Bra on Christmas list.

[Anonymous]

My daughter is 11 and totally does not need a bra. That said, I got her a couple of those Hanes-type sports-bra like bras to wear under a couple of tips she has that are thin and/or light colored. She has started wearing them all the time because many of her friends wear/need bras. I just wanted her to feel comfortable and gave her the option to wear something under her clothes if she wanted.

There is no harm in getting something like that for a 9 year old if she wants it...?!?! Not sure why this is even a question. It's not like she's asking for strapless padded push-up from Victoria's Secret.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those that are moaning about this being on the tween/teen forum children from 8-12 are considered Tweens.

https://www.care.com/a/care-stages-how-does-my-tween-grow-ages-8-12-01251204

Oh, if care.com says an 8 yo is a tween, then by all means she must be!! 8 yo and 9 yo are kids, not tweens. They bear no resemblance to 10-12 yo.

And to the parent of the 11 yo -- if this 8 yo wants what your 11 yo wants, she likely will want a VS push-up bra by 11.

All you parents who think an 8 yo with no development needs a back-closure bra better be prepared for your middle schooler's texting and social media antics.

[Anonymous]

Ubykotex TWEEN range designed for girls aged 8 upwards.

http://courseweb.lis.illinois.edu/~crowley8/506tweens/Tween_Programming/Home.html

[Anonymous]

My DD got her period at 9. I certainly consider 8 and 9 yo tweens. She needed a bra at 8.

I don't see the issue with buying one if OPs DD wants to wear one. Seconding the suggestion for Justice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those that are moaning about this being on the tween/teen forum children from 8-12 are considered Tweens.

https://www.care.com/a/care-stages-how-does-my-tween-grow-ages-8-12-01251204

Oh, if care.com says an 8 yo is a tween, then by all means she must be!! 8 yo and 9 yo are kids, not tweens. They bear no resemblance to 10-12 yo.

And to the parent of the 11 yo -- if this 8 yo wants what your 11 yo wants, she likely will want a VS push-up bra by 11.

All you parents who think an 8 yo with no development needs a back-closure bra better be prepared for your middle schooler's texting and social media antics.

I am still waiting to hear why an over-the-head bra is fine for an 8-year-old with no development but a back-closure bra for an 8-year-old with no development is not only unacceptable but the first step on the road to juvenile delinquency. Those little hooks must be awfully powerful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those that are moaning about this being on the tween/teen forum children from 8-12 are considered Tweens.

https://www.care.com/a/care-stages-how-does-my-tween-grow-ages-8-12-01251204

Oh, if care.com says an 8 yo is a tween, then by all means she must be!! 8 yo and 9 yo are kids, not tweens. They bear no resemblance to 10-12 yo.

And to the parent of the 11 yo -- if this 8 yo wants what your 11 yo wants, she likely will want a VS push-up bra by 11.

All you parents who think an 8 yo with no development needs a back-closure bra better be prepared for your middle schooler's texting and social media antics.

What about pp's 9 yo in full-on puberty? I imagine she looked quite a bit like a 10-12 yo. You can't generalize-there is a huge range of normal development at this age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those that are moaning about this being on the tween/teen forum children from 8-12 are considered Tweens.

https://www.care.com/a/care-stages-how-does-my-tween-grow-ages-8-12-01251204

Oh, if care.com says an 8 yo is a tween, then by all means she must be!! 8 yo and 9 yo are kids, not tweens. They bear no resemblance to 10-12 yo.

And to the parent of the 11 yo -- if this 8 yo wants what your 11 yo wants, she likely will want a VS push-up bra by 11.

All you parents who think an 8 yo with no development needs a back-closure bra better be prepared for your middle schooler's texting and social media antics.

What about pp's 9 yo in full-on puberty? I imagine she looked quite a bit like a 10-12 yo. You can't generalize-there is a huge range of normal development at this age.

I got my period at 9 and wearing a bra at 8. The difference, at least to me, is the attitude and self-esteem. A child who is developing early *needs* a bra to support and feel better about herself, especially for gym class and recess. OPs daughter already has an over-the-head bra, she doesn't need anything more sophisticated, and she isn't developing.

A previous PP said something about celebrating growing up (or maybe it was in the thread about make up for an 11 year old?). I'm not in a hurry to make kids grow up faster, but I support, encourage and celebrate the milestones as they come. To me, getting the first bra is a rite of passage, something a girl does when she needs it. The same thing goes for the first period, the first time talking about a boy and all the other things that come with growing up. The more that children are encouraged to be who they are now, the less self-esteem issues they are. I don't advocate infantilizing a child, but I also don't advocate encouraging a child to grow up too soon.

By the way, at 9 years old I looked like I was 16. But mentally and emotionally I was still 9. There's no way that I would have wanted to make myself look older, I had enough issues with unwanted attention as it was. On the other hand, my younger sister watched what I went through and didn't wear a bra until she was 15. Our mother offered at 12 or 13, I think, even though she didn't need it, but she didn't want to draw attention either.

[Anonymous]

I just had a thought. The General thread is for birth to preschool. Older kids is elementary school. This is tweens and teens. So the PPs who think 8 and 9 year olds are tweens think that older kids refers to just (maybe 5) 6 and 7 year olds?