Were you happier after leaving a bad marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This morning was my divorce day in court, 24-year marriage separated a year, 2 kids. Even though he was verbally abusive and a narcissist, others saw only his charming side. Its been a gut-wrenching year watching him move on effortlessly while I haven't been able to, still waiting for the great feelings of freedom and sweetness that others talk about. Maybe today things will change.

Hmmm nobody calls you charming because you're not a "narcissist".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This morning was my divorce day in court, 24-year marriage separated a year, 2 kids. Even though he was verbally abusive and a narcissist, others saw only his charming side. Its been a gut-wrenching year watching him move on effortlessly while I haven't been able to, still waiting for the great feelings of freedom and sweetness that others talk about. Maybe today things will change.

Hmmm nobody calls you charming because you're not a "narcissist".

He can move on effortlessly because he didn't care and he still doesn't. You on the other hand did and do care about other people and about the marriage you invested in. It isn't fair but all you can do is patiently move forward, take care of yourself and your kids. The less contact you have with him the better ... only what is necessary for the kids. Otherwise, no contact. It will get better, I promise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So much happier.

After two years of counseling about the issue, I finally made good on my desire to leave due to lack of sex. That this was the reason for my divorce really helped me know what kind of woman I would fit with in my next relationship and we are very happy together so far.

Can't imagine I'll ever remarry but you never know.

same here, Not Enough Sex form of abuse and I am outta there!

[Anonymous]

I hope the people leaving due to lack of sex went without sex for quite a while before splitting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG if no kids, run away! No question about it. You will be so much happier and healthier.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is this a question if you don't have kids?

Leave. Immediately. You will never regret it.

She could be over 40 or 45. Dating prospects plummet after 37.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I was happier, so were the kids.

And our marriage had every reason to be a good one, on paper.

Never looking back, don't care what sucker he dates, or how successful at work he might be. He is beyond a deadweight as a partner in life.

[Anonymous]

OP
My question is why does he say that you are lucky he puts up with you. What kind of things do you do that aggravate him. People here jump on the bandwagon taking the women side without hearing the other story.

Maybe OP is lazy we don't know and stop taking side right away. I got out of a bad marriage and my ex is the master of playing victim and lying. Her own brother and sister sided with me after they found out the truth.

[Anonymous]

If the marriage is bad, then yes...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this a question if you don't have kids?

Leave. Immediately. You will never regret it.

She could be over 40 or 45. Dating prospects plummet after 37.

New poster and I dream of being single. Dream of it, but I have kids, so it won't happen for a long time.

I'd love to not date. Zero fucks given. I want to do what I want.