What am I supposed to do at home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am troubled that everyone is assuming the kid is medically unable to sit in his seat and pay attention, rather than just misbehaving. No one wants to believe a child is just misbehaving, because that might reflect badly on them. Are all bad habits due to a disorder now? So nothing is anyone's fault?

Welcome to America, baby!

[Anonymous]

OP here. I actually found some helpful advice elsewhere. This article articulates the feeling I had about the situation, but couldn't express. It distinguishes between behavioral problems that are functional vs. relational. Functional is something like running in the hallway. Relational is hurting other kids or engaging in other threatening behavior. One should be managed by the teacher, and the other should involve the parents.

https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/acting-out-in-school-when-your-child-is-the-class-troublemaker/

To answer some of the questions, my child has never had behavioral issues before with other teachers. And doesn't have issues with the other teachers like the PE and music teachers. He doesn't have issues in cub scouts or piano lessons. And not at home, either. Just this class, with this teacher. I have worked all year with her. I was just getting sick of the calls and felt there were some things that should be handled in the classroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like a bad teacher issue.

You have 4 weeks to go, just hold your breath and push through.

said the perfect parent

lol!


I am in a position where I deal with many kids who face all sorts of challenges. In 99% of the cases, the blame goes right back to the parents.

Apples, meet your trees!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like a bad teacher issue.

You have 4 weeks to go, just hold your breath and push through.

said the perfect parent

lol!


I am in a position where I deal with many kids who face all sorts of challenges. In 99% of the cases, the blame goes right back to the parents.

Apples, meet your trees!

I put my boys in all boys schools because most teachers can't handle boys. Miraculously ... No more problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like a bad teacher issue.

You have 4 weeks to go, just hold your breath and push through.

said the perfect parent

lol!


I am in a position where I deal with many kids who face all sorts of challenges. In 99% of the cases, the blame goes right back to the parents.

Apples, meet your trees!

You have never seen a mismatch between a student and a teacher, where a problem student in one class with one teacher has no problem with a different teacher in a different class? That doesn't mean the teacher is wrong or bad, just wrong for that child.

[Anonymous]

OP, I was one of the PPs who thought the teacher is the issue but your last post made me see that it's also you. You seem to think you don't have ANY responsibility to try to do anything.
A child just can't run away from the rest of the class! Do you have any idea how unusual that is and how that's grounds for moving a child to a special ed program?

[Anonymous]

PP again. I keep reading people complaining about parents like you who are in denial about a child's issues and always thought that that was kind of a myth and that it was ignorant parents blaming parents of special needs kids for everything.

Most parents I know who are accused of this because their child has behavioral issues are not in denial and they have their children in all kinds of therapy. You seem to be what they are talking about.

[Anonymous]

In the years I taught school, I learned two things:

1.Generally, kids behave worse for the parents than the teachers. Many parents were stunned when I told them in the parent/teacher conference that their child was well-behaved. (I did witness one of these kids with her mom on a field trip--she behaved perfectly at school for me, but with her mom she was a terror. Last field trip for that mom!)

2.When you talk to parents and they deny that a poorly behaved child is a problem at home-----well, they have trouble with reality or they are lying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like a bad teacher issue.

You have 4 weeks to go, just hold your breath and push through.

said the perfect parent

lol!


I am in a position where I deal with many kids who face all sorts of challenges. In 99% of the cases, the blame goes right back to the parents.

Apples, meet your trees!

You have never seen a mismatch between a student and a teacher, where a problem student in one class with one teacher has no problem with a different teacher in a different class? That doesn't mean the teacher is wrong or bad, just wrong for that child.

So we sanitize a child's life - crafting situations that are perfect for him/her?

You parents today are wackadoos. Kids never learn to deal with difficult situations if we remove all obstacles.

Do you parents TALK to your kids?

What a pathetic generation enabled by weak parents!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the years I taught school, I learned two things:

1.Generally, kids behave worse for the parents than the teachers. Many parents were stunned when I told them in the parent/teacher conference that their child was well-behaved. (I did witness one of these kids with her mom on a field trip--she behaved perfectly at school for me, but with her mom she was a terror. Last field trip for that mom!)

2.When you talk to parents and they deny that a poorly behaved child is a problem at home-----well, they have trouble with reality or they are lying.

Yes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like a bad teacher issue.

You have 4 weeks to go, just hold your breath and push through.

said the perfect parent

lol!


I am in a position where I deal with many kids who face all sorts of challenges. In 99% of the cases, the blame goes right back to the parents.

Apples, meet your trees!

You have never seen a mismatch between a student and a teacher, where a problem student in one class with one teacher has no problem with a different teacher in a different class? That doesn't mean the teacher is wrong or bad, just wrong for that child.

So we sanitize a child's life - crafting situations that are perfect for him/her?

You parents today are wackadoos. Kids never learn to deal with difficult situations if we remove all obstacles.

Do you parents TALK to your kids?

What a pathetic generation enabled by weak parents!

Sanitize? No, wait till next year. Did you even read the top post you were quoting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the years I taught school, I learned two things:

1.Generally, kids behave worse for the parents than the teachers. Many parents were stunned when I told them in the parent/teacher conference that their child was well-behaved. (I did witness one of these kids with her mom on a field trip--she behaved perfectly at school for me, but with her mom she was a terror. Last field trip for that mom!)

2.When you talk to parents and they deny that a poorly behaved child is a problem at home-----well, they have trouble with reality or they are lying.[/quote

I volunteered in the classroom and definitely my friend's son is better behaved with his parents than at school. But then again, his parents are very strict. Almost too strict I think.

[Anonymous]

Another vote for ADHD and testing... as well as an IEP and in school support to help him focus.

It may also be sensory processing disorder.

That said, the teacher needs to manager the classroom - it's the teachers job and not yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like a bad teacher issue.

You have 4 weeks to go, just hold your breath and push through.

said the perfect parent

lol!


I am in a position where I deal with many kids who face all sorts of challenges. In 99% of the cases, the blame goes right back to the parents.

Apples, meet your trees!

You have never seen a mismatch between a student and a teacher, where a problem student in one class with one teacher has no problem with a different teacher in a different class? That doesn't mean the teacher is wrong or bad, just wrong for that child.

So we sanitize a child's life - crafting situations that are perfect for him/her?

You parents today are wackadoos. Kids never learn to deal with difficult situations if we remove all obstacles.

Do you parents TALK to your kids?

What a pathetic generation enabled by weak parents!

Have you heard of maturing... kids need to mature to be able to deal with a terrible student. My friend is a principal, do you know how hard it is to get rid of teachers. He just makes sure kids don't have 2 bad years in a row. Kid don't just all of a sudden suck at behavior at school. There is a dynamic here that is causing an issue.

[Anonymous]

The people who think "it's the teacher's problem" are the same ones who will be demanding the teacher's head on a platter if she implements meaningful classroom consequences.