11-year-old says my food is terrible

[Anonymous]

Two things.

1. He helps you cook.

2. Maybe have an honest convo with whoever else eats your food. Maybe there are some tweaks you could make. According to my DH, his mom was a really bland cook. He was raised that you never complain about the food someone else cooked for you so he became a hot sauce addict. He's gotten better but when we first met he was even dousing spaghetti and meatballs and hot sauce.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, but you people are so fucking weak with your little snowflakes!

Cereal and Ice Cream for dinner? Oh, fuck no. Your pediatrician is an absolute moron too if he/she thinks that is OK nutrition for a growing child.

My kids last night hated every bite of dinner. Jamaican Jerk Chicken, Roasted Asparagus, and baked potato. Zero Fucks are given by me. Eat it or starve. I promise you they will not starve.

Point of inquiry: Why would you be giving "Fucks" to your kids of all people.

Follow up: Do your kids share your love of filthy vocabulary and hair trigger threshold for anger?

Seriously. I bet this dad (and it is a dad) probably thinks he's being Very Assertive as a parent with his rigidity. Instead, he's just being an asshole.

Oh no, I bet it's a mom.

Haha! You all are great. Not you, "zero fucks" parent. My child isn't too picky, but I don't mind being flexible with what I serve if there's a food aversion. I like enjoying a good meal with my family. The last 3 meals we had: salad with chicken and bread, grilled chicken with rice and broccoli, cauliflower and carrots, and tonight it was soup and sandwiches bc husband was out of town.

[Anonymous]

Op, I am am curious what you are cooking!

[Anonymous]

I agree with pediatrician that food battles aren't a good thing. For,those of you who say that they'll eventually eat what you make if you essentially starve them out, that never worked for me with my picky, vegetarian eater. Turns out that he's ASD and has a lot of food texture issues.

My rule: I always try to have one thing on the table that I know each kid will typically eat. Beyond that, they can make their own dinner if they don't like what I'm offering. ASD child will typically heat up a bag of edamame and grab a banana. He also sometimes makes a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.

No one gets dessert without eating something healthy. I find it's best for family harmony to not dictate what the healthy thing is.

[Anonymous]

What if he just doesn't like your cooking? I didn't like my mother's cooking, I would say about 75% of it I didn't like. I ate it out of fear (not respect) and gave as much to the dog as I could get away with. A different opinion in and of itself is not disrespectful.

Maybe you should have a talk with him about what he does like (if it's nothing and he's just being difficult, that's something else). Make him help with the cooking. And no snacks/dessert if he doesn't eat a reasonable dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, but you people are so fucking weak with your little snowflakes!

Cereal and Ice Cream for dinner? Oh, fuck no. Your pediatrician is an absolute moron too if he/she thinks that is OK nutrition for a growing child.

My kids last night hated every bite of dinner. Jamaican Jerk Chicken, Roasted Asparagus, and baked potato. Zero Fucks are given by me. Eat it or starve. I promise you they will not starve.

Point of inquiry: Why would you be giving "Fucks" to your kids of all people.

Follow up: Do your kids share your love of filthy vocabulary and hair trigger threshold for anger?

You an absolute genius. Your critical reading is a force to be reckoned with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, but you people are so fucking weak with your little snowflakes!

Cereal and Ice Cream for dinner? Oh, fuck no. Your pediatrician is an absolute moron too if he/she thinks that is OK nutrition for a growing child.

My kids last night hated every bite of dinner. Jamaican Jerk Chicken, Roasted Asparagus, and baked potato. Zero Fucks are given by me. Eat it or starve. I promise you they will not starve.

Point of inquiry: Why would you be giving "Fucks" to your kids of all people.

Follow up: Do your kids share your love of filthy vocabulary and hair trigger threshold for anger?

Seriously. I bet this dad (and it is a dad) probably thinks he's being Very Assertive as a parent with his rigidity. Instead, he's just being an asshole.

Oh no, I bet it's a mom.

Haha! You all are great. Not you, "zero fucks" parent. My child isn't too picky, but I don't mind being flexible with what I serve if there's a food aversion. I like enjoying a good meal with my family. The last 3 meals we had: salad with chicken and bread, grilled chicken with rice and broccoli, cauliflower and carrots, and tonight it was soup and sandwiches bc husband was out of town.

I really upset you hens. Thanks for the amusement!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with pediatrician that food battles aren't a good thing. For,those of you who say that they'll eventually eat what you make if you essentially starve them out, that never worked for me with my picky, vegetarian eater. Turns out that he's ASD and has a lot of food texture issues.

My rule: I always try to have one thing on the table that I know each kid will typically eat. Beyond that, they can make their own dinner if they don't like what I'm offering. ASD child will typically heat up a bag of edamame and grab a banana. He also sometimes makes a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.

No one gets dessert without eating something healthy. I find it's best for family harmony to not dictate what the healthy thing is.

You are an outlier. Most of our kids do not have autism, so there is no excuse for them to behave like they do.

I don't have negotiations with kids over food, so they don't even try, so we too have harmony. Once they can cook an entire well rounded meal for the family and clean it up afterwards, then they can get full voting rights. You think kids in food scarce situations are turning their nose up and demanding more options? They will not starve, unless you have set the precedence that you get steam rolled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, but you people are so fucking weak with your little snowflakes!

