What am I supposed to do at home?

[Anonymous]

Get him evaluated!!! go to ped. Get referral. Go to referral. Get evaluated!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:sounds like adhd, get him tested

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find it hard to believe that he made it to second grade and it is just now becoming an issue. Sounds like something else to me.

It depends on the kid, the environmental demands and his coping skills. My kid made it all the way to high school being able to nanage before we identified his ADD inattentive subtype.

[Anonymous]

Getting out of his seat, calling out and acting silly are not things that should warrant a call home in the middle of the day for a second-grader. I agree with OP on that. What the teacher should have done if she was seeing this too often is to email you or ask for an in-person meeting. If this happens so often that is disruptive, the next step for her would be to call an emergency intervention meeting between you and the school where the counselor, administrators and others would get together to create a plan.

BUT a child walking out to the field at school when he's not supposed to is elopement and it's very serious. Schools are not equipped to handle that. To bring him back the teacher or someone else would have to disengage from whatever they were doing to chase him down and bring him back. This puts other children in danger and should not be happening even once. If it's happened more than a few times now you need to start taking action to stop it. I know of a few cases where children had to be moved into special programs because of elopement issues. You need to not be at your computer complaining and figure out a way to get on top of this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Getting out of his seat, calling out and acting silly are not things that should warrant a call home in the middle of the day for a second-grader. I agree with OP on that. What the teacher should have done if she was seeing this too often is to email you or ask for an in-person meeting. If this happens so often that is disruptive, the next step for her would be to call an emergency intervention meeting between you and the school where the counselor, administrators and others would get together to create a plan.

BUT a child walking out to the field at school when he's not supposed to is elopement and it's very serious. Schools are not equipped to handle that. To bring him back the teacher or someone else would have to disengage from whatever they were doing to chase him down and bring him back. This puts other children in danger and should not be happening even once. If it's happened more than a few times now you need to start taking action to stop it. I know of a few cases where children had to be moved into special programs because of elopement issues. You need to not be at your computer complaining and figure out a way to get on top of this.

+1

Some of the behavior described is probably best handled by the teacher, depending upon frequency. Other behaviors are pretty serious.

[Anonymous]

Getting out of his seat, calling out and acting silly are not things that should warrant a call home in the middle of the day for a second-grader. I agree with OP on that. What the teacher should have done if she was seeing this too often is to email you or ask for an in-person meeting. If this happens so often that is disruptive, the next step for her would be to call an emergency intervention meeting between you and the school where the counselor, administrators and others would get together to create a plan.

BUT a child walking out to the field at school when he's not supposed to is elopement and it's very serious. Schools are not equipped to handle that. To bring him back the teacher or someone else would have to disengage from whatever they were doing to chase him down and bring him back. This puts other children in danger and should not be happening even once. If it's happened more than a few times now you need to start taking action to stop it. I know of a few cases where children had to be moved into special programs because of elopement issues. You need to not be at your computer complaining and figure out a way to get on top of this.

Pretty much agree that a call in the middle of the day might not be warranted-unless it is the teacher's break. However, the teacher may want to talk to the parent when the child is not present. Then, when would you have the teacher call? First thing in the a.m.? Late at night?

It sounds to me like the teacher is frustrated because the child is disobedient. "Acting silly" is a call for attention. If he constantly disrupts the class, that is a problem and can be quite frustrating--it takes time from instruction and may disturb the whole class. And, as the PP said, the "elopement" issue is quite serious.

This sounds to me like more than ADHD.

[Birdmom5]

Hi! Sounds like my middle when he was second grader. I'm sorry it he's having a hard time. Is it possible he is bored and therefore occupying himself? Not to reward misbehavior but if you spoke with the teacher and asked if she could give him a special "chore" to help her, pass out papers, empty the pencil sharpener. Maybe even when he's feeling distracted let him get up, walk to the fountain, fill a water bottle and sit down. My son was miss labeled and really he was just bored. I hope this helps. Hang in there maybe you and he teacher can strategize together instead of conquering the issue separately.

[Anonymous]

Wow....you think this is the teacher's issue and a class management issue?? Your child's behavior outside the home reflects on how you raise him! You should have the decency to feel shame that your child acts out and obviously needs help! Don't you teach our kid how to act in public? Like in a restaurant? Or that the waiters problem? At swim lessons? Or is that is the teacher's problem? Grow up and be a parent and own the fact your kid is a problem and ruining the learning environment for all the other kids. Work with the teacher and let your kid know that if he misbehaves in school, he is at trouble at home. Do you not discipline your child at all!

So glad I don't teach anymore and deal with this kind of thing.

[Anonymous]

I agree with op. What is mom supposed to do when child calls out or gets up in class? This is on teacher. So, what has teacher asked you to do, op?

[Anonymous]

A couple of questions for OP.

If your child has not always received complaints from teachers:

Have there been any dramatic changes at home? Divorce? New baby?

Does DS have new friends? Older kids on the bus--something like that?

I don't think you have ever told us if DS had these problems in the past.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow....you think this is the teacher's issue and a class management issue?? Your child's behavior outside the home reflects on how you raise him! You should have the decency to feel shame that your child acts out and obviously needs help! Don't you teach our kid how to act in public? Like in a restaurant? Or that the waiters problem? At swim lessons? Or is that is the teacher's problem? Grow up and be a parent and own the fact your kid is a problem and ruining the learning environment for all the other kids. Work with the teacher and let your kid know that if he misbehaves in school, he is at trouble at home. Do you not discipline your child at all!

So glad I don't teach anymore and deal with this kind of thing.

Well it could be that. Or it could be that there are other issues going on. Its hard to know without a lot more information

[Anonymous]

I am troubled that everyone is assuming the kid is medically unable to sit in his seat and pay attention, rather than just misbehaving. No one wants to believe a child is just misbehaving, because that might reflect badly on them. Are all bad habits due to a disorder now? So nothing is anyone's fault?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am troubled that everyone is assuming the kid is medically unable to sit in his seat and pay attention, rather than just misbehaving. No one wants to believe a child is just misbehaving, because that might reflect badly on them. Are all bad habits due to a disorder now? So nothing is anyone's fault?

No. But that's why you get him to an expert who can tell the difference.

Kids, in general, want to be good. They don't want to get in trouble. When a kid is behaving like this you need to find out why that is.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like a bad teacher issue.

You have 4 weeks to go, just hold your breath and push through.

[Anonymous]

It's the teacher and he's bored. Instead of listening to the drug your kid crowd because that's the easy way out, do what I did. Tell the teacher you would be happy to be in class whenever she needs. Some accepted my offer, some didn't.

After going to sit in class a few random times, mine finally stopped misbehaving. Try it.