If your family member married their AP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom committed suicide after she found out. I never knew until college why my mom really passed away. My dad is still married to his ap. They met at work.

Holy shit, I'm sorry, PP.

[Anonymous]

I know someone who did this, close family friend. He went on to have multiple children with the woman and they're still together 20 years later. It was weird at first but now that they're still together this long after, I think people just figure that it was obviously meant to be like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom committed suicide after she found out. I never knew until college why my mom really passed away. My dad is still married to his ap. They met at work.

Horrible. How old were you at the time? That is so sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone please tell me what AP stands for? I've searched high and low, and can't figure it out! I'm usually pretty good at figuring out what acronyms stand for based on context but this has me stumped.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/2750.page (General Parenting Forum - the first forum you see on this site).

[Anonymous]

My father married his AP and it was horrible for everyone. I was only 10 at the time, but my parents had a very messy divorce and my dad married AP 2 months after it was final. My grandparents (dad's parents) were very close to my mom because my mom and dad had been together since they were 13. They actually disowned my dad for a couple years. My step mom was a horrible, psycho bitch too who made it her life's mission to make sure my sister and I suffered. I won't go into details, but my sister and I ended up living with my mom most of the time and only having visit with my dad when he was alone (which AP didn't like so my dad had to lie to her about it).

My step mom is 15 years younger than my dad and was his secretary. So cliche. She was also from a very low class family and even her own siblings used to call her out on the fact that she just married for money and acts too good for them now.

Now, 25 years later, we all just laugh at her behind her back. She and my dad have 2 kids of their own and pretty much live their own life like we never existed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom committed suicide after she found out. I never knew until college why my mom really passed away. My dad is still married to his ap. They met at work.

Horrible. How old were you at the time? That is so sad.

4 years old. I don't remember my mom at all and I've never felt close to my dad or step mom. Have always called her by name and not mom..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I read this threads, I wonder why some people bother to form families. This forum needs to be renamed into Family Drama. Are there any cool, not-so-judgy people left? Helloooo! Where are you? LOL

+ 1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone please tell me what AP stands for? I've searched high and low, and can't figure it out! I'm usually pretty good at figuring out what acronyms stand for based on context but this has me stumped.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/2750.page (General Parenting Forum - the first forum you see on this site).

Affair partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone please tell me what AP stands for? I've searched high and low, and can't figure it out! I'm usually pretty good at figuring out what acronyms stand for based on context but this has me stumped.

Au pair.

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Anonymous wrote:My dad didn't marry his, but they cohabitated for 20+ years after everything camp to light. She was unwelcome at extended family gatherings. She was not invited to any major milestone events for me or my siblings and was specifically banned from my grandmother's funeral. My aunt (dad's brother's wife) once called dad's AP a whore to her face. Much of the ire was class based (AP worked retail and had a GED) and assumed she set out to trap my dad. I only just recently found out that was actually a correct assumption. Her own marriage was failing and she had two little kids. After my dad knocked her up, she left her husband and my dad supported her through CC). I don't say any of this proudly. My dad basically got off much lighter in the Scarlet Letter department. Even my mom's family always treated him politely afterwards and he was a pallbearer when my other grandmother (mom's mom) died.

Your dad's partner was banned from his own mother's funeral?

Yep. The same aunt who called her a whore planned the funeral and called all the shots.

Wow. That's messed up.

I think I like your aunt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Affair partner I think

I'm so glad you clarified because I thought it meant Au Pair, and I was like, REALLY?? So many of you married your au pairs?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Affair partner I think

I'm so glad you clarified because I thought it meant Au Pair, and I was like, REALLY?? So many of you married your au pairs?!

The very first post says affair partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone please tell me what AP stands for? I've searched high and low, and can't figure it out! I'm usually pretty good at figuring out what acronyms stand for based on context but this has me stumped.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/2750.page (General Parenting Forum - the first forum you see on this site).

when I saw the headline I thought it was about marrying your aupair.