11-year-old says my food is terrible

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, but you people are so fucking weak with your little snowflakes!

Cereal and Ice Cream for dinner? Oh, fuck no. Your pediatrician is an absolute moron too if he/she thinks that is OK nutrition for a growing child.

My kids last night hated every bite of dinner. Jamaican Jerk Chicken, Roasted Asparagus, and baked potato. Zero Fucks are given by me. Eat it or starve. I promise you they will not starve.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: This is a skinny kid so I'm not too thrilled about having him miss meals. He was never very picky when he was younger but how do you deal with preteen not wanting to eat what you serve for dinner? I know the general descriptions of my food being yucky are disrespectful but do I battle over his disrespect or just let this go and not feed him? By the way and he usually goes for cereal or ice cream about 9 PM. I deny him having something to eat later? Our pediatrician says just not to battle about the food but how do others handle this?

Who would allow that? You brought this on yourself, OP.

First, he has to apologize for saying that about your food.
Then, ask him for suggestions on cooking, and this summer, teach him to cook. He's old enough to learn making simple meals. That includes selecting items at the grocery store, composing a meal, cooking, serving and cleaning up.

Turn lemons into lemonade, OP!

And NO cereal or ice cream at 9pm, for God's sake. I have a 3th percentiler - he's not allowed that either.

Don't be a twit. He's 11 not 2.

I'll bet my left nut that this didn't start at age 11

Yup. My friend's son has been manipulating his parents since he was about 4yrs old. He's 10 now and plays them like a fiddle. They now have to travel with a jar of PB & Jelly and a loaf of bread because that is the only thing they can guarantee he can eat. If that is TRULY the case, then he's mentally ill and has bigger problems.

It is honestly embarrassing to them that their kid eats like a toddler.

[Anonymous]

OP, here's a list of things my 9 YO can cook, for inspiration:
-quesadillas
-pancakes
-spaghetti with sauce
-Mac and cheese
-steamed veggies
-corn on the cob
-hot dogs
-tacos
-grilled cheese
-frozen pizza
-pre-made chicken tenders (frozen)

[Anonymous]

Let's not be too quick to blame OP. I have a 14 year old who recently turned into a jerk. Had to remind him that the only thing you say to someone who made you food is "thank you" if you don't like it.

He can cook. He doesn't ever want to, but he can.

The whole dynamic can be pretty infuriating One night not too long ago, DS and DH complained about by cooking after I came home from work and made it for us (btw, I was the last one to get home). I took their plates away, put the food in the fridge, and took myself out for a walk in the woods.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would teach him to make a limited number of alternative items he could do himself--such as grilled cheese or other sandwich or scrambled eggs--and those would be his only choices other than the main meal. No dessert unless he ate something reasonably healthy first.

+1

[Anonymous]

OP. You have a few problems, respect and nourishment. You may have a third, that your cooking is bad. My mom was a dreadful cook and it really was aweful-- some meals were truly inedible and I pretty much ate what was in front of me.

I would worry about respect in other areas and focus on nourishment. Bring him in so that he has responsibility for making sure he is nourished. Throw out the ice cream. Lock up the cereal if you must. He needs to start eating a sensible diet. you should learn to cook a few straightforward balanced meals that everyone agrees meet the standard of taste and nutrition. Since your kid is thin, don't worry about fat content.

As for you, here is your mantra: I cook to nourish, and not to entertain. You eat to be nourished, not to be entertained.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's not be too quick to blame OP. I have a 14 year old who recently turned into a jerk. Had to remind him that the only thing you say to someone who made you food is "thank you" if you don't like it.

He can cook. He doesn't ever want to, but he can.

The whole dynamic can be pretty infuriating One night not too long ago, DS and DH complained about by cooking after I came home from work and made it for us (btw, I was the last one to get home). I took their plates away, put the food in the fridge, and took myself out for a walk in the woods.

Good for you. We have a rule that everyone must compliment the chef... Even if dinner truly tastes awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, but you people are so fucking weak with your little snowflakes!

Cereal and Ice Cream for dinner? Oh, fuck no. Your pediatrician is an absolute moron too if he/she thinks that is OK nutrition for a growing child.

My kids last night hated every bite of dinner. Jamaican Jerk Chicken, Roasted Asparagus, and baked potato. Zero Fucks are given by me. Eat it or starve. I promise you they will not starve.