Cereal and Ice Cream for dinner? Oh, fuck no. Your pediatrician is an absolute moron too if he/she thinks that is OK nutrition for a growing child.

My kids last night hated every bite of dinner. Jamaican Jerk Chicken, Roasted Asparagus, and baked potato. Zero Fucks are given by me. Eat it or starve. I promise you they will not starve.

Plus 1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with pediatrician that food battles aren't a good thing. For,those of you who say that they'll eventually eat what you make if you essentially starve them out, that never worked for me with my picky, vegetarian eater. Turns out that he's ASD and has a lot of food texture issues.

My rule: I always try to have one thing on the table that I know each kid will typically eat. Beyond that, they can make their own dinner if they don't like what I'm offering. ASD child will typically heat up a bag of edamame and grab a banana. He also sometimes makes a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.

No one gets dessert without eating something healthy. I find it's best for family harmony to not dictate what the healthy thing is.

You are an outlier. Most of our kids do not have autism, so there is no excuse for them to behave like they do.

I don't have negotiations with kids over food, so they don't even try, so we too have harmony. Once they can cook an entire well rounded meal for the family and clean it up afterwards, then they can get full voting rights. You think kids in food scarce situations are turning their nose up and demanding more options? They will not starve, unless you have set the precedence that you get steam rolled.

OK, plus 1 to this poster. because really, who among us ever regused dinner every night and existed on ice cream???? I was a picky eater. beyond picky. and I never was allowed to do this. Now, if he really hates something (liver, mashed potatoes, baked beans and Kimaya beans. yuck) them don't makeep it. But being told food is displayed? that's just downright rude. And he's not 3 years old with "big emotions." he's a teen who can learn to either vook a few meals and to shut the hell up.

I really do think patents just give in too much to their kids. lord knows how thesekids will do in a job when they won't get what they want day one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with pediatrician that food battles aren't a good thing. For,those of you who say that they'll eventually eat what you make if you essentially starve them out, that never worked for me with my picky, vegetarian eater. Turns out that he's ASD and has a lot of food texture issues.

My rule: I always try to have one thing on the table that I know each kid will typically eat. Beyond that, they can make their own dinner if they don't like what I'm offering. ASD child will typically heat up a bag of edamame and grab a banana. He also sometimes makes a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.

No one gets dessert without eating something healthy. I find it's best for family harmony to not dictate what the healthy thing is.

You are an outlier. Most of our kids do not have autism, so there is no excuse for them to behave like they do.

I don't have negotiations with kids over food, so they don't even try, so we too have harmony. Once they can cook an entire well rounded meal for the family and clean it up afterwards, then they can get full voting rights. You think kids in food scarce situations are turning their nose up and demanding more options? They will not starve, unless you have set the precedence that you get steam rolled.

OK, plus 1 to this poster. because really, who among us ever regused dinner every night and existed on ice cream???? I was a picky eater. beyond picky. and I never was allowed to do this. Now, if he really hates something (liver, mashed potatoes, baked beans and Kimaya beans. yuck) them don't makeep it. But being told food is displayed? that's just downright rude. And he's not 3 years old with "big emotions." he's a teen who can learn to either vook a few meals and to shut the hell up.

I really do think patents just give in too much to their kids. lord knows how thesekids will do in a job when they won't get what they want day one.

Uh...................

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's not be too quick to blame OP. I have a 14 year old who recently turned into a jerk. Had to remind him that the only thing you say to someone who made you food is "thank you" if you don't like it.

He can cook. He doesn't ever want to, but he can.

The whole dynamic can be pretty infuriating One night not too long ago, DS and DH complained about by cooking after I came home from work and made it for us (btw, I was the last one to get home). I took their plates away, put the food in the fridge, and took myself out for a walk in the woods.

In your case, I blame your dh!

[Anonymous]

To OP. Disregard venomous posters. It happened with my kids around that age that they became picky about food, mine were always picky and would only eat my food until early teen/preteen years. I am a great cook, not boasting. Unless you are truly an awful cook, kids at that age like to eat what they feel like, just like you do, and you probably cook what you like to some extent. Remind your kid to be respectful to you, but try to make compromises as this age is when they are trying to develop their own identity and that is transferring to food. Ask what would he like for dinner tomorrow, talk as you would with an adult about what foods he might like to try and see if he will help you cook. Offer to buy some food for dinner as well, CalTor, Chipotle, preteens like that and soon you will be having a teen who will not only eat non stop, but will eat your food and still be hungry and will be going to eat with friends everyday after school. But it you are truly a really bad cook, then I don't know, what do you think of your own food? Is your kid into really healthy food or doesn't care? Many people of DCUM confuse being jerks to their kids to being "firm" parents.

[Anonymous]

You have an underweight child who needs more calories. Why in the world would you deny him a bowl of cereal or ice cream?

Signed, mom a child beneath the growth chart, and you bet she gets cereal and ice cream.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, here's a list of things my 9 YO can cook, for inspiration:
-quesadillas
-pancakes
-spaghetti with sauce
-Mac and cheese
-steamed veggies
-corn on the cob
-hot dogs
-tacos
-grilled cheese
-frozen pizza
-pre-made chicken tenders (frozen)

OP, unless you want to find yourself with a cholesterol ridden kid, disregard half of these suggestions. Hot dogs? Frozen pizza? Pre made chicken tenders? Mac and cheese? This PP must weight 400lbs, and the idea of "kid's food" is causing obesity crisis in the US.