skills. I don't even know where to begin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love when women don't change their last name when they marry, claiming that it's an antiquated notion, and that these are "different times."

I wonder if these same women realize that monogamy and marital fidelity are also "antiquated?"

No way. Didn't realize that at all. Thanks for letting me know! Now what?

[Anonymous]

My husband and I both kept our own last name. DH already has a two word last name being Dutch so hyphenation wouldn't really work. For our kids our first we decided a girl would have my last name and if it was a boy it would have his last name. It was a boy. For our second I told him that I wanted the baby to have my last name no matter the gender since we just planned on two. It was also a boy so now we are a mixed last name family. No issues with it so far.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Flawed logic by 12:48 and 13:00 -- a woman is not "wiping out her identity" by changing her name upon marriage. Are they claiming that a woman's identity is so terribly fragile? What a silly assertion. Perhaps only outdone by 13:23's claim of "small penis syndrome."

Men may not typically give up their surnames to marriage, but they are certainly expected to give up plenty, much of which is, arguably, part of their identity.

It was meant quite literally. Try looking up your female ancestors or even girls you knew as a kid. Lots of blanks there. That points to a loss of identity for the women.

You sound like the saddest sack on Earth, having given up so much when you married. Does she keep them in a jar on the mantel?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And then at a certain point the kids have 14 names...

When do the kids have 14 names? I've heard this reasoning mentioned many times, but have never heard of someone in real life with anything even approaching that many names. Please explain. Cites appreciated. Thanks!

NP here. Don't really get why you're being purposefully obtuse about this. You give your kid both names. How does that kid decide what to name their kid? Pretty reasonable question, and we shouldn't have to look to Wikipedia, you should tell us your answer. Your reticence to do so is a bit curious.

My reticence to do what? No one asked me a question. Perhaps if you could manage to read a sentence or two of the Wikipedia link, you'd understand how parents like the Hispanic PP choose names for their children. Since that's apparently too much for you to handle, here you go:

"According to these customs, a person's name consists of a given name (simple or composite) followed by two family names (surnames). The first surname is usually the father's first surname, and the second the mother's first surname....If a man named Eduardo Fernández Garrido marries a woman named María Dolores Martínez Ruiz and they have a child named José, there are several legal options, but their child would most usually be known as José Fernández Martínez."

Since people like the "14 names" poster show up on every thread like this to insist that the future offspring of kids with two last names (or even one last name and two middles, since they're apparently under the assumption that kids take their parents middle names AND surnames?) will end up with some ridiculous amount of names, I think it's fair to ask them to back that up with actual proof. So, feel free to provide that.

Thanks for proving the point that in your naming tradition as well, the father's name is the one usually passed on and the mother's fades away. Not seeing how this is some great win for feminism.

You are sorely lacking in critical thinking skills. I don't even know where to begin.

Right.

Except in the example you provided, Jose will usually have both of his grandFATHER's last names. José's child will probably get Jose's FATHER's name and Wife's FATHER's name.