Pregnant and husband is calling me lazy

[Anonymous]

He's being an asshole. You are carrying HIS child, for crying out loud. Ignore him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry that I don't recall where but I remember reading that the energy expenditure while pregnant is the equivalent of running a marathon every day.

Tell your husband to take a flying leap!

No kidding?! Oh hell, no wonder I was so damn tired, and I'm no marathon runner.

I had a coworker who was pregnant with her first. I was pregnant with my second. I tried to explain to the coworker how tired she was going to be, tired like you've never felt before, not even like the all-nighters you may have pulled in HS or college, that no words can explain how tired she'd be. She was like "uh-huh, yea, i know". Then wham, she got hit. She said, "yea, you were right. No amount of explaining could really express the level of exhaustion." Yep.

Yeah if this was true people would be losing weight their whole pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry that I don't recall where but I remember reading that the energy expenditure while pregnant is the equivalent of running a marathon every day.

Tell your husband to take a flying leap!

No kidding?! Oh hell, no wonder I was so damn tired, and I'm no marathon runner.

I had a coworker who was pregnant with her first. I was pregnant with my second. I tried to explain to the coworker how tired she was going to be, tired like you've never felt before, not even like the all-nighters you may have pulled in HS or college, that no words can explain how tired she'd be. She was like "uh-huh, yea, i know". Then wham, she got hit. She said, "yea, you were right. No amount of explaining could really express the level of exhaustion." Yep.

Yeah if this was true people would be losing weight their whole pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry that I don't recall where but I remember reading that the energy expenditure while pregnant is the equivalent of running a marathon every day.

Tell your husband to take a flying leap!

I don't buy that for a second...I'd love to see the original source, but I doubt it would be anything credible. ]

[Anonymous]

During early pregnancy, you are literally growing a new organ--the placenta. Your metabolic rate increases. You also have higher levels of progesterone, which makes you tired. Your blood pressure drops. All medical advice is that you should rest, because your body is using a great deal of energy.

I used to come home from work and immediately fall asleep until the next morning. I physically could not do any more. If my husband had given me grief about not cooking and doing housework, I would probably have left him, except that I couldn't drag myself off the couch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:During early pregnancy, you are literally growing a new organ--the placenta. Your metabolic rate increases. You also have higher levels of progesterone, which makes you tired. Your blood pressure drops. All medical advice is that you should rest, because your body is using a great deal of energy.

I used to come home from work and immediately fall asleep until the next morning. I physically could not do any more. If my husband had given me grief about not cooking and doing housework, I would probably have left him, except that I couldn't drag myself off the couch.

+1000 perfect post

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry that you are dealing with this, OP. I was there, and it is not fun. I do not remember this level of exhaustion, but I had really bad morning sickness. My ex (yeah...) used to call me fat, told me I should suck it up, and all of the same things you're dealing with.

For once, I needed some help. And when push came to shove, he was not able to rise to the occasion. I took care of everything and suddenly, there were certain things that had to give. He was awful -- and most certainly got worse after the baby was born. We did not recover. This was not evident before I was pregnant (although we had plenty of other issues that I also did not recognize). The baby was planned and wanted, I just had no idea what a baby my ex was, until he was not getting all of my time and attention. Sorry, I was growing and then caring for another human being. The conversation you described? BTDT.

You know your DH better than any of us. My ex knew the facts, he just could not deal with them in reality. If educating your DH is all he needs, that is good news!

[Anonymous]

When my wife gets on me for napping and wants me to do chores, I tell her, "BACK THE FUCK OFF! I'm producing 100 *million* sperm a day." She just can't know what that's like.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Some people are just assholes. He's being insensitive. Is he good to you otherwise? He might be building up resentment now. I'd be careful. Not to be an insensitive jerk, but my ex was like this. And we're exes now for many reasons, including how badly he treated me during pregnancy and after birth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my wife gets on me for napping and wants me to do chores, I tell her, "BACK THE FUCK OFF! I'm producing 100 *million* sperm a day." She just can't know what that's like.

LOL +1

[Anonymous]

Regardless of the husbands reasons for his actions, your relationship seems like it could really benefit from couples counseling. If you want to stay together for the long haul, get on top of it now.
It's better to do preventative maintenance on something that try to fix it after its already broken. I don't agree with all the overzealous people calling your husband an asshole right off the bat. I'm not saying what he is doing is right in any way, but if he were really an asshole you would have known long before the pregnancy in which case this post would not exist. This is probably stemming from some other underlying issue and its up to both of you to figure out what that is.

[Anonymous]

I gained 60 pounds, had a 10 pound baby, threw up morning noon and night and had 2 other kids to look after during my last pregnancy. If my husband told me to suck it up during that time I think I would be a widow today.

Your husband IS an asshole. Tell him to kiss your ass and leave if you bother him.

[Anonymous]

Executive moms are out in force today

[Anonymous]

PS: This might happen again during perimenopause.

I'm 45 and the two days before my period hits, I have to sleep for 13 straight hours every night. Am I physically exerting myself? No, but my hormones turn me into Sleeping Menopausal Beauty for two days every month.

So your husband needs to wake the F up now, while you power the F down and get your needed rest. His reward will be a wife who doesn't read him the hormonal riot act. (Seriously, dude, you do not want to go there.)

[Anonymous]

What kind of insane expectations is he going to have at 16 weeks? 28? What about after the baby is born? You need some serious professional help ASAP. And I'm sorry, but if you're referring to him as "Asshole" I agree things don't look good. Make sure you're prepared to be a single mom in case he refuses to grow up...