How to not be pissy with DH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, you actually knew he was going to eat/drink what you bought. So, you could have bought extras. Also, at least he drank the water, which you can refill. I don't like getting annoyed about the small stuff and I don't have that much trouble letting stuff like this go. One of my tactics is to try to avoid. And, I would look at it like this. My DH would enjoy a lunchable too, so it would be nice if I got him one too.

You're an enabler. And who's to say that her hubby didn't discard of the bottles? He's inconsiderate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is passive aggressive.
Did that on purpose to piss you off.
Ask him what he is really angry about. Tell him he needs to find healthy ways to process his anger instead of purposely messing up your things.

No, this is the stupidest possible response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Over time, your dh's cumulative behavior is destructive in a relationship.I would be annoyed, irritated, and would not trust him. I wouldn't ask for an apology. An apology is for a one time thing. This seems to keep happening.

Have a one-to-one conversation and start talking to a counselor to air things out.

Let me suggest a wild alternate theory that this incident has no larger significance whatsoever and its just annoying that he drank the fucking water.

[Anonymous]

I bought my kids lunchables for 2-3 days because we were moving and I just couldn't deal with packing lunch.
They kept begging for more as they said all the kids were envious and wanted to trade.

[Anonymous]

Instead of texting him, next time put a post-it note on the water and food that says "FOR DS FIELD TRIP. DO NOT EAT." If he actually removes the note and eats it, then (1) he confesses to kid, and (2) he goes out to the store that night and buys more.

It's easy to forget texts. Harder to ignore a physical message in front of your face. My mom used to label our stuff all the time so my dad, who worked irregular hours and was often hunting for food at 10 pm or 5 am, would not eat things she wanted to save for us.

Now if your husband does this on purpose or gets mad when you ask him not to do it, you have bigger problems.

[Anonymous]

Next time buy a $4 case of water. 4 lunchables.

ALWAYS plan for the unexpected. Most men are kids in big bodies. Most times they are deaf dumb and blind.

OR you could put the stuff in a small lunch box in the refrigerator and put a note on it saying if you eat your kid's field trip food and drink the water, I will starve your ass for a week. Love ya. Mom.

I send my husband emails telling him NOT to pick up milk. So he picks up milk. Last week we had 3 gallons in the refrigerator.

Don't get pissy. Live and learn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My fifth grader would be mortally embarrassed if you sent lunchables to school. You do understand that kids mock each other for that, right?

Only pretend dcum children.

Real children try to trade their kale chips for lunchables. They are the elementary equivalent of whiskey and flame throwers in the zombie apocalyspe.

[Anonymous]

On the plus side, OP, lunchables usually come with capri sun or some water that you can turn red with a flavor packet.

[Anonymous]

Op, next time don't text him. Just put the stuff in a bag and label " do not eat." It sounds like your dh can't remember anything, so don't expect him to.

[Anonymous]

I just witnessed the horror of lunchables for the first time. We took our Girl Scout troop on a kayak trip and one of the girls had to get lunch at a 7-11 because she left hers at home. The girls had a great time trying to guess what the real ingredients in the nasty raw pizza were.

Erasers and ketchup were the top contenders.

Disgusting stuff, and I'm not an organic kale chip type. We do junk food. Emphasis on food.

I'd be deeply concerned about an adult man who voluntarily ate that. Maybe he has a debilitating brain aneurism?

[Anonymous]

He didn't eat that. He drank some water he found in the fridge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is passive aggressive.
Did that on purpose to piss you off.
Ask him what he is really angry about. Tell him he needs to find healthy ways to process his anger instead of purposely messing up your things.

No, this is the stupidest possible response.

You must be OP's DH!

Actually, this response fits my now-ex to the letter. I didn't think "passive-aggressive" was a thing that grown-ass men actually did, but it turns out it's fairly common behavior, and this is exactly what it looks like.

Sorry, OP. If your spouse does this often, you're probably dealing with some core damage or mommy issues or unpacked childhood drama/trauma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is passive aggressive.
Did that on purpose to piss you off.
Ask him what he is really angry about. Tell him he needs to find healthy ways to process his anger instead of purposely messing up your things.

No, this is the stupidest possible response.

You must be OP's DH!

Actually, this response fits my now-ex to the letter. I didn't think "passive-aggressive" was a thing that grown-ass men actually did, but it turns out it's fairly common behavior, and this is exactly what it looks like.

Sorry, OP. If your spouse does this often, you're probably dealing with some core damage or mommy issues or unpacked childhood drama/trauma.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My fifth grader would be mortally embarrassed if you sent lunchables to school. You do understand that kids mock each other for that, right?

Seriously? Most kids are jealous of the ones that get lunchables.

Not PP's kid. PP's kid would much rather have some kale chips and a nice salad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Next time buy a $4 case of water. 4 lunchables.

ALWAYS plan for the unexpected. Most men are kids in big bodies. Most times they are deaf dumb and blind.

OR you could put the stuff in a small lunch box in the refrigerator and put a note on it saying if you eat your kid's field trip food and drink the water, I will starve your ass for a week. Love ya. Mom.

I send my husband emails telling him NOT to pick up milk. So he picks up milk. Last week we had 3 gallons in the refrigerator.

Don't get pissy. Live and learn.

He honey if you're out pick up more Pringles because I ate the last of them