Bra on Christmas list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because she is 8 and has no breast development that necessitates a bra.

And why is this in the tweets and teens forum? An 8 yo is neither.

Why such a rush to grow up from daughter and mother??

Mry I've seen 9 year olds which OP's daughter nearly is be considered tweens elsewhere. I guess I don't see the harm in it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not get a bra for a girl who doesn't need one yet. I don't do Christmas, but if I did, maybe. I'd have mrs. Claus write your girl a note explaining that shell get a bra when her body dictates the need for one.

Okay but what if that's not until she's 16?
Maybe wearing a bra would help her feel more confident or part of her peers at age 11 when they are wearing bras would you refuse to get her one even if physically she didn't need it?

To me this is not a hill to die on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not get a bra for a girl who doesn't need one yet. I don't do Christmas, but if I did, maybe. I'd have mrs. Claus write your girl a note explaining that shell get a bra when her body dictates the need for one.

A body never dictates the need for a bra. There is no objective need for a bra. Girls and women of all sizes and ages have made it through life without a bra for millennia. So, when should a person get a bra? When the person wants a bra.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because she is 8 and has no breast development that necessitates a bra.

And why is this in the tweets and teens forum? An 8 yo is neither.

Why such a rush to grow up from daughter and mother??

She'll be 9 in a couple of months. So technically a tween.

Also, as a former girl (now aged, wise woman) tenderness in the breast bud area can form b/f the actual buds do. And a protective coating over the buds can be much appreciated. Probably akin to wearing a cup for boys.

Maybe it's a social thing. Girls develop physically at earlier ages now. Maybe she wants to fit in with her cohorts. I don't attach anything nefarious to wanting a bra. (And it will make a charming family anecdote years from now when Janie wanted a bra on her Christmas list.)

I don't see the harm in getting her a bra.

[Anonymous]

Just get her one, what's the big deal?
Justice has good bra designs for this age group.

[Anonymous]

Keep the Christmas list but no don't buy it as a Christmas present.

Can you imagine those gift opening pictures and how she will feel about his when she is 13. It's a dorky kid request on a Christmas list and she will realize it when she is older and wonder why as an adult you didn't.

If she wants a bra, buy her one on a normal shopping trip to the store.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because she is 8 and has no breast development that necessitates a bra.

And why is this in the tweets and teens forum? An 8 yo is neither.

Why such a rush to grow up from daughter and mother??

Where I come from, growing up is exciting and is to be celebrated. It sounds like you resist them growing up or think it's something to mourn. How peculiar.

[Anonymous]

It's hard and embarrassing for your daughter to ask for something like that. Clearly she thought asking Santa was easier and less embarrassing than asking you. Just do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's hard and embarrassing for your daughter to ask for something like that. Clearly she thought asking Santa was easier and less embarrassing than asking you. Just do it.

There's no reason for a child to be embarrassed about a bra if the parent has been talking to the child.

I'm of the camp that you get what you need. If you want something, but don't need it, you find a way to get it for yourself. An 8 year old who isn't starting to bud and who already has over-the-head bras (ie. one of several options which I would purchase for a girl starting to bud) doesn't need more bras, even if they are a different style.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's hard and embarrassing for your daughter to ask for something like that. Clearly she thought asking Santa was easier and less embarrassing than asking you. Just do it.

There's no reason for a child to be embarrassed about a bra if the parent has been talking to the child.

I'm of the camp that you get what you need. If you want something, but don't need it, you find a way to get it for yourself. An 8 year old who isn't starting to bud and who already has over-the-head bras (ie. one of several options which I would purchase for a girl starting to bud) doesn't need more bras, even if they are a different style.

Don't you see the irony? She already has the over the head bras which is just as useful to her as the kind she wants.

This has nothing to do with needs vs wants , and everything to do with an obsession to steer girls away from anything feminine and growing up.

[Anonymous]

For those that are moaning about this being on the tween/teen forum children from 8-12 are considered Tweens.

https://www.care.com/a/care-stages-how-does-my-tween-grow-ages-8-12-01251204

[Anonymous]

My this topic has brought out the nasty know it alls.
Many 6-8yr olds wear crop tops and in doing so helps when the time comes to move onto bras. I thought this was sweet that she put it on her list. Maybe she put it on there because she has begun to bud and using it as a way to let her mom know. A sort of a good way to start The talk.

[Anonymous]

I have an elder DS and a younger DD. She's been wearing his hand-me-down shirts forever. Boys clothing FTW!! It's amazing to me how sheer girls' items are!! I could totally see using leotards or undershirts of any kind---anything, bra-like or not----to help cover her little brown nipples.

None of this would bother me in the least.

I do think a special, before Xmas package is warranted. She'll appreciate the discretion later. All of the charm of the tale without any humiliation come Xmas morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those that are moaning about this being on the tween/teen forum children from 8-12 are considered Tweens.

https://www.care.com/a/care-stages-how-does-my-tween-grow-ages-8-12-01251204

There's a huge difference between an 8 year old and a 12 year old.

As to care.com, every site groups ages differently. If you look at the profiles, ages are 0-1, 2-3, 4-6, 7-10 and 11+.

Personally I group like this:
birth-starting to walk: infant
walking to 2.5/3: toddler
2.5/3-5: preschool (maybe kindergarten)
6-9: elementary
10-12: tween
13+: teen

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because she is 8 and has no breast development that necessitates a bra.

And why is this in the tweets and teens forum? An 8 yo is neither.

Why such a rush to grow up from daughter and mother??

Where I come from, growing up is exciting and is to be celebrated. It sounds like you resist them growing up or think it's something to mourn. How peculiar.

This! People will find a way to get riled up over anything.