What are some of the life lessons you've learned?

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Anonymous wrote:You need to be responsible for two things in life -
- your own happiness
- your own orgasm

Love this! And another thing - don't ever lie about having an orgasm. It's really not worth it. If you're not having it, you're not having it and your partner has to be grown up enough to accept this.

amen. the last guy I dated could not handle this. I am perfectly content. I guess he took it as a reflection on him which I absolutely told him was not the case.

And there's no reason not to have them, given the amazing toys that exist. Life is too short not to enjoy. I learned that early on.

Something I wish I'd learned earlier, but didn't until I hit menopause and saw my body age overnight, is that if you want to be with me, you've got to take me as I am. My body's given me and others pleasures of all kinds, and given life and sustained life, and it shows. I'll never be young or firm or smooth, but I'm not going to spend my final years feeling bad about that.

This is PP - however the guy didn't want the "toys" in the bedroom. I guess that threatened his manhood as well. lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can be your own parent. Talk to yourself with love and kindness, as you would to a little child.

I like this. I'll try to remember it next time I'm feeling sorry for myself because no one wants to take care of me the way my mom did. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call your parents. Tell them you love them. They won't be there forever.

Too late. My mother died when I was only 35.

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No one is thinking about you as much as you think they are.

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Anonymous wrote:You need to be responsible for two things in life -
- your own happiness
- your own orgasm

Love this! And another thing - don't ever lie about having an orgasm. It's really not worth it. If you're not having it, you're not having it and your partner has to be grown up enough to accept this.

amen. the last guy I dated could not handle this. I am perfectly content. I guess he took it as a reflection on him which I absolutely told him was not the case.

And there's no reason not to have them, given the amazing toys that exist. Life is too short not to enjoy. I learned that early on.

Something I wish I'd learned earlier, but didn't until I hit menopause and saw my body age overnight, is that if you want to be with me, you've got to take me as I am. My body's given me and others pleasures of all kinds, and given life and sustained life, and it shows. I'll never be young or firm or smooth, but I'm not going to spend my final years feeling bad about that.

This is PP - however the guy didn't want the "toys" in the bedroom. I guess that threatened his manhood as well. lol

LOL. A guy threatened by mere toys isn't much of a man, is he.

[Anonymous]

58. I wish I wasted less money when younger. I've never been a spendthrift, but now just getting around to seeing if I am on the best phone plan, have the most efficient insurance coverage, etc. Little things that have added up to a lot of money over the years. I might have another $100K or so in savings if I did, starting early on.

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Anonymous wrote:No one is thinking about you as much as you think they are.

Amen 110%

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 40.

You never know what someone else is going through. People can be carrying intense grief and going through terrible tragedies and you'll never see it. Be kind.

The urge to judge and put others down comes from deep insecurities and a need to prove yourself. It is truly liberating to get past that.

Similarly don't feel judged or embarrassed about almost anything; most people are really up in their own head, and really aren't thinking about your situation at all. People who judge have their own demons and aren't worth worrying about.

Amen to this too.

Another lesson and please do not scoff at this: read Rob Lowe's autobiography. This is a man who has come to terms with himself. I am not going to take credit for this--he says he has learned to take people at face value and not look for ulterior motives etc...I think this is a really good lesson and I try to keep it in mind.

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In conversation it's rude to respond to a question with a question. Rude to offer advice if it's not asked for. Rude to argue if someone, when asked, states a preference. Doesn't mean necessarily it gets honored, but having and stating a preference is never wrong.

[Anonymous]

If you see the negative in people, it's because that's what you're looking for. I try to stay away from these people.

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When your family has a major health crisis don't say "why me".

When your family is healthy say " why me"

Buy a vibrator if you don't already have one. Don't sleep with a creep for an orgasm. Don't sleep with a guy because he bought you dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call your parents. Tell them you love them. They won't be there forever.

+ 1. And apologize for any wrongs. There is nothing like wanting to say your sorry and not being able to, for the rest of your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one is thinking about you as much as you think they are.

Even if they are, most will not be in your life in five years.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 40.

You never know what someone else is going through. People can be carrying intense grief and going through terrible tragedies and you'll never see it. Be kind.

The urge to judge and put others down comes from deep insecurities and a need to prove yourself. It is truly liberating to get past that.

Wow! You're only 40! I'm in my 50s and still trying to learn this. Liberation is hard won.

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Anonymous wrote:If you see the negative in people, it's because that's what you're looking for. I try to stay away from these people.

+1

Jealous is as jealous does.

Stay far away from the crazy, because they are just looking for a target. Run!