Stop it with 'gaslighting' and 'borderline'
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Anonymous
About what? |
Anonymous
Narcissist, maybe? |
Anonymous
A licensed professional tree surgeon? Masseuse? Sex therapist? |
Anonymous
You're right  I'll get help.
Now can I have a cookie? |
Anonymous
As a licensed professional you would know that a well-reasoned diagnosis by an expert is critical. A true borderline needs years of specialized treatment. On-going. In all likelihood treatment for life. Success will require the active participation of spouses, SOs and other loved ones, who themselves need to have some form of therapeutic support. An asshole, on the other hand, needs to get smacked in the head with a 2x4. See the difference? |
Anonymous
Pp with the borderline mil here. Borderlines are extremely resistant to seeing someone for diagnosis, let alone treatment. Family members who've been subjected to maltreatment by a borderline person for years are capable of recognizing the disorder. I don't need MIL to see a professional to know she has this personality disorder. I don't care if you think the term is overused - the disorder is recognizable. I'm not sure why you take that so personally. |
Anonymous
This is interesting. I'm the PP with the diagnosed BPD sister and she loves going to therapists and psychiatrists. She complains about it, but she likes the undivided attention and in fact she keeps getting fired as a patient because she harasses the doctors/therapists. She alternates between accepting the diagnosis (which she ties to my mom's emotional abuse) to saying she is not mentally ill, just mistreated, hence her unpredictable, mean, and aggressive behavior. |
Anonymous
Not the PP, but let me just mention that most healthy people would naturally resist psychiatric treatment even if the are absolute buttholes. I don't think the term is oversused. It is just mostly used by people who have no clue what they're talking about. It doesn't matter what you and other relatives think. You can't "recognize" something you don't know. Unless you're done with med school, you don't know. |
Anonymous
You sound borderline. |
Anonymous
Your post was stupid and your mom is not 'borderline" |
Anonymous
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Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a pattern of abnormal behavior characterized by extreme fear of abandonment; unstable relationships with other people, sense of self, or emotions; feelings of emptiness; frequent dangerous behavior; and self-harm.[3] Symptoms may be triggered by seemingly normal events.[3] This pattern of behavior typically begins by early adulthood, and occurs across a variety of situations.[4] People with BPD often engage in idealization and devaluation of others, alternating between high positive regard and great disappointment.[5] Substance abuse, depression, and eating disorders commonly co-exist with borderline personality disorder.[3] About 6% die by suicide.[3]
usually cuased by severe trauma in childhood, although not everyone with trauma has BP |
Anonymous
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Gaslighting or gas-lighting is a form of mental abuse in which a victim is manipulated into doubting their own memory, perception and sanity.
....usually to cover up some form of abuse. |
Anonymous
New poster. One wonders what PP and her mother represent to you. |
Anonymous
This is why we have those smug people called doctors  How in the world can you diagnose a person based on the description above?
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Anonymous
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Based on Dr. Google, most DCUM posters are borderline:
Having an unstable or dysfunctional self-image or a distorted sense of self (how one feels about one’s self) Feelings of isolation, boredom and emptiness Difficulty feeling empathy for others A history of unstable relationships that can change drastically from intense love and idealization to intense hate A persistent fear of abandonment and rejection, including extreme emotional reactions to real and even perceived abandonment Intense, highly changeable moods that can last for several days or for just a few hours Strong feelings of anxiety, worry and depression Impulsive, risky, self-destructive and dangerous behaviors, including reckless driving, drug or alcohol abuse and having unsafe sex Hostility Unstable career plans, goals and aspirations Me thinks it is a bullshit diagnosis. Or rather a judgement in the absense of a diagnosis or anything specific to diagnose. |