Pregnant and husband is calling me lazy

[Anonymous]

The problem with googling pregnancy experiences is everyone's experience is different. I never even had any morning sickness.

The problem is not him not respecting that you are pregnant and don't want to go to the gym. It's him not respecting that you are an ADULT and don't want to go to a gym.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem is not him not respecting that you are pregnant and don't want to go to the gym. It's him not respecting that you are an ADULT and don't want to go to a gym.

WELL SAID!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my wife gets on me for napping and wants me to do chores, I tell her, "BACK THE FUCK OFF! I'm producing 100 *million* sperm a day." She just can't know what that's like.

Except the million sperms don't keep growing inside you, sucking the life out of you, kicking your gut, and then you have to push the 8lber out of a small orifice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:but i'm so tired all the time. When i come home from work all i want to do is sit on the couch and watch TV. He wants me to clean, cook and go to the gym, like i did up until about 2 weeks ago. I freaked out on him and now we aren't talking. He so doesn't get it!! He's thinks i need to suck it up!

This is foreshadowing ......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PS: This might happen again during perimenopause.

I'm 45 and the two days before my period hits, I have to sleep for 13 straight hours every night. Am I physically exerting myself? No, but my hormones turn me into Sleeping Menopausal Beauty for two days every month.

So your husband needs to wake the F up now, while you power the F down and get your needed rest. His reward will be a wife who doesn't read him the hormonal riot act. (Seriously, dude, you do not want to go there.)

+1 I get this way, too, during that time of the month. So, basically, every month, for a couple of days, I'm exhausted and have a migraine, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem with googling pregnancy experiences is everyone's experience is different. I never even had any morning sickness.

The problem is not him not respecting that you are pregnant and don't want to go to the gym. It's him not respecting that you are an ADULT and don't want to go to a gym.

The problem is he's NOT even googling stuff. He actually told me to stop googling stuff on my phone because he thinks I'm too worried.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my wife gets on me for napping and wants me to do chores, I tell her, "BACK THE FUCK OFF! I'm producing 100 *million* sperm a day." She just can't know what that's like.

Except the million sperms don't keep growing inside you, sucking the life out of you, kicking your gut, and then you have to push the 8lber out of a small orifice.

You need to STFU

~ OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my wife gets on me for napping and wants me to do chores, I tell her, "BACK THE FUCK OFF! I'm producing 100 *million* sperm a day." She just can't know what that's like.

Except the million sperms don't keep growing inside you, sucking the life out of you, kicking your gut, and then you have to push the 8lber out of a small orifice.

Man here.

The mapper quoted is a ducking meathead.

[Anonymous]

OP, the fatigue in the first tri can be overwhelming...in my most recent pregnancy it was all I could do to work, and then fall asleep on the sofa by 6!

It does ease up typically by second tri, but that's not really the point here-point is, dh is an idiot and you defenitely need to stand up to him. Don't accept his verbal crap. Too bad if his widdle feelings are hurt-you don't want to go to a stinky gym in the first tri? Too bad so sad for him. I would have hurled from the smells.

[Anonymous]

How old is he??

He is obviously being a jerk to you now...Imagine once the baby arrives, he will be a huge jerk. Tenfold.

I say you can do better by yourself.

Do you have close family or friends that can help you with the new baby? Because if you stay with this man, your husband...You are basically sealing a deal to be miserable the rest of your life.

Sadly, your baby will also be included in this raw deal.

Leave this rat. Stat. (No, that is not supposed to be a tongue-twister btw.)

[Anonymous]

I hope all you exhausted women don't have second kids! Will you just never see your firstborn again because you fall asleep the second you get home from work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope all you exhausted women don't have second kids! Will you just never see your firstborn again because you fall asleep the second you get home from work?

Primal difference between taking care of your child and going to the gym. Going to the gym takes a lot more effort, too, than making a pbj sandwich or easy dinner for a child, or sitting with your child and reading a book.

My DH took care of our DC#1 when I was exhausted with my DC#2 and working, but I didn't ignore DC#1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my wife gets on me for napping and wants me to do chores, I tell her, "BACK THE FUCK OFF! I'm producing 100 *million* sperm a day." She just can't know what that's like.

Except the million sperms don't keep growing inside you, sucking the life out of you, kicking your gut, and then you have to push the 8lber out of a small orifice.

Well, they aren't 8 pounds, but they do grow inside (a little lower than the gut) and demand to be released. Then I want to take a nap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry that I don't recall where but I remember reading that the energy expenditure while pregnant is the equivalent of running a marathon every day.

Tell your husband to take a flying leap!

I don't buy that for a second...I'd love to see the original source, but I doubt it would be anything credible. ]

I remember coming home from work and just lying on the couch. I couldn't even move. Just. So. Tired.

I also heard the marathon comparison. While this source might not be credible enough for you:

"Pregnancy is sort of like climbing a mountain or running a marathon (without having trained) while carrying a backpack that weighs a little more every day. In other words, it's hard work! During the first trimester of pregnancy, a huge amount of energy goes into building a life-support system for your baby (namely the placenta) – which is why you might be feeling extra pooped around week 9. What's more, your body's metabolism has increased significantly while your blood sugar and blood pressure tend to be lower. Also to blame: All that mood upheaval. Riding the emotional roller coaster of pregnancy can be exhausting."

http://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/symptoms-and-solutions/pregnancy-fatigue.aspx

[Anonymous]

Calling you names is out of line.

Was going to the gym your thing that you two did together? He may not be on his game enough to suggest new things you can do together, but maybe that's why he's pushing to go to the gym now. Maybe you two can take a walk together, or at the very least find a show on TV you both like, so that you're still doing something together.

As for cooking and cleaning, these are things that need to be done. You probably don't have to scrub baseboards right this second, but you do need to put your plate in the dishwasher, and pick your socks up off the floor--the basics. Are you doing the basics? If so, OK. If not, start doing them. Are you sitting on the couch, giving him to-do lists while you google pregnancy symptoms, and post on DCUM? Probably not the best thing for your relationship.