My kid ate roasted asparagus, too. He is allowed four foods that I won't serve him. The list varies over time as his palate develops. It is a short list, so I can honor it. I have a list ( he doesn't know that, since I just don't buy okra, blood sausage, or any of the other things I hate)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, here's a list of things my 9 YO can cook, for inspiration:
-quesadillas
-pancakes
-spaghetti with sauce
-Mac and cheese
-steamed veggies
-corn on the cob
-hot dogs
-tacos
-grilled cheese
-frozen pizza
-pre-made chicken tenders (frozen)

That isn't inspiration. It is child menu at Friday's. Yuck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi, Op

My MIL had a saying that if you complained about dinner you had to make it the next night! So, we would joke and say "the soup is a little salty but it is just the way I like it!" But back to your question perhaps you could encourage your son to learn how to cook? Maybe you could take a class together and learn how to cook together? They say kids who plant vegetables/fruit themselves tend to eat them so perhaps if he cooked ( with your help) he would then eat it?

Good luck and let us know how it goes!

I do this with my 11 year old and 13 year old. Bitching about dinner? Okay, what are you cooking tomorrow?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, but you people are so fucking weak with your little snowflakes!

Cereal and Ice Cream for dinner? Oh, fuck no. Your pediatrician is an absolute moron too if he/she thinks that is OK nutrition for a growing child.

My kids last night hated every bite of dinner. Jamaican Jerk Chicken, Roasted Asparagus, and baked potato. Zero Fucks are given by me. Eat it or starve. I promise you they will not starve.

Point of inquiry: Why would you be giving "Fucks" to your kids of all people.

Follow up: Do your kids share your love of filthy vocabulary and hair trigger threshold for anger?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, but you people are so fucking weak with your little snowflakes!

Cereal and Ice Cream for dinner? Oh, fuck no. Your pediatrician is an absolute moron too if he/she thinks that is OK nutrition for a growing child.

My kids last night hated every bite of dinner. Jamaican Jerk Chicken, Roasted Asparagus, and baked potato. Zero Fucks are given by me. Eat it or starve. I promise you they will not starve.

Point of inquiry: Why would you be giving "Fucks" to your kids of all people.

Follow up: Do your kids share your love of filthy vocabulary and hair trigger threshold for anger?

Seriously. I bet this dad (and it is a dad) probably thinks he's being Very Assertive as a parent with his rigidity. Instead, he's just being an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, but you people are so fucking weak with your little snowflakes!

Cereal and Ice Cream for dinner? Oh, fuck no. Your pediatrician is an absolute moron too if he/she thinks that is OK nutrition for a growing child.

My kids last night hated every bite of dinner. Jamaican Jerk Chicken, Roasted Asparagus, and baked potato. Zero Fucks are given by me. Eat it or starve. I promise you they will not starve.

Point of inquiry: Why would you be giving "Fucks" to your kids of all people.

Follow up: Do your kids share your love of filthy vocabulary and hair trigger threshold for anger?

Seriously. I bet this dad (and it is a dad) probably thinks he's being Very Assertive as a parent with his rigidity. Instead, he's just being an asshole.

Oh no, I bet it's a mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, but you people are so fucking weak with your little snowflakes!

Cereal and Ice Cream for dinner? Oh, fuck no. Your pediatrician is an absolute moron too if he/she thinks that is OK nutrition for a growing child.

My kids last night hated every bite of dinner. Jamaican Jerk Chicken, Roasted Asparagus, and baked potato. Zero Fucks are given by me. Eat it or starve. I promise you they will not starve.

Point of inquiry: Why would you be giving "Fucks" to your kids of all people.

Follow up: Do your kids share your love of filthy vocabulary and hair trigger threshold for anger?

Seriously. I bet this dad (and it is a dad) probably thinks he's being Very Assertive as a parent with his rigidity. Instead, he's just being an asshole.

Oh no, I bet it's a mom.

Yes, a mom in need of mood stabilizers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, but you people are so fucking weak with your little snowflakes!

Cereal and Ice Cream for dinner? Oh, fuck no. Your pediatrician is an absolute moron too if he/she thinks that is OK nutrition for a growing child.

My kids last night hated every bite of dinner. Jamaican Jerk Chicken, Roasted Asparagus, and baked potato. Zero Fucks are given by me. Eat it or starve. I promise you they will not starve.

Point of inquiry: Why would you be giving "Fucks" to your kids of all people.

Follow up: Do your kids share your love of filthy vocabulary and hair trigger threshold for anger?

Seriously. I bet this dad (and it is a dad) probably thinks he's being Very Assertive as a parent with his rigidity. Instead, he's just being an asshole.

Oh no, I bet it's a mom.

I am a mom and a wife and I thought the comment was funny. Sounds like a perfectly reasonable dinner. No need for complaining just because a kid would rather eat something else.