How to not be pissy with DH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My fifth grader would be mortally embarrassed if you sent lunchables to school. You do understand that kids mock each other for that, right?

OP here. My kids ask for them - but I only buy them occasionally, like for tomorrow's field trip. So either no one mocks them, or they just don't care. But thanks for the info.

[Anonymous]

I can understand you being annoyed. But to ask for an apology for this minor transgression?? Are you for real? Of course your DH will be annoyed if you treat him like a child, even if he is acting like one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can understand you being annoyed. But to ask for an apology for this minor transgression?? Are you for real? Of course your DH will be annoyed if you treat him like a child, even if he is acting like one.

I think I was just appalled that he did that and didn't even bother to apologize. But you bring up a good point.

[Anonymous]

He is passive aggressive.
Did that on purpose to piss you off.
Ask him what he is really angry about. Tell him he needs to find healthy ways to process his anger instead of purposely messing up your things.

[Anonymous]

Why not just send him out to replace them?

[Anonymous]

Refill the water bottles. But why would you need to text him? Would a grown man really eat lunchables?

[Anonymous]

Over time, your dh's cumulative behavior is destructive in a relationship.I would be annoyed, irritated, and would not trust him. I wouldn't ask for an apology. An apology is for a one time thing. This seems to keep happening.

Have a one-to-one conversation and start talking to a counselor to air things out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My fifth grader would be mortally embarrassed if you sent lunchables to school. You do understand that kids mock each other for that, right?

Seriously? Most kids are jealous of the ones that get lunchables.

[Anonymous]

So, you actually knew he was going to eat/drink what you bought. So, you could have bought extras. Also, at least he drank the water, which you can refill. I don't like getting annoyed about the small stuff and I don't have that much trouble letting stuff like this go. One of my tactics is to try to avoid. And, I would look at it like this. My DH would enjoy a lunchable too, so it would be nice if I got him one too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My fifth grader would be mortally embarrassed if you sent lunchables to school. You do understand that kids mock each other for that, right?

Seriously? Most kids are jealous of the ones that get lunchables.

Also too, and not to hijack, but there is very sophisticated lunch table market for "premium" food so that the kid w/ lunchables may end up with and entirely different lunch (e.g. tunafish sandwich and Cheetos), as might the the kid with the healthiest organic lunch who could be screwed or trade up his cucumbers for some oreos, if s/he is smart/picks the right counterparty.

[Anonymous]

i'd drink the water too out of spite if I got that pissy message in the first place.

[Anonymous]

He's dumb and a jerk.

I'd be pissy.

[Anonymous]

Why not send a reusable, refillable water bottle with your son?

I long for the day when bottled water bottle use is the new smoking, and people who buy those things are shamed openly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not send a reusable, refillable water bottle with your son?

I long for the day when bottled water bottle use is the new smoking, and people who buy those things are shamed openly.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Picked up lunch and bottled water for DS's field trip tomorrow. Sent DH a text that said "lunchables and water for field trip tomorrow. Do not eat. Repeat: DO NOT EAT LUNCHABLES OR DRINK WATER." He texts back "ok". Guess who drank the goddamn water?? Both bottles?? Doesn't even apologize. Just sits there staring at me when I tell him to check his text messages. I am having such a hard time not letting this annoy me! Help!

So much wrong with this post.

1) Lunchables. Dafuq?
2) You only bought two bottles of water? Dafuq?
3) This pissed you off. Dafuq?

You trollin' hun?

You send your child with more than two drinks for lunch? Weird.

Op, I would be pissed off too. What an ass!!