Why are women in their 30s considered old and men are not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's because of fertility but I think that perception is changing rapidly due to the recent studies on health risks to babies when fathers are older. The view before was that men can have kids when they're in their 40s but now people are scared of autism, etc. so male and female fertility is evening out.

Nice try. A guy in his 40s is not sweating about autism and other special needs. Yes, it's a slightly higher risk with an older dad. In absolute terms, the risk is still small.

A woman in her 40s is highly unlikely to ever have her own biological baby.

Different stakes entirely and it's not an even playing field.

Well I'm a woman and I can tell you that I would not be ok with having a baby with a man in his mid 40s. Old sperm = a lot of potential health issues. Don't believe it then look it up.

[Anonymous]

Women start earlier. A 15 year old girl has a lot more dating options than a 15 year old boy. And the 15 year old girl usually uses that power to date older guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And the 15 year old girl usually uses that power to date older guys.

Yep, this is more evidence that women create the unfair conditions that plague them later in the dating market. That's the hilarity of the situation. Feminists love to blame MRA types for all this, but they don't realize that women create these conditions by demanding X, Y, and Z. Men only want A or B.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's because of fertility but I think that perception is changing rapidly due to the recent studies on health risks to babies when fathers are older. The view before was that men can have kids when they're in their 40s but now people are scared of autism, etc. so male and female fertility is evening out.

Nice try. A guy in his 40s is not sweating about autism and other special needs. Yes, it's a slightly higher risk with an older dad. In absolute terms, the risk is still small.

A woman in her 40s is highly unlikely to ever have her own biological baby.

Different stakes entirely and it's not an even playing field.

Well I'm a woman and I can tell you that I would not be ok with having a baby with a man in his mid 40s. Old sperm = a lot of potential health issues. Don't believe it then look it up.

So, what does your statement have to do with 30+ women being considered old?

[Anonymous]

For a lot of men an attractive women is an attractive woman. Most men can't tell the difference between a 25 year old attractive woman or a 35 year old attractive woman.

This nonsense about 20something women vs 30 something women is only really supported by a few select MRA types.

If I asked my Bf how old a certain woman is, he wouldn't have a clue!




age 41



age 25

What physical difference, really?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For a lot of men an attractive women is an attractive woman. Most men can't tell the difference between a 25 year old attractive woman or a 35 year old attractive woman.

This nonsense about 20something women vs 30 something women is only really supported by a few select MRA types.

If I asked my Bf how old a certain woman is, he wouldn't have a clue!




age 41



age 25

What physical difference, really?

You can't tell from the pictures? WTH?? The top one is 41 years old. The bottom one is 25.

[Anonymous]

Let's see them naked. You'll then notice a difference.

[Anonymous]

I've heard Adams referred to as Grandma Adams for at least five years. I can see why.

Also, I've seen a pretty convincing case that Robie is five years older than she claims. She looks fantastic but older than her years.

[Anonymous]

I'd heard all this scary stuff about being in your late 30s and having fertility issues. Then I conceived two kids at 36 and 39 our first month trying both times. I know a lot of women like me including my mother who had an Oops baby at 43 -but no one ever talks about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And the 15 year old girl usually uses that power to date older guys.

Yep, this is more evidence that women create the unfair conditions that plague them later in the dating market. That's the hilarity of the situation. Feminists love to blame MRA types for all this, but they don't realize that women create these conditions by demanding X, Y, and Z. Men only want A or B.

It's too bad your crush turned you down for the prom and went with a more popular and handsome guy. But you've gotta grow out of that attitude champ or you'll still be a virgin loser in your 30s!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's because of fertility but I think that perception is changing rapidly due to the recent studies on health risks to babies when fathers are older. The view before was that men can have kids when they're in their 40s but now people are scared of autism, etc. so male and female fertility is evening out.

Nice try. A guy in his 40s is not sweating about autism and other special needs. Yes, it's a slightly higher risk with an older dad. In absolute terms, the risk is still small.

A woman in her 40s is highly unlikely to ever have her own biological baby.

Different stakes entirely and it's not an even playing field.

Well I'm a woman and I can tell you that I would not be ok with having a baby with a man in his mid 40s. Old sperm = a lot of potential health issues. Don't believe it then look it up.

Nobody said they don't believe it. "A lot of potential health issues" is a slightly hysterical view on the statistics. But yes, there is a real increased risk with age. THE RISK IS STILL QUITE LOW OVERALL.

Clearly, most people don't share your point of view since plenty of men have kids in their 40s with someone. The point is the option still exists for the man. It doesn't for the women (barring surrogacy or donor eggs or being the exceedingly rare case where it occurs naturally).

[Anonymous]

Fertility-wise, this is why:

http://www.socalfertility.com/fertility-resources/age-and-fertility/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd heard all this scary stuff about being in your late 30s and having fertility issues. Then I conceived two kids at 36 and 39 our first month trying both times. I know a lot of women like me including my mother who had an Oops baby at 43 -but no one ever talks about this.

The point is that if someone met you at 35, you would have wanted to have babies immediately. If someone meets a 25 year old, there isn't that sense of urgency. Hence, the woman in her 30s is going to be less attractive to some (not all) potential suitors. That is a possible answer to the OP's original question.

And you and your friends' and your mother's individual reproduction anecdotes don't change the aggregate data, which is it gets more difficult ON AVERAGE to have a child in your late 30s and very difficult (not impossible) to do so in your 40s.

[Anonymous]

I know plenty of women who conceived without help in their late thirties and early 40s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For a lot of men an attractive women is an attractive woman. Most men can't tell the difference between a 25 year old attractive woman or a 35 year old attractive woman.

This nonsense about 20something women vs 30 something women is only really supported by a few select MRA types.

If I asked my Bf how old a certain woman is, he wouldn't have a clue!




age 41



age 25

What physical difference, really?

Amy Adams is a movie star. One of her jobs in life is to look attractive and continue to look young. The average 41-year old doesn't look like her.

Really? This needs to be stated?