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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For those that are moaning about this being on the tween/teen forum children from 8-12 are considered Tweens.
 
https://www.care.com/a/care-stages-how-does-my-tween-grow-ages-8-12-01251204

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Oh, if care.com says an 8 yo is a tween, then by all means she must be!! :roll:[b] 8 yo and 9 yo are kids, not tweens.  They bear no resemblance to 10-12 yo.  [/b]

And to the parent of the 11 yo -- if this 8 yo wants what your 11 yo wants, she likely will want a VS push-up bra by 11.

All you parents who think an 8 yo with no development needs a back-closure bra better be prepared for your middle schooler's texting and social media antics.[/quote]

What about pp's 9 yo in full-on puberty? I imagine she looked quite a bit like a 10-12 yo. You can't generalize-there is a huge range of normal development at this age.[/quote]

I got my period at 9 and wearing a bra at 8.  The difference, at least to me, is the attitude and self-esteem.  A child who is developing early *needs* a bra to support and feel better about herself, especially for gym class and recess.  OPs daughter already has an over-the-head bra, she doesn't need anything more sophisticated, and she isn't developing.

A previous PP said something about celebrating growing up (or maybe it was in the thread about make up for an 11 year old?).  I'm not in a hurry to make kids grow up faster, but I support, encourage and celebrate the milestones as they come.  To me, getting the first bra is a rite of passage, something a girl does when she needs it.  The same thing goes for the first period, the first time talking about a boy and all the other things that come with growing up.  The more that children are encouraged to be who they are now, the less self-esteem issues they are.  I don't advocate infantilizing a child, but I also don't advocate encouraging a child to grow up too soon.

By the way, at 9 years old I looked like I was 16.  But mentally and emotionally I was still 9.  There's no way that I would have wanted to make myself look older, I had enough issues with unwanted attention as it was.  On the other hand, my younger sister watched what I went through and didn't wear a bra until she was 15.  Our mother offered at 12 or 13, I think, even though she didn't need it, but she didn't want to draw attention either.[/quote]

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