Married female: jealous of AP's wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been in a long term affair with a coworker for a long time. Even though I'm younger and in better shape that my AP's wife, I'm still jealous of her! I know she's a victim in all of this but I still feel that way and have fantasize of telling her about my relationship with her husband. Just fantasy and I would never ever do that. I wonder if it's normal to feel that way.

Why are you still married? If you want to tell it means you have some fantasy that he is the one and everything would be great if you could just be married to each other. I've had that fantasy and know it well.

No, you can't tell her. It may or may not break up the marriage, but it could kill your career because word WOULD get back to work. The gossip will follow you wherever you go.

You need to be with someone who is free to be with you. Apparently, your husband doesn't fit the bill. Figure out why that is and whether it can be repaired. Maybe it can't be, but this guy is not a solution. Also, at some point you will get to the place in the affair where it will end or his failure to leave her will become intolerable, and then you will be miserable at work. Trust me on that.

Signed,
Left husband, then had affair, cut off affair, then left job, affair rekindled but still haven't told her and am trying to cut off affair for good.

[Anonymous]

To the OP- don't you feel like crap about yourself. Why are you doing something unethical, deceitful, extremely hurtful and just plain BAD. You're worried about being jealous of the wife. You should be worried about your soul and conscious and end this POS behavior.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps you feel bad because you know your moral character is much lower than that of his wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the OP- don't you feel like crap about yourself. Why are you doing something unethical, deceitful, extremely hurtful and just plain BAD. You're worried about being jealous of the wife. You should be worried about your soul and conscious and end this POS behavior.

I know I should but not really as much as you would think. Just being honest here.

[Anonymous]

Your feelings are normal op. My Ap's wife found out about us a couple of years ago.... she didn't leave. In fact she put a tracker on his car to make sure he didn't see me. When he was headed my way she would call and scream her head off.
I am jealous that he goes home to her, because I love him.

[Anonymous]

For the life of me I don't know why you women put yourselves through this for a man who isn't even 10% yours.
If I'm going to be in my feelings, stressing etc. The man is going to be 100% mine in always. Otherwise it's not worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the life of me I don't know why you women put yourselves through this for a man who isn't even 10% yours.
If I'm going to be in my feelings, stressing etc. The man is going to be 100% mine in always. Otherwise it's not worth it.

Because you really can't help who you fall in love with....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the life of me I don't know why you women put yourselves through this for a man who isn't even 10% yours.
If I'm going to be in my feelings, stressing etc. The man is going to be 100% mine in always. Otherwise it's not worth it.

Because you really can't help who you fall in love with....

I also think that's crap.
You can.
Love= time spent.
You choose who you spend time with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the life of me I don't know why you women put yourselves through this for a man who isn't even 10% yours.
If I'm going to be in my feelings, stressing etc. The man is going to be 100% mine in always. Otherwise it's not worth it.

Because you really can't help who you fall in love with....

[phone]

I'm the Pp in love with her Ap. I tried to break it off. Hopefully one day I'll move on

[Anonymous]

You have every right to be jealous of his wife.

Because she is the one who he has chosen to remain with throughout these past two years. She is the one who shares a home, a bed with him every day and night.

And she is the one who ultimately has his heart.

I would be envious too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

So true. How many men are going to get an AP in bed by telling them that they truly and deeply love their spouses, will never leave their wife, and adore their kids and family life? It's not quite as compelling a story to get you into bed. Some affairs do lead to love and happiness, but you'd be hard pressed to find cheating guys that would tell you anything other than some sob story about their broken marriage.

If they truly and deeply loved their spouses, they would not be sleeping around in the first place would they? It would not be a risk worth taking....

Another poster pointing out that affairs are most frequently crimes of opportunity. Thus the statistic that most married men in affairs say they are happy and have good marriages.

[Anonymous]

You should feel jealous. She is clearly way above a home wrecking cunt such as yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have every right to be jealous of his wife.

Because she is the one who he has chosen to remain with throughout these past two years. She is the one who shares a home, a bed with him every day and night.

And she is the one who ultimately has his heart.

I would be envious too.

Where did OP say 2 years? Doesn't sound like the wife has his heart. When someone had my heart I wasn't out fucking other people. OP said this was long term. Some prize the wife has. He comes home to kiss his wife after another woman has been sitting on his face.

[Anonymous]

so the slutty whore is jealous because she is in a relationship with a person with no character or integrity who goes home to his wife?

happy holidays

